The absolute importance of dating multiple women at once!

[manfrombelow]

I can't stress this enough, but looking back, I made many mistakes of getting one-itis with a particular woman to the point I single-handedly destroyed our relationship.

Everything started out great: She was more emotionally invested in me than vice versa, we had great sex, I got one-itis, I tried to control her, I gradually became needy and clingy, and eventually she dumped me. And this happened not just once, but many occasions until I learned for myself one valuable lesson:

Had I kept my cool, had I not let myself believe in the pre-programmed toxic notion of "The One," all I needed to do was simply KEEP BANGING THEM, and keep them coming back for me by NOT PURSUING & CHASING AFTER THEM, while dating and banging other women (or plates).

The biggest, most fatal mistake I made was when I got head-over-heels for this married woman, who was a 8/10 in terms of look and sexual craziness. At first, she liked me more than I did. But over time, I lost my cool. I became obssessed with her, to the point I really thought I could RESCUE her from her sexless and not happy marriage (I know, I know, the typical false belief of the "Damsel-In-Distress"). So instead of keep fvcking her like a slut (which was the only thing she WANTED) and keep it at that, I did every single mistake a Bluepilled WhiteKnight Beta could do, to the point she had to run away.

So yeah, as much ashamed of myself looking back at this incident, I'll only invest in myself, keep dating multiple women at once, and never jump into LTR with any of them. According to the 80/20 rule, you should only focus a maximum 20% of your time & energy for women, not vice versa.

 

[manfrombelow]

To be able to have a constant supply of pvssy WITHOUT the entailed drama is the biggest dream one could dream of.

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

unfortunately , you can lead the horse to water but cant make him drink. i had to go through painful relationships where i caught an std once and the girl still insisted she was being faithful , it wasn't the cheating that hurt so bad surprisingly , it was the fact that she would lie even when confronted with undisputable evidence that pissed me off! i even caught a text in her phone where she was talkin about me like a peasant talking about how much i loved her.. whole time she was gettin piped ... by a dirty d1ck! now looking back it was a big drama where she moved out of my house , sided with her mother and i thought it was something i did wrong, now i realize she was running to the other dude, of course she came back weeks later after he was done with her.
my advice to guys on this forum is, take the advice on this forum .

''We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

this is not a hate woman thread , in fact its the opposite.
needy and clingy behavior is biologically unattractive to women, so its about realizing and fixing your own weaknesses

 

[manfrombelow]

I don't actually agree with your reasoning which is just trying to self medicate over attachment problem with women. It will not work in the long run anyway, you will always attach to one more than the others.

The reason to date multiple women is in my mind pretty simple: most attractive women are going to be doing it themselves and you need to cast a wide net because the majority of your options are not going to be particularly appealing once you get to know them.

But if you don't do multiple dating, and stick to just one, then sooner or later you're gonna develop "one-itis" for her.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I can't stress this enough, but looking back, I made many mistakes of getting one-itis with a particular woman to the point I single-handedly destroyed our relationship.

Everything started out great: She was more emotionally invested in me than vice versa, we had great sex, I got one-itis, I tried to control her, I gradually became needy and clingy, and eventually she dumped me. And this happened not just once, but many occasions until I learned for myself one valuable lesson:

Had I kept my cool, had I not let myself believe in the pre-programmed toxic notion of "The One," all I needed to do was simply KEEP BANGING THEM, and keep them coming back for me by NOT PURSUING & CHASING AFTER THEM, while dating and banging other women (or plates).

The biggest, most fatal mistake I made was when I got head-over-heels for this married woman, who was a 8/10 in terms of look and sexual craziness. At first, she liked me more than I did. But over time, I lost my cool. I became obssessed with her, to the point I really thought I could RESCUE her from her sexless and not happy marriage (I know, I know, the typical false belief of the "Damsel-In-Distress"). So instead of keep fvcking her like a slut (which was the only thing she WANTED) and keep it at that, I did every single mistake a Bluepilled WhiteKnight Beta could do, to the point she had to run away.

