Old Balls is Jumping In the Water

[Old Balls]

Hello guys, my name is Old Balls. This is my first post on SS. I feel like it is my first day at a new school, so please allow me to introduce myself.

I have lurked a bit for the past few months, reading the DJ Bible and various other resources provided on the site, as well as having some real-world experience, so I’m not coming in uneducated and ignorant (for the most part).

My purpose(s) for joining the site is several-fold. I feel like I need a peer group that will hold me accountable while helping me through some DJ related events as they come about on my journey to better myself in life and with the ladies. Also, maybe I can help provide some insight of my own along the way.


A bit about Old Balls:

I am a 45 yr old white man who has always been considered at least somewhat attractive to the ladies. I am 6’2” 200 lbs (trying to cut down a bit), I am a gym goer but not a meathead. I have an athletic body from being an athlete all my life. I have a very short hairstyle with slight balding area on the crown (a source of insecurity). Often I am told I look like early 30’s and when my true age is revealed, it is usually met with a gasp and a “No way!” or "Ewww, you are my parents age!" lol.

I am more of a lone-wolf type of guy who doesn’t have a group of friends to go out with as I am in a new town (middle USA bible belt, pop. 1 million or so). Day game is how I choose to meet the ladies, however, I still suffer from AA most of the time. I do occasionally bite the bullet and cold/warm approach. Never married, as most of my relationships go sour at around the 9 month mark without fail. Usually I am the one who gets withdrawn and breaks it off. I am naturally drawn to the younger ladies in their 20’s (hence, the insecurity of my balding spot).

I am a product of a single mother household and was taught to respect women in the most blue-pilled fashion possible, so I am naturally the dreaded “nice guy”. My father was a player, who knocked up my mother on the very night his other girlfriend was having a child in the hospital alone lol. He was obviously not around to teach me his player ways. I still have some blue-pill tendencies in which I am attempting to eradicate, but it is more easily said than done.

I won’t include any of my issues I am facing in this post, as I just want to get the introduction out of the way first, as well as having a documented reference point of my “statistics” for those who ask for them in the future. I am looking forward to interacting with the SS community!


Cheers!

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Being raised by a single mother means you are better equipped to deal with manipulative women and manipulate them, you are manipulating yourself and us by claiming you are a blue pill, I have never met a blue pill raised by a single mother... Off to a good start in my books so far, although most men here won't agree with me, as we're not supposed to manipulate apparently.

How are your interactions with men? Did you have a father figure? I would ask strong or weak but this isnt really a fair question for a young man, but your older so you might have a better idea

 

[Visionist]

I would buy your father a beer.

 

[Old Balls]

Being raised by a single mother means you are better equipped to deal with manipulative women and manipulate them, you are manipulating yourself and us by claiming you are a blue pill, I have never met a blue pill raised by a single mother... Off to a good start in my books so far, although most men here won't agree with me, as we're not supposed to manipulate apparently.

How are your interactions with men? Did you have a father figure? I would ask strong or weak but this isnt really a fair question for a young man, but your older so you might have a better idea

Maybe I am misunderstanding the meaning of blue-pill, as I am still trying to figure out all the lingo. I was taught in a nutshell that women are delicate little princesses that need to be treated with utmost respect and manners regardless of who they really are. This was pounded into my malleable little brain by both my mother and her 2 sisters and grandmother haha gasp! Throughout my school days, I was taught to tell a girl my true feelings (again, gasp!) and to cater and bend to her every need and want (gasp again!). Needless to say, the friendzone was my happy place. Care to take a guess on how many times I was manipulated haha.

You are correct that I was exposed to and eventually recognized female manipulation for what it is. Did I manipulate in return? If being the nice guy to try to get what I wanted, then hell yes. Not gonna lie, my looks did get me in some britches however. I am not against manipulation, as this seems to be the gold standard for the ladies. So eye for an eye, so to speak. I just don't want to manipulate using the nice guy tactics.

I do interact quite well with men, as I am considered a "cool" guy with masculine interests. I'm not a confrontational guy, but not a doormat either. My father figure was the complete opposite of me. I was a free spirit growing up, and he was having one of that. I was used to running around freely before he came onto the scene. He was overbearing and very strict with a heavy hand. Maybe that was what I needed at the time, but I feel it totally changed my personality. I was used to freely speaking my mind, but again he was having none of that. My freedom was usually met with an ass kicking, so I shut down and retreated into introvertism.

 

[RickTheToad]

@Old Balls, you can always opt for scrotum rejuvenation surgery to help with your old balls if you wish.

 

[RickTheToad]

Love your screen name.

Please consider adding an avatar.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Love your screen name.

Please consider adding an avatar.

He's got a ball in his as is..

