I don't think you're asking the right questions. It's not a matter of important or not, it's a matter of your preference and her preference. If you don't want to give then you don't, but do not expect that your way is objectively the right way and that every woman should be fine with that. Not everyone will, some will, some won't.
If you enjoy it then it's not pedestalizing, if you do it despite not liking it then it is.
So if you don't like it then that's simply something you need to filter for. You're then looking for a woman who doesn't need or desire you to perform that act. If you also want to receive oral along with not giving it then you can expect that your options are further limited, as it is with every added criteria.
I personally enjoy making a woman scream in ecstasy by giving oral, but that's me. Just like some women want it to be a part of sex while others don't, men are the same. Some want it, some do not. All you can do is find someone who's compatible.