So yeah, as much ashamed of myself looking back at this incident, I'll only invest in myself, keep dating multiple women at once, and never jump into LTR with any of them. According to the 80/20 rule, you should only focus a maximum 20% of your time & energy for women, not vice versa.

Seems like you been through all the stages of OneItis denial but finally came out of the Matrix.

Barny Stinson approved this bro message too!

and remember that

Maintaining and fúcking a new steady supply of chicks in your plate pipeline keeps the doctor away from the sickness OneItis!

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

I don't actually agree with your reasoning which is just trying to self medicate over attachment problem with women. It will not work in the long run anyway, you will always attach to one more than the others.

The reason to date multiple women is in my mind pretty simple: most attractive women are going to be doing it themselves and you need to cast a wide net because the majority of your options are not going to be particularly appealing once you get to know them.

i think the whole point of this thread is to expose that love addict side many men may not even realize they have tho.
i think your idea that you ''will always'' attach to a certain woman has other variables tht you are not considering ..
if i do attach to a woman she will earn it , she will show me a consistent behavior that i desire, she will ask me for the relationship , i will probably still politely decline , because i have to screen other women too. i wont be able to form an attachment so long as i remain active in screening new women , give or take the occasional break , i understand dating can be tiresome.
understand that forming an attachment with a woman is a choice , if you spend more than 1-2 days with her per week it will begin to develop , you chose to spend that time with her , time you could have spent getting better at a skill, taking your business further , getting into better shape, all which increase options for you.
the fact that she is spinning plates is not important , im a man , she is a woman , she will always have access to sex easier so im not trying to compete with her sexually.

 

[corrector]

I can't stress this enough, but looking back, I made many mistakes of getting one-itis with a particular woman to the point I single-handedly destroyed our relationship.

Everything started out great: She was more emotionally invested in me than vice versa, we had great sex, I got one-itis, I tried to control her, I gradually became needy and clingy, and eventually she dumped me. And this happened not just once, but many occasions until I learned for myself one valuable lesson:

Had I kept my cool, had I not let myself believe in the pre-programmed toxic notion of "The One," all I needed to do was simply KEEP BANGING THEM, and keep them coming back for me by NOT PURSUING & CHASING AFTER THEM, while dating and banging other women (or plates).

The biggest, most fatal mistake I made was when I got head-over-heels for this married woman, who was a 8/10 in terms of look and sexual craziness. At first, she liked me more than I did. But over time, I lost my cool. I became obssessed with her, to the point I really thought I could RESCUE her from her sexless and not happy marriage (I know, I know, the typical false belief of the "Damsel-In-Distress"). So instead of keep fvcking her like a slut (which was the only thing she WANTED) and keep it at that, I did every single mistake a Bluepilled WhiteKnight Beta could do, to the point she had to run away.

So yeah, as much ashamed of myself looking back at this incident, I'll only invest in myself, keep dating multiple women at once, and never jump into LTR with any of them. According to the 80/20 rule, you should only focus a maximum 20% of your time & energy for women, not vice versa.

Or you could just have standards too like not dealing with married women.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

The 80/20 rule has nothing to do with this lol.

 

[FuzzX]

This opens you up to the possibility of AIDS, Herpes, Hep, Covid. The more casual pvssy you get, the more you roll the dice.

 

[Lookatu]

this is not a hate woman thread , in fact its the opposite.
needy and clingy behavior is biologically unattractive to women, so its about realizing and fixing your own weaknesses

I agree with this.

Some guys naturally do have the confidence and abundance mentality to not get into the one-itis and get all clingy. But I think until one develops that ability in a LTR/serious relationship, having multiple girls is a good defense mechanism to help out some guys to not get that way.

I used to be clingy and possessive with oneitis back in the day but now I'm just as confident only being with one gal or many gals. Doesn't phase my behavior or my thought process one way or another. I've graduated to this level but not everyone is there. For those that aren't, having multiple girls will mitigate the oneitis clingy behaviors IMO.

