How do you actually spin plates during lockdown?

[jamesfromhouston]

Hey fellow DJs.

I'm quite new to SS and many of the teachings taught here. I've read much about plate spinning and it's overall importance. At the same time, I've also read a lot from other DJs here about how texting/IMing/OLD is a fool's game. Girls get tons of attention online and by chatting with them, we are just validating them and being one in a million of the simply attention giving guys. It seems the general consensus here is no to online game/chatting.

I have 2 questions, I could not find threads on it:

1) recently I've moved somewhere else with a serious lockdown. During lockdown where we can't really go out. It's hard to meet up, in such an instance is it viable to chat? How should it be done?

2) more generally, aside from covid, where does chatting/texting fit within the whole concept of spinning plates? I can see it would be logistically difficult to constantly meet up to keep those plates spinning. It's time consuming. How exactly do we spin plates without meetups? In other words, is texting or chatting ever viable? If so how should it be done?

I am sorry if these are silly questions. This is still very new to me.

I appreciate your feedback.

James

 

[B80]

I'll leave others to answer your question, but like the profile pic - listened to him a lot over the years...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Where are people still in lockdown? The US is open for business

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Where are people still in lockdown? The US is open for business

I've moved abroad for work recently. So yes, where I'm at, there's current lockdown measures. But yeah, generally, aside from this where does texting/chatting fit overall in plate spinning. How to approach it best?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've moved abroad for work recently. So yes, where I'm at, there's current lockdown measures. But yeah, generally, aside from this where does texting/chatting fit overall in plate spinning. How to approach it best?

If you can't meet for a long period of time it is kind of a waste of time. The best scenario would be to start chatting a week or so prior to lockdown ending and then quickly invite out

 

[jamesfromhouston]

If you can't meet for a long period of time it is kind of a waste of time. The best scenario would be to start chatting a week or so prior to lockdown ending and then quickly invite out

Thanks for the reply. So basically if it's logistically not possible to meet for ahwile. There's no point in texting/chatting?

I've always wondered whether texting and chatting can help build IL.

 

[SW15]

Houston, TX is not still in lockdown. It doesn't mean things are back to normal yet but I'm seeing signs of normalcy in my city. Houston is likely seeing them. In fact, it is happening faster than I thought.

I have had sex with multiple women in 2020 and 2021, but all the women I've had sex with since the pandemic started were women I had sex with prior to the onset of the pandemic.

 

[RangerMIke]

Truth is I didn't even try. Now that things are opening up again, well I'm getting out more. I never really met too many women during the last 15 months. I was too busy working 12 hour days, 7 days a week, keeping my business afloat and taking care of my kids. I honestly didn't have time for women.

But what was happening, is a few women I'd dated in the past would come around, normally I don't even try to re-heat leftovers, but they were actually making it pretty easy. But there was a period of about 5 months where I was only seeing one woman on a regular basis, and this woman is pretty much like me, she had her own life, own kids, own business she was busy with, and we would just get together for sex once or twice a week. She's been around off and on for 4 years now, and is more of a FWB, and we started seeing each other more regularly during the shut down.

 

[Jor-El]

Thanks for the reply. So basically if it's logistically not possible to meet for ahwile. There's no point in texting/chatting?

I've always wondered whether texting and chatting can help build IL.

The consensus opinion on here seems to be to much chatting/texting leads to,well,nothing.Boredom,misunderstandings,roads to nowhere.In my experience,and having done this when i was no wiser,its true.You dont wanna be texting boring pointless crap back and forth all day every day,thats more of a passion killer than a fart in a lift

 

[bat soup]

The consensus opinion on here seems to be to much chatting/texting leads to,well,nothing.Boredom,misunderstandings,roads to nowhere.In my experience,and having done this when i was no wiser,its true.You dont wanna be texting boring pointless crap back and forth all day every day,thats more of a passion killer than a fart in a lift

Agreed. I've also experienced this several times. Chit chat is a generally a waste of time and a lot of women want to chit chat but have no intention of ever meeting up.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Thanks for all the responses here guys.

Yes it seems the consensus here is no texting as a means of spinning plates. Even if logistic does not permit a meet up. This seems very countertuitive to me because it seems logical to text/chat to maintain a form of contact, or convey yourself across to the other person. Yet I understand the message from SS and fellow DJs is it just leads to boredom. And I need to unlearn some of these things.

So how does one maintain Interest Levels between meet ups? Just silence until meet ups? Any tips?

 

[Vantagepoint34]

Thanks for all the responses here guys.

Yes it seems the consensus here is no texting as a means of spinning plates. Even if logistic does not permit a meet up. This seems very countertuitive to me because it seems logical to text/chat to maintain a form of contact, or convey yourself across to the other person. Yet I understand the message from SS and fellow DJs is it just leads to boredom. And I need to unlearn some of these things.

So how does one maintain Interest Levels between meet ups? Just silence until meet ups? Any tips?

I have a great way to look at it. First to not put yourself as a pick up artist but as a get this "observant comedian" Now a comedian is an observant person who makes money at shows. The creative process is something like from school called brain storming. You get a pen and paper you brain storm jokes or ideas. From there you train yourself to pick up on cues or hints. A hint you can pick up is like if you can get close enough to a girl like for example setting up for netflix and chill except you outright "talk dirty" in her ear about what you want to do to her. When talking dirty is an opportunity to pick up on cues which if you don't know is the first six months in a relationship. In the first six months if you can pick up cues and pass all the tests. The girl is yours for you to gauge from then on. So to conlclude always get the home phone number. Two set up the first dates yes it's cliche to wait two weeks but IL is a process so two week wait between dates. Phone calls can lead to talking or possible closing for relationship. Perfect date example is setting up on a wed. or thurs. for movie and dinner. If in the first six months of interactions is how you decide if you'll keep or next the girl. Finally doing this avoids the friendzone which texting or phone calls can leave you in an LTR in a friendzone arrangement (which is too common in the modern world) Following process like checking for baggage or checking off red flags also is a way to gauge IL during the 6 month trial period. It's up to you DJ...

 

[Jor-El]

Thanks for all the responses here guys.

Yes it seems the consensus here is no texting as a means of spinning plates.

So how does one maintain Interest Levels between meet ups? Just silence until meet ups? Any tips?

I cant answer the last point,its the holy grail because every girl is different,the one that "silence/low contact" works perfectly with turns another off...so its tricky,there isnt a cookie cutter one size fits all approach thats correct in every instance,but as a rule,cut down on the texting,but do remember its not "no texting,ever,under any circumstance" its just doing it to much,the frequency of which ul have to decide for your self