Men Who Cold Approach Should Be Proud

[Georgepithyou]

I can't think of anything harder then Approaching random women, going through tons of ego destroying rejection while improving your game to finally get a woman.

Woth online, your behind a screen and there is no feeling to it, you just mindlessly swipe

With social circle game its slow but it has a high success rate

Cold approach is not for the faint of heart, only the strongest survive and thrive.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

 

[Georgepithyou]

Personally, I find cold approach quite easy now because I've reached a stage in my life where I genuinely DGAF about rejection. And honestly, the absolute worst rejections aren't even that bad. The worst I get, very occasionally, is I'll introduce myself and the girl will just wave her hand in my face and say "sorry I can't talk" and walk off. It never gets any worse than that.

I still remember my first approach/rejection

Walked up to an Asian girl, said "hi" she smiled
Then i mumbled "are you single"
She gave a shocked look and ran off

I was sad about it for a day but got over it.

Also, my goal is banging, not finding my soul mate. I've noticed that this is where most guys go wrong. They are looking for a girlfriend.

The best method for girlfriends is social circle, most guys don't have a social circle that gives them regular access to new girls.

None of these men said anything inherently bad, yet she claims it is harassment. Also she purposly went to ethnically divirse neighbourhoods.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I still remember my first approach/rejection

Walked up to an Asian girl, said "hi" she smiled
Then i mumbled "are you single"
She gave a shocked look and ran off

I was sad about it for a day but got over it.



The best method for girlfriends is social circle, most guys don't have a social circle that gives them regular access to new girls.




None of these men said anything inherently bad, yet she claims it is harassment. Also she purposly went to ethnically divirse neighbourhoods.

what's wrong with ethnically diverse neighborhoods? It's NYC lmao not Tulsa, Oklahoma

 

[Georgepithyou]

what's wrong with ethnically diverse neighborhoods? It's NYC lmao not Tulsa, Oklahoma

I think the video is pretty racist if you think about it, she's also acting like guys saying "god bless you have a good day" equals sexual harassment.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I can't think of anything harder then Approaching random women, going through tons of ego destroying rejection while improving your game to finally get a woman.

Woth online, your behind a screen and there is no feeling to it, you just mindlessly swipe

With social circle game its slow but it has a high success rate

Cold approach is not for the faint of heart, only the strongest survive and thrive.

Couldn't agree more! It's the best way to build real confidence and it's the way of men since the beginning of time. OLD apps are trash on so many levels.

Thanks for the reminder to young men out there!

Modern Man Advice

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

cold approach is a hack, i haved slashed cold approach in the past , but to be real , it increases your options INFINITELY

 

[Xenom0rph]

I personally dont find cold approaches unsuccessful, but I salute the courage to do so.

They say the #1 fear is public speaking, I'm pretty sure cold approaches should rank #2 or at least #3...

EDIT: I meant to say unsuccessful.... was typing while driving...

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

I personally dont find cold approaches successful, but I salute the courage to do so.

They say the #1 fear is public speaking, I'm pretty sure cold approaches should rank #2 or at least #3...

i used to think cold approach wasnt worth it , but think about it
if you rank low in your village or neighborhood those chicks dont want you because you are perceived as low value.
if you go out and cold approach and meet new chicks ,you can be perceived in the light you decide to.
matter of fact you dont even have to cold approach , just adopt the rolling stone mentality , always meeting new friends dudes or chicks.

 

[corrector]

I can't think of anything harder then Approaching random women, going through tons of ego destroying rejection while improving your game to finally get a woman.

I don't think it's ego destroying because you are not asking anyone out or number closing. You are also talking to any woman and seeing her in person. That's miles ahead of online dating where nobody may reply at all, or reply with one line, or you might just get ugly, fat, or problem women while the hotter ones are inaccessible. Think of it, do you think a hot 18-22 year old would reply back to your email with online dating or some washed-up post wall woman? But you can approach or talk to any woman in public.

Woth online, your behind a screen and there is no feeling to it, you just mindlessly swipe

No, there is feeling in it. You'll see at least a few profiles that you'll say "this is my soul-mate, I'm 100% compatible with this woman" and she won't reply back to your email, and when you see a stack of read emails that you get a weak reply or none at all you feel like crap.