 

[Dash Riprock]

You can avoid oneitis and still only date one person.

Oneitis is a mindset--and it's 100% your choice to control your thoughts and actions. I agree it does help some people avoid oneitis by dating 4-5 women at once. Frankly, I don't have the time or patience for it and it costs money too, even cheap dates (time = money). Huge time-suck.

If you stay focused on your goals, money, career, health, friends, hobbies, side hustle -- all these things -- a woman will be a small side dish on your huge plate of food. Your goals, success, and well-being should always be the main course.

Focus on being a better man and maximize your potential. Being a slave to the p*ssy will ruin you every single time.

Good luck.

~Dash~

 

[EyeBRollin]

This opens you up to the possibility of AIDS, Herpes, Hep, Covid. The more casual pvssy you get, the more you roll the dice.

Wear a condom.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Wear a condom.

Might as well not bother at all then. Condom sex sucks so bad that I'd rather not have sex instead.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Might as well not bother at all then. Condom sex sucks so bad that I'd rather not have sex instead.

Do you boo boo.

 

[manfrombelow]

Or you could just have standards too like not dealing with married women.

Dealing with married women is OK as long as you keep them as plates and treat them as such. You have good pvssy without the entailed drama. Isn't that Win-Win situation for you?

 

[manfrombelow]

This opens you up to the possibility of AIDS, Herpes, Hep, Covid. The more casual pvssy you get, the more you roll the dice.

Have you ever heard of an invention called "condom"???

 

[FuzzX]

Have you ever heard of an invention called "condom"???

Sure, it works about as well as flipping a coin.

 

[In2theGame]

We've all been there at one point and on a logical level it makes sense. You focus all of yourself on her but biologically it's going to turn her off eventually because you're not being a real Man.

There's a post on Instagram I saw about a week ago that was pretty funny but also very true with how Women think..."I'm Glad he doesn't have any Hoe's...... But why does he not have any Hoe's?.... Am I the only one fighting for a spot that no other Woman wants!?".

Based on my own experience, 90% of Men are going to want to fvck multiple Women however boys are programmed from a very early age that Men should only desire and Pedestalize ONE special Woman. The problem is that when they grow into an older Man, they are likely to experience an internal battle of intellectual thinking and Biological impulses. Society says I shouldn't want and need multiple Women but im horny for other Women! Thus.... cheating happens somewhere down the line or if the opportunity presents itself.

Women are the ones who like to bond, not all but a high percentage, like to bond with a Man that they are having sex with whereas Men don't really desire the bonding part of it, they just want a good nut and great nasty sex then move on or return when they want sex again. This is why Women get so upset when the guy fvcks them but then doesnt want to talk to them on the phone, text much or hang out with them to do trivial things outside of sex.

We can also blame social conditioning/programming for how Women THINK a Man should be/act. They too are told as little girls that a boy/Man should Pedestalize them and treat them special without the need for other females because she will take care of all his needs. It is true from the Man's point of view that he will select ONE Woman to treat as his MAIN Woman and this is where he decides he will give her bonding time aside from sex. Basically give her non sexual time, attention and companionship (shout out to Alan Roger Currie for that phrase). He however will NOT do this for other Women except his MAIN.

The best thing to do is to be 100% honest that you as a Man cannot have one lover for the long term. However be warned that you will get shamed into the ground by people because they prefer for you to stay in a fantasy and avoid your biological wants/needs. They prefer sweet lies instead of uncomfortable truths.

 

[manfrombelow]

However be warned that you will get shamed into the ground by people because they prefer for you to stay in a fantasy and avoid your biological wants/needs. They prefer sweet lies instead of uncomfortable truths.

Alphas don't kiss and tell. Only idiots have the need to notify the world about what he has been doing and what he will be doing.

SS is the only place other than myself that knows about my dirty naughty dark-y mind.