Semi-erection because of a lack of attraction

[Barrister]

Do we have a problem?

Are you the SS police or something? How does this affect you? Don't you have better things to do here (like give advice to men that need it, or contribute to the collective)? Why are you so obsessed/bothered by how my company is run?

I don't need to explain to you how my company is run or who is behind our website content, social media, community engagement, coaching. If you have a problem, give me a call and we'll square it cause we don't have the time to waste it a jacka*** like you.

Capisci? Good, now go on and twinkle with your berries kid.

Modern Man Advice

lol Overreact much? Sounds like I hit a button there.

I have no problem with you at all. It's just weird referring to yourself as "we" repeatedly (although I notice in this particular response to me you finally referred to yourself in the singular). But if you think I am a jackA$$ that is fine. I have been called much worse.

 

[TheProspect]

lol Overreact much? Sounds like I hit a button there.

I have no problem with you at all. It's just weird referring to yourself as "we" repeatedly (although I notice in this particular response to me you finally referred to yourself in the singular). But if you think I am a jackA$$ that is fine. I have been called much worse.

Let it go, and let's get back on topic talking about semi-erect penises.

 

[Barrister]

Let it go, and let's get back on topic talking about semi-erect penises.

Done.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Done.

Good, keep it that way.

Modern Man Advice

 

[Paper Crane]

Few things I noticed about this that made no sense to me:
1) you pointed out several things that turned you off about her before even starting the date, almost seemed kinda nitpicky too. yet you still went back to her place.
2) you said things started getting hot and heavy, why, how? you said you were not attracted to her. kinda weird.
3) you took her to the bathroom to have sex? also kinda weird. i mean theres so many better places man, does she not have a couch, a bed, etc?

I think you might have just forced something with a girl you're not really into which is strange as to how things got hot and heavy.. I'm guessing she initiated and you obliged?

 

[MoMoses]

1) you pointed out several things that turned you off about her before even starting the date, almost seemed kinda nitpicky too. yet you still went back to her place.

Yeah, I was really thinking of going home but she was so ready you know. I had this whole internal discussion about going for it or going home. In the end my ego took over... I know it's stupid so your point is valid.

2) you said things started getting hot and heavy, why, how? you said you were not attracted to her. kinda weird.

You can think it's weird. That's ok

3) you took her to the bathroom to have sex? also kinda weird. i mean theres so many better places man, does she not have a couch, a bed, etc?

Damn! Me and my English!!! Bedroom! I ment to say BEDroom. Haha you're to first to point this one out

I think you might have just forced something with a girl you're not really into which is strange as to how things got hot and heavy.. I'm guessing she initiated and you obliged?

I think so too. I just wanted to add her to the list you know. I know it's childish. But no, she didn't initiate. Don't focus too much on the hot and heavy part. Not an native englishspeaker here. This just means kissing and touching to me.

 

[Paper Crane]

Yeah, I was really thinking of going home but she was so ready you know. I had this whole internal discussion about going for it or going home. In the end my ego took over... I know it's stupid so your point is valid.



You can think it's weird. That's ok



Damn! Me and my English!!! Bedroom! I ment to say BEDroom. Haha you're to first to point this one out



I think so too. I just wanted to add her to the list you know. I know it's childish. But no, she didn't initiate. Don't focus too much on the hot and heavy part. Not an native englishspeaker here. This just means kissing and touching to me.

Yeah don't worry about it man. It happens sometimes
It's perfectly normal man to have your body not fully cooperate the first time with a new girl. But it helps to have a girl you're into physically/attracted to. You'll be alright

 

[MoMoses]

Yeah don't worry about it man. It happens sometimes
It's perfectly normal man to have your body not fully cooperate the first time with a new girl. But it helps to have a girl you're into physically/attracted to. You'll be alright

I'm 40 years old. Had sex with over 100 women and my equipement has failed me only 4-5 times in my life. So, I'm not too worried. There's always a reason (too tired, too much alcohol and now.. zero attraction)

The worst part is that I still smell her on me. Never experienced anything like it. Her smell pops up whenever I think of her. It's repulsive. That is really weird part. I didn't feel that much repulsed when I started kissing her.

 

[TheProspect]

Few things I noticed about this that made no sense to me:
you took her to the bathroom to have sex? also kinda weird. i mean theres so many better places man, does she not have a couch, a bed, etc?

