Men Who Cold Approach Should Be Proud

[firstbornunicorn]

I guess. But it really demoralized me. I assumed she'd lose interest once she saw that was all I had going for me. I'm not rich, not social, but I can approach. So I figured it was more trouble than it was worth. I do hope I can make it work for me but from what I understand of women and social interactions. I don't think I have what it takes for cold approach to work.

so you basically told her why she shouldn't **** you instead of letting her figure it out for herself? This is a low self-value thing.

 

[SargeMaximus]

so you basically told her why she shouldn't **** you instead of letting her figure it out for herself? This is a low self-value thing.

I never said that. I just didn’t text her and she didn’t text me. What I wrote is why I don’t approach anymore. I never told a girl she shouldn’t **** me wtf dude

 

[SW15]

Yeah I had an instadate with a girl who had a bf, and I had a date with an 18 year old who seemed more curious about me because I had approached her rather than attracted to me. Like, I got the feeling she only went out with me because she wanted to see what was up with me not because she was attracted.

The Instadate was a good thing. When you get a woman with a bf out, you have a quick window to demonstrate your superiority as a option.

The 18 year old didn't have much interest in general as you describe it.

They know it takes some bravery to approach, so she gives you props for that - and first impressions do count for a LOT with women. She'll tick the mental 'No!' box very quickly if you don't come across well right from the start.

I have not seen that over time. Women I cold approach aren't treating me much better than women from swipe apps despite the fact I have had the guts to cold approach.

 

[SargeMaximus]

The Instadate was a good thing. When you get a woman with a bf out, you have a quick window to demonstrate your superiority as a option.

The 18 year old didn't have much interest in general as you describe it.

yes I know. Remember this was years ago. I don’t approach anymore

 

[coyote_astro]

Yes indeed. Even though I've been using these OLD apps a lot during the pandemic, it made realize how nothing trumps real life interaction.
And cold approach is the most bold version of all. I like this video by Todd:

 

[SW15]

yes I know. Remember this was years ago. I don’t approach anymore

You must approach.

Yes indeed. Even though I've been using these OLD apps a lot during the pandemic, it made realize how nothing trumps real life interaction.
And cold approach is the most bold version of all. I like this video by Todd:

Cold approach is quite challenging. I've been a massive cold approacher lifetime but have dealt with a lot of shiit. Still, it is better than app swiping.

It's not the cheat code he makes it out to be.

 

[corrector]

Yeah I had an instadate with a girl who had a bf, and I had a date with an 18 year old who seemed more curious about me because I had approached her rather than attracted to me. Like, I got the feeling she only went out with me because she wanted to see what was up with me not because she was attracted.

You instadated an 18 year old girl. That's rad man! Where did you meet her for that approach? The law where I'm at says you can date girls as young as 16 years old.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You instadated an 18 year old girl. That's rad man! Where did you meet her for that approach? The law where I'm at says you can date girls as young as 16 years old.

The mall

 

[SargeMaximus]

You must approach.

I did it for 3 years and approached hundreds of women. Not a single lay and only two dates to show for it. Too inefficient for my tastes

 

[corrector]

I did it for 3 years and approached hundreds of women. Not a single lay and only two dates to show for it. Too inefficient for my tastes

I think there are other aspects that were fun right? 1) You spoke to hot women. 2) You must have had some nice conversations.
3) You must have had potentials for social or business connections. 4) You must have met some nice and friendly women that you can remember up to this day.

There are these side-benefits with cold approaching. Did you make any friends at least?

Also what do you count as an approach? How many times did you ask for a number? I have only asked for a number once since 2020.
I can say I tried talking to girls, I gave out business cards, but if I don't ask for their number, does that count as an approach? Do you count that as an approach on your end?

 

[corrector]

The mall

Was she by herself or with her friends? How many 18 year olds or younger did you approach? How do you compare approaching younger women to older women?

