Thank you OP. The myth of Chad is perpetuated by guys who never had