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Maybe I am misunderstanding the meaning of blue-pill, as I am still trying to figure out all the lingo. I was taught in a nutshell that women are delicate little princesses that need to be treated with utmost respect and manners regardless of who they really are. This was pounded into my malleable little brain by both my mother and her 2 sisters and grandmother haha gasp! Throughout my school days, I was taught to tell a girl my true feelings (again, gasp!) and to cater and bend to her every need and want (gasp again!). Needless to say, the friendzone was my happy place. Care to take a guess on how many times I was manipulated haha.

You are correct that I was exposed to and eventually recognized female manipulation for what it is. Did I manipulate in return? If being the nice guy to try to get what I wanted, then hell yes. Not gonna lie, my looks did get me in some britches however. I am not against manipulation, as this seems to be the gold standard for the ladies. So eye for an eye, so to speak. I just don't want to manipulate using the nice guy tactics.

I do interact quite well with men, as I am considered a "cool" guy with masculine interests. I'm not a confrontational guy, but not a doormat either. My father figure was the complete opposite of me. I was a free spirit growing up, and he was having one of that. I was used to running around freely before he came onto the scene. He was overbearing and very strict with a heavy hand. Maybe that was what I needed at the time, but I feel it totally changed my personality. I was used to freely speaking my mind, but again he was having none of that. My freedom was usually met with an ass kicking, so I shut down and retreated into introvertism.

Women your age are going to be hard to snag, they want to go sit down and have a beer with all your friends, they want to belong to a community and this seems to be in direct conflict with what you want, although you have probably recognized this and are here to see what's the lowest appropriate age you can go to?

Women your age, even your own family, will hate on you and hate on any younger woman you date, even if your not compatible she will try to make an example out of you, it's what they do and they don't ever get over it.

 

[Old Balls]

Women your age are going to be hard to snag, they want to go sit down and have a beer with all your friends, they want to belong to a community and this seems to be in direct conflict with what you want, although you have probably recognized this and are here to see what's the lowest appropriate age you can go to?

Women your age, even your own family, will hate on you and hate on any younger woman you date, even if your not compatible she will try to make an example out of you, it's what they do and they don't ever get over it.

Hey BANDIT, I appreciate your attention. It seems like you are helping me think through some things, which is a big reason why I'm here.

Honestly, snagging (not necessarily keeping) women my age are like shooting fish in a barrel. I now find myself doing the very thing that the hot young girls do, avoiding eye contact at all costs with anything that doesn't give me a rise in the little heartbeat down below. This can't be good for my overall social wellbeing however. There was a time when I would go on dates with women my age, and for the most part they were the hardest ones to date because they wanted to sink their claws in as deep as possible as soon as possible. You hit the nail on the head, when they find out I wasn't a sure thing and got attention from the younger ladies, the fangs would come out.

I will say that I don't do all that well in the long run with the high-quality (if there's such a thing) ladies my age. This is partly due to to the fact that I am not financially swimming in it (another reason I'm here). Also, I'm more of a man-child than a refined, well put together man of stature. Probably why I prefer the younger ladies. I like silly feminine energy, not beat down saggy energy.

And to address the point on having beers with my friends, I have found this to be an issue at times. I usually just say that all of my good friends are in another state (which is true) and this can be seen as "what a loser, he really has no friends". A chink in the armor for sure, but you are also correct this is not what I want anyway.

I also know that my time with the ladies in their 20's is fleeting. They have options. I tend to fit into those options with the more open-minded ones (few and far between), but for a short amount of time. Which is fine. The herd animal "ewww, I didn't go to high school with him" one's not so much. Which is also fine. I do try to push the envelope as far as age is concerned, keeping it legal of course lol.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Welcome to the forum. It's good that you have come here and also begun to see things for the way they are. We are always happy to provide advice to specific questions, especially to those who implement the advice.

 

[Old Balls]

Welcome to the forum. It's good that you have come here and also begun to see things for the way they are. We are always happy to provide advice to specific questions, especially to those who implement the advice.

Thanks oldman, I'm looking forward to slaying some dragons with you guys

 

[Lookatu]

Welcome Old Balls.

I hope you find what you're looking for. Just be mindful at 46, you don't have the luxury of time that some of these other cats have on here.

Also, you might want to search old posts as there's a lot of golden nuggets there. More so I'd say compared to a lot of recent posts lately.

Realize as men, we generally hit a soft wall in our early 40's to mid 40's and another harder wall closer to 50. Use your time wisely.

 

[Old Balls]

Welcome Old Balls.

I hope you find what you're looking for. Just be mindful at 46, you don't have the luxury of time that some of these other cats have on here.

Also, you might want to search old posts as there's a lot of golden nuggets there. More so I'd say compared to a lot of recent posts lately.

Realize as men, we generally hit a soft wall in our early 40's to mid 40's and another harder wall closer to 50. Use your time wisely.

Thanks for the welcome Lookatu, as well as for the reality check.

Yeah, I've been staring down the wall hoping it will crumble before I do. I'm not sure I will win this battle haha.

 

[Poonstra]

Welcome Old Balls