I've never tried swipe apps but I would imagine it's more of the same. If you get mainly rejections then you are not even talking to anyone online. With approaches you are still talking to someone. You could talk to a hot lady.

With social circle game its slow but it has a high success rate

Where do you figure that?

Cold approach is not for the faint of heart, only the strongest survive and thrive.

Cold approach means you are talking to hot women. Online dating means you are not talking to hot woman and are getting ignored or feel like a perv. Social circle game doesn't necessarily mean there is hot single women in the social circle and could be a sausage fest or other dynamics are at play where you could end up getting c0ckblocked.

You are worried about cold-approach rejection? You are talking to hot woman. You feel amazing if you can even have small talk with a hot woman. It makes my day if there is even a pleasant interaction with a hot woman. Why would we have to assume an interaction would be a fail or end up ruining the day? You just need some creative openers and to smile when approaching so the woman doesn't feel intimidated.

 

[Mike32ct]

i used to think cold approach wasnt worth it , but think about it
if you rank low in your village or neighborhood those chicks dont want you because you are perceived as low value.
if you go out and cold approach and meet new chicks ,you can be perceived in the light you decide to.

Yes. The primary advantage to cold approach is it offers the guy a “clean slate.”

 

[Xenom0rph]

i used to think cold approach wasnt worth it , but think about it
if you rank low in your village or neighborhood those chicks dont want you because you are perceived as low value.
if you go out and cold approach and meet new chicks ,you can be perceived in the light you decide to.
matter of fact you dont even have to cold approach , just adopt the rolling stone mentality , always meeting new friends dudes or chicks.

Sorry mane, typo, I meant to write "unsuccessful", I was typing my response while driving....

But I respect your opinion.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Cold Approaching is much easier than OLD for sure. Do I think it's ethical....No lol

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

i dont think cold approaching is ''easier'' per se? it can be in different situations?
but cold approaching is like steroids for your options and chix who wanna fvck you.

ethics is another thing , thats personal style, as a matter of fact i think i wont even argue ethics no more , some ppl have some dont , it is what it is. women can lie steal cheat here in america with minimal consequence. as long as a dude is gettin his **** wet , no one cares.
let a man cheat and we;re dawgs , on a further rant no one really cares if the child is actually yours or not, its not on them .
other countrys have social programming that resents this type of thing whereas america condones it.
other countrys have social programming that is very harsh on cheating on the womens part , whereas america subtly condones women cheating for the sake of ''good genes'' or ''paternity versatility''

 

[SW15]

The absolute best way to easily tap into a Social Circle is through sports that both women and men play. Tennis, netball, volleyball, bad minton, yoga.

You join a local club, tennis social or whatever. Don't go there and be sleezy, go and get really good at the sport. Within 3 months you'll have a social circle centered around a shared activity. It really is very easy unless you've got social anxiety.

I've been playing tennis since I was 8 years old. I played for my high school team all 4 years of high school. I didn't play during college. After college graduation, I returned to the sport. I'm a solid player and have beaten ex-female NCAA tennis players despite the fact I didn't play NCAA tennis. I would not recommend tennis as a sport for finding dates, not at least until you are about 40.

As an adult, I've played at both public and private courts. At both public and private courts, you will rarely see women in their 20s/30s playing a singles match together. In most cities, a lot of the private tennis facilities are located in more suburban, family oriented areas which are not close to 20s/30s childles singles. A single woman in her 20s/30s would be a bit of an oddity at a private facility. At public courts, when a younger woman is playing tennis, she's typically playing with her husband, boyfriend, brother, or some other guy.

On the rare occasions you see two women playing a singles match, definitely approach. I have gotten dates this way but it is rare to do.

When women turn 40 or so, tennis becomes a more viable to pick them up at private courts. It's common to find 40 something divorced women at private tennis clubs. These are usually upper middle class and higher women that got into tennis with their exes remain playing tennis or they are just picking it up to get a hot, post divorce body.

Volleyball is a much better option for picking up women. There are often co-ed sports leagues for volleyball. Sand volleyball is a great way to meet women if you live in Florida, Southern California, or in an inland city with a good sand facility. A lot of ex-indoor high school and college volleyball women will keep playing as adults. Volleyball culture is a little more social than tennis' culture.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Any thoughts on a running club?

