Getting around crappy dating logistics

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

So I met this girl for drinks downtown and she lives in some suburb part of the city on the opposite end of me. She seems interested in a second date which I plan on asking her soon before the flames quench and I am going to aim for sex on this date so it either has to be in my area or her area. I made it pretty clear to her that I like to travel and explore new places, so spinning it to something like I've never been to your area, I've always wanted to see insert random interesting spot. She also doesn't know exactly where I live it, I told her a vague part of the city and she didn't push for more and I left it like that lol. Is it bad to try and go to her place first for sex or would it be risky to ask her to drive all the way over to my area before having sex with her. In addition, her area is more interesting because it's on the coast too. It is also way easier to ask a person to come over to your place then ask to go to theirs lol.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Telling women you travel is kind of cheating, because it creates a sense of affluence and in order for you to get what you want from her, she needs to see this affluence manifest.

Talking about travelling in general with a woman, especially a newer one, says to me that your dropping this information because her interest is low to begin with... Your not taking her travelling, but you are implying you are looking for a travel partner, so she needs to be validated now and your basically ****ed unless your gonna do that.

See, she doesn't initially care that much about travelling, it's when she begins to tell her friends about you that these pressures begin "I met a guy who... Travels," this is now her trying to validate herself for her friends as a social status thing.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Telling women you travel is kind of cheating, because it creates a sense of affluence and in order for you to get what you want from her, she needs to see this affluence manifest.

Talking about travelling in general with a woman, especially a newer one, says to me that your dropping this information because her interest is low to begin with... Your not taking her travelling, but you are implying you are looking for a travel partner, so she needs to be validated now and your basically ****ed unless your gonna do that.

See, she doesn't initially care that much about travelling, it's when she begins to tell her friends about you that these pressures begin "I met a guy who... Travels," this is now her trying to validate herself for her friends as a social status thing.

Every girl on a dating app travels lol. It’s nothing extraordinary

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Every girl on a dating app travels lol. It’s nothing extraordinary

If they all travel, why does it need to be a part of their profile? Because they don't.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

If they all travel, why does it need to be a part of their profile? Because they don't.

lol 99% of girls on hinge have 3 picture types... a pic with a dog, a pic abroad, and some brunch Or winery pic

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

lol 99% of girls on hinge have 3 picture types... a pic with a dog, a pic abroad, and some brunch Or winery pic

A dating profile isn't used to communicate what a woman has, but rather, what she wants, why would her profile be used to communicate what she has? She already has it, so why would she need you? If she us going abroad, she'll find a guy abroad, it's pretty simple stuff dude.

You can't just take what these women say to you or even their pics at face value.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

A dating profile isn't used to communicate what a woman has, but rather, what she wants, why would her profile be used to communicate what she has? She already has it, so why would she need you? If she us going abroad, she'll find a guy abroad, it's pretty simple stuff dude.

You can't just take what these women say to you or even their pics at face value.

personally I don’t give a damn what she wants, I’m just trying to my dvck wet.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

personally I don’t give a damn what she wants, I’m just trying to my dvck wet.

Did you communicate that? No? Because she is low interest. Move on.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Maybe I'm reading it all wrong get a second opinion

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If they all travel, why does it need to be a part of their profile? Because they don't.

Because they don't want to date a stick in the mud that sits around the house all day or doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

Pretty common sense.

 

[PRW63]

personally I don’t give a damn what she wants, I’m just trying to my dvck wet.

Well as soon as she figures that out you will just be another affirmation to her that "All men are like that". That is, unless she is just looking for the same thing. But if she has any experience with guys at all, she will be 3 steps ahead of you. She likely has had a handful of guys wanting exactly the same thing and approached it exactly the same way. It will be the same old story to her.

 

[spikeanut]

OP, stop worrying about her and how to spin it. If you want her to come to you, then pick a place around you and tell her to meet you there. No need to explain yourself. If you don't want her to know where you live or don't want to bring her back to your place (which I never do with OLD chicks), then find a place close to her and take charge. Your mindset of thinking it's too "risky" if you ask her to drive all the way to you, already shows you care too much about what she thinks. Make a choice that works best for you. If you don't mind the drive, and don't want her to know where you live, then go to her. Tell her you're in her area on so and so day and pick a spot and time for her to meet you. If she's busy, then move on and withdraw your time and attention from her for a bit. 1 date is way too earlier to start putting so much thought into a girl. But you are on the right track...strike while the iron is hot.

 

[SW15]

Every girl on a dating app travels lol. It’s nothing extraordinary

Few people travel since COVID started.

 

[EyeBRollin]

So I met this girl for drinks downtown and she lives in some suburb part of the city on the opposite end of me. She seems interested in a second date which I plan on asking her soon before the flames quench and I am going to aim for sex on this date so it either has to be in my area or her area. I made it pretty clear to her that I like to travel and explore new places, so spinning it to something like I've never been to your area, I've always wanted to see insert random interesting spot. She also doesn't know exactly where I live it, I told her a vague part of the city and she didn't push for more and I left it like that lol. Is it bad to try and go to her place first for sex or would it be risky to ask her to drive all the way over to my area before having sex with her. In addition, her area is more interesting because it's on the coast too. It is also way easier to ask a person to come over to your place then ask to go to theirs lol.

Go to her for date #2 and offer to pick her up. She comes to you date #3. I only meet halfway for the first date. You are correct, keep the logistics for the lay in play for all dates.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I mean I don't get the problem. I live in a decent sized city and sometimes people are 30-40 minutes from each other and I have dated several women who lived that far away from me. If they are interested enough the distance is never an issue. If they say it's a problem it's because it is an easy excuse to use due to low IL.

 

[PRW63]

Few people travel since COVID started.

I never stopped traveling. I haven't changed anything. Don't wear a mask, don't social distance. If a place or an area has too many restrictions I take my business elsewhere. I've had to walk out of a couple gas stations, couple restaurants, ...one restaurant I debated with them, they left me alone and I stayed. That has been the worst of it. They need me more than I need them (have that attitude about your dates and it works in your favor too).

 

[2Rocky]

Pick her up at her home. If she won't invite you to wait for her to finish getting ready then she won't feel comfortable inviting you in later.

I find women are more comfortable in their own surroundings, they have their beauty and personal stuff there and can attend to any issues that come up (like putting on something a little more comfortable...). You can assess if there are any roommates or family members to negotiate. Bring a dessert, and maybe bottle of wine to put in the fridge for after the date. It is a rock solid reason to go back to her place.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I never stopped traveling. I haven't changed anything. Don't wear a mask, don't social distance. If a place or an area has too many restrictions I take my business elsewhere. I've had to walk out of a couple gas stations, couple restaurants, ...one restaurant I debated with them, they left me alone and I stayed. That has been the worst of it. They need me more than I need them (have that attitude about your dates and it works in your favor too).

Good..take your ass on an island. Go be a hermit.