Without sounding like a broken record, you should always use text as an introductory tool only and to build just enough comfort to get them out asap.
Lol this is nonsense. You can definitely build attraction/interest via text, just don't overdo it by giving her validation or constant back and forth. A few light texts per week is all you need for a plate.
Trying to raise attraction with texting is pure damage control. You should have raised the attraction when getting her number. If you have to depend on texting to get the job done you already lost the first battle.
Keep things light and fun. Don't try and build too much report by telling her too much about yourself. Treat texts as a sort of trailer of what it would be like for her to be on a date with you. Let her get curious so she wants to see the movie that this trailer is all about (= see you in person). If the trailer shows the entire movie and you can already guess how it will end... would you really wanna see that movie? I'm guessing no. It's the same with women. If they already know the ending they lose their interest. So give yourself bit by bit and don't pour the entire
I think having some texting in between times you see your plates can actually work to your advantage. I do agree with keeping it all very light-hearted though and not divulging any major details about yourself. It should essentially just be for flirting/building some tension for the next meetup.
It does not work to your advantage unless she is initiating. Women have to miss you for their feelings to intensify. The only time you should be initiating contact with a woman is to ask her out for the next date.
I agree for the most part. But I do think you can initiate with something light-hearted every once in awhile. I like the 3/1 rule on this (even though I just stated rules are overrated ha). For every three times she initiates you can initiate once. I think it lets them know you are invested in keeping them around (even if it is just to be a plate).
Attraction wasn't the right word...I'd say intrigue or hamster spinning is better. Also I would say another reason not to overdo your "text game" is because it might not live up to your wit and humor in person.
No. I don’t know why you guys feel the need to chit chat it up with women. That is feminine behavior.
I think if you act that aloof you will lose some that you could otherwise keep if you’re essentially never reaching out even once. I think it’s more about content and keeping it light.
no he's rite. except about the phone call thing
You care too much about losing her. The ones with high interest... they don’t want to lose you!
You are competing for her attention ultimately. She's just your turn. Even if she's chasing...you can lose place in her spotlight at any moment by a new guy she talks to even if he's lower value. The texting thing isn't about "building rapport" or getting to know them or any of that BS, it's just keeping some sort of presence in her mind. You have to account for their incredibly low attention spans, they will chase whatever is right in front of them and forget the rest in a heartbeat.
Here’s my thing - so I just banged the HB 7.5 I spoke about in the other thread (to which I thank you for your advice!). Since we banged, she has been texting almost nonstop with very high interest. Due to our schedules we couldn’t see each other for 9 days (down to 7 now). If I essentially ignored these texts and told her I would call her once within 9 days until I see her next I think there’s a much higher likelihood I get a flake for the 3rd date than if I’m in constant, light hearted banter with her via text here and there.
No. That’s backwards. She thinks more about the guy that isn’t blowing up her phone.
So if she is texting you every day do you really tell her “hey I will call you sometime before our next date” and then go dark until you make the phone call?