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Running clubs are fantastic. I've met many women through them. Filled with fit, slender (my type), energetic and social women. Plus you have a mutual subject to talk about right off the bat. Most cities have tons of running clubs too so you can really meet a lot of people that way. Volunteering at aid stations at races is another great way to meet even more.

 

[9-3enthusiast]

I don't go out with the intention of cold-approaching, but I will strike up a conversation if I happen to come across a woman I like the look of.
And I'll try for her number, or a coffee date if the vibe seems there...

Covid has scuppered it quite a bit, but there was one the summer before Covid... In a music store I saw her looking at the guitar strings with a note in her hand and a puzzled expression - She was looking for a specific brand (which they didn't have) for her son. Got talking and helped her pick an equivalent - Turned out the son was off to University a week later - she mentioned 'empty-nest-syndrome' which I took as an indicator she was probably single - She was... we went for coffee... and had A LOT of fun over the next few weeks.

And last year, bumped into someone I kinda knew vaguely from some years ago, when I was married.
In a queue to enter a foodstore I passed a jokey comment something about waiting in line at a theme park, she laughed, and that was when I recognised her - She agreed to go for an outdoor coffee, and it turned into a 2 month on-off thing.

Approaching over and over and over, the same day..? Not my style.
But by striking up a convo when you encounter one you like the look of... It does reap occasional benefits for me - It's just a matter of picking up on the cues to her availability/interest.
I push ahead with the promising ones - Or I back off and go on my way if it's obviously a no-go.

 

[RangerMIke]

What is called 'cold approach' is really all I do. I don't know anything else.

It's really not that hard as long as when you start up a conversation with a woman you don't start with the idea that anything is going to happen. You are just talking to another person, that's all... I guess the hard part, which comes with experience is just understanding body language and mannerism. You just have a gut feeling she is open to you, I can't explain it and it really isn't infallible. Some chicks might actually be attracted to you, but if she isn't available you don't have a shot. More often than not she really isn't open to you. But it's pretty fvcking obvious from the start if a chick isn't, at that point you just toss that fish back in.

The introduction is just the start of a very fast process. Success rate is very low, but you can't get ahead of yourself. I don't keep track but my guess is that less than 10% of women I approach I end up on a date with.

Introduce yourself, if she give you indication she wants to be left alone, FLUSH. If she won't engage in conversation with you or gives you negative body language, FLUSH. If she isn't that friendly or indicates she has a BF... FLUSH. If she won't give you her phone number... FLUSH. If she doesn't answer her phone or you get a bum number... FLUSH. If she flakes and/or cancels your date... FLUSH.

The reason why dudes think cold approach is 'hard' is because they get ahead of themselves. They see a chick walking on the street and think "I'm going to bang her!" When the actual truth is that she isn't even real until she actually meets you on a date. Who gives a fvck if a chick you just met on the street rejects you? You don't know anything about her... she could be some bunny boiling lunatic and she might be doing you a favor by pushing you away. The game doesn't start until you are alone with her on a date.

Any PUA that says they can teach you how to get any woman you see if a lying piece of cr@p that is just trying to get in your wallet.

 

[returnofpigman]

I can't think of anything harder then Approaching random women, going through tons of ego destroying rejection while improving your game to finally get a woman.

Woth online, your behind a screen and there is no feeling to it, you just mindlessly swipe

With social circle game its slow but it has a high success rate

Cold approach is not for the faint of heart, only the strongest survive and thrive.

The more cold approaching you do the better you do. Like lifting weights: start small, higher reps. Practice on every woman out there. Start with easy targets like women who work in clothing retail. “What do you think of this shirt, etc?” You sort of have to desensitize yourself from the fear of rejection. Daytime approaches are subtle and have to have some relevance to the surroundings. Women are alone more during the day and their guard is up.

Social circle is easier because you already have a certain amount of credibility. The issue then becomes reputation within that circle. In this case, assuming I am not interested in an exclusive relationship, I almost like women who have boring boyfriends and are interested in me as opposed to those who are single. It’s better to remain within the social circle without having to worry about reputation and social circle influence on your relationship. Obviously this requires confidentiality. The more the woman with the boyfriend has to lose in the social circle, the more she will be confidential. Loose lips sink ships. I just dropped a plate like this because I met her boyfriend and although he’s a total blue pill guy, I like him. He’s cool. He’ll never know. Maybe.