 

[Bingo-Player]

just hammered a weekend of cold approach Friday ran into a lot of people i used to be in school with and people in old social circles and people that were with them

i opened everyone and anyone i could and most responded well i even drummed up a fair amount of attention from two HB7.5's one was messaging me on Instagram afterwards seemed very keen but phased out as the weekend drew on met her again in a group setting on Saturday night asked what she was doing (sunday) and if she was up for a hike

she just downplayed the conversation and wondered off although apparently she was seriously pissed i arrived with a guy she didn't like ( family politics ) infact i later found out the rest of the set weren't overly keen of this guy so i guess it was a bit of a mistake on my part bringing him but i wasn't exactly flush with choice for plus 1's

i left not long after that my energy levels were low and i wasn't in the mood .... contemplated messaging HB7.5 again on Instagram to coax her onto the hike but thought better of it and woke up this morning very glad i didn't , ensuring i withdraw all attention from HB7.5 now even as far as not engaging with her Instagram stories

I'd forgotten how temperamental chicks are

overall i wont lie I've found this weekend exhausting pivoting conversations , trying to raise attraction , being funny and then you can make one wrong comment and boom its all down the drain

never used to understand but now i can see why the prostitution industry does so well ..... its transactional and easy

game these days seems to be very tiring , although hoping it becomes easier as i grease my wheels so to speak

 

[SargeMaximus]

I think there are other aspects that were fun right? 1) You spoke to hot women. 2) You must have had some nice conversations.
3) You must have had potentials for social or business connections. 4) You must have met some nice and friendly women that you can remember up to this day.

There are these side-benefits with cold approaching. Did you make any friends at least?

Also what do you count as an approach? How many times did you ask for a number? I have only asked for a number once since 2020.
I can say I tried talking to girls, I gave out business cards, but if I don't ask for their number, does that count as an approach? Do you count that as an approach on your end?

The answer to all of those questions is “No”... on all counts. Like I said, I’m not social. I prefer to be alone. Chatting and networking is worse than banging my head against a wall for 10 hours straight.

so when I saw nothing coming from it, I cut it out of my life.

like I said, I wish i could make it work for my personality but as I’ve experienced it, it hasn’t.

fun fact: for the last 6 years I have worked as a door to door lead generator so I have no problem talking to people when it is to accomplish a goal. But aimless socializing is repulsive to me.

As for the 18 year old, she was alone. I talked with her for a few mins then pitched the coffee date.

 

[SW15]

I did it for 3 years and approached hundreds of women. Not a single lay and only two dates to show for it. Too inefficient for my tastes

You have a legitimate point regarding inefficiency. However, what is your alternative? If you think swipe apps will be more efficient, that's not likely. You might get more dates from swipe apps if you have above average looks but you're likely to get a lot of "one date, no sex, no second date" instances. That "one date, no sex, no second date" style date is a worse outcome than what you experienced.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You have a legitimate point of inefficiency. However, what is your alternative? If you think swipe apps will be more efficient, that's not likely. You might get more dates from swipe apps if you have above average looks but you're likely to get a lot of "one date, no sex, no second date" instances. That "one date, no sex, no second date" style date is a worse outcome than what you experienced.

I’ve had more sex in my life using online apps. What the **** is ur point? I swear some of you guys seem retarded to me. All my lays are on the first or second date too. No money spent

 

[SW15]

I’ve had more sex in my life using online apps. What the **** is ur point? I swear some of you guys seem retarded to me. All my lays are on the first or second date too. No money spent

What's true for you isn't true for me or for a lot of other men. I wasted thousands of dollars on "one date, no sex, no second date" style dates that were generated using websites or swipe apps.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I have no problem talking to people when it is to accomplish a goal. But aimless socializing is repulsive to me.

The goal is sex. That should motivate you enough. I too am not the most social person... I go out by myself every weekend to prevent getting back into the comfort of isolation. I suggest you start going out every weekend. To aimlessly socialize with the goal of staying out of isolation comfort.

 

[SargeMaximus]

What's true for you isn't true for me or for a lot of other men. I wasted thousands of dollars on "one date, no sex, no second date" style dates that were generated using websites or swipe apps.

Well that sucks, but that’s not my experience. So don’t give me advice that isn’t relevant to my situation. Better yet, don’t assume you know my situation if you haven’t even read my past posts. If you read my recent posts you’d know I don’t pay for sex and get quick lays so wtf

 

[SW15]

But aimless socializing is repulsive to me.

I can relate to this. If I'm talking to a woman I've never met before, it is because I am trying to get laid.

Also what do you count as an approach? How many times did you ask for a number? I have only asked for a number once since 2020.
I can say I tried talking to girls, I gave out business cards, but if I don't ask for their number, does that count as an approach? Do you count that as an approach on your end?

Initiating a conversation of any sort counts as an approach. Giving a business card is a bad idea because it is not effective. It's possible to have an approach but not ask for a number because the conversation went nowhere.

 

[corrector]

As for the 18 year old, she was alone. I talked with her for a few mins then pitched the coffee date.

Rad man. That's what I'm talking about! You just did that once though? Did you try to escalate with her?