Damn! Me and my English!!! Bedroom! I ment to say BEDroom. Haha you're to first to point this one out

Lmao!! I didn't even catch that either

Saying fvck the bed or couch and taking a chick to the bathroom to have sex instead

 

[RickTheToad]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

Nah, I'm usually always ready for sex; unless I'm focusing on something else more important. Did you have something going on yesterday that made your mind preoccupied? It's hard with these damn masks to see how a female looks. Banging body, but messed up face. Ehh, I can see how that can hurt things. That's when you use your mind to think of a hot female you want to bang and get the job done. Flat chested, yea, I experienced that once too. It wasn't as fun. She was, I guess, wearing a padded bra, but was near flat with her top off; with a banging fat ass to boot. Can't win some times.

 

[jaymbrs]

Lol that's why I will never approach a woman wearing a facemask. That thing hides 75% of their face.

 

[MoMoses]

Did you have something going on yesterday that made your mind preoccupied?

Nope! But her perfume was really distracting me and in the morning she had a really bad breathe. She's been texting me all day. I don't get women. Surely she must have noticed that I wasn't really feeling it?

 

[BadBoy89]

Never have sex for the sake of sex and having "another notch in your belt".

I wouldn't tell me younger self this. Would agree if the woman is over 35.

But I think anything between 20-30 that is thin and decent looking, knock it out the park. I missed out on so many opportunities because the woman wasn’t “hot” enough. The media knows how to constantly bombard you with images to get brainwashed.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I wouldn't tell me younger self this. Would agree if the woman is over 35.

But I think anything between 20-30 that is thin and decent looking, knock it out the park. I missed out on so many opportunities because the woman wasn’t “hot” enough. The media knows how to constantly bombard you with images to get brainwashed.

Thanks for sharing that.

100% agree about what is considered "hot" vs not. It's all media constructed. You nailed it there. We are, indeed, constantly being brainwashed to influence our thinking and behavior.

However, and correct us if we are wrong, but the issue for him (from what we understand) is not she wasn't "hot". The issue is simply that he wasn't the least attracted to her, and therefore the semi-erection. If anything, it sounds like he was the opposite of attracted, he was repulsed.

A woman doesn't have to be "hot" (although we all know that would ideal), for us to get turned on. But we need to at least be somewhat, or at the very least, slightly attracted to her for a man to feel that need. Her personality was also plain and boring, and that didn't help.

Again, correct us if we are wrong but no men should feel "obligated" to have sex because she is:

• A woman with a vagina
• You are in private

Our two cents,
Modern Man Advice

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Lol that's why I will never approach a woman wearing a facemask. That thing hides 75% of their face.

Some are uglier with em others more attractive

 

[MoMoses]

However, and correct us if we are wrong, but the issue for him (from what we understand) is not she wasn't "hot". The issue is simply that he wasn't the least attracted to her, and therefore the semi-erection. If anything, it sounds like he was the opposite of attracted, he was repulsed.

Correct. I have had sex with uglier women before. Some would have made a star appearance in Planets of The Apes. Hey, my standards have gotten higher over the years. Don't judge me

But this one became more and more unattractive the more I started to focus on it.

Anyway. Lesson learned

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Yeah this can be an issue because you don't want to love a girl, a girl you love, you really can't get to the depth to borderline hurt a broad the way your banging her, your timid with a woman you love.

To me, there is just a way certain women move their bodies that activates it, but there are some women who just can't move their bodies in that way, they are rigid, masculine and its unattractive, I'm quite pleased with this post as this is the first time I feel I've been able to accurately articulate this feeling.

 

[RickTheToad]

Nope! But her perfume was really distracting me and in the morning she had a really bad breathe. She's been texting me all day. I don't get women. Surely she must have noticed that I wasn't really feeling it?

Try it again to know for sure. Could had been just an off day. Never leave good pvssy on the ground. Now, if it was bad pvssy, then let it go.

 

[FuzzX]

I remember going down on a girl that was so rank she could've wilted flowers. 3 seconds in and I told her I was hungry and we went to get a hot dog instead, then I dropped her off and drank a whole bottle of Listerine.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I remember going down on a girl that was so rank she could've wilted flowers. 3 seconds in and I told her I was hungry and we went to get a hot dog instead, then I dropped her off and drank a whole bottle of Listerine.

I had one with a smell like salmon that had been left out until it's rotting combined with poop.... Literally poop. That killed any shot for an erection had to get head. She had that the next time but the time after that it was gone. Suspect it was bacterial vaginotis and she got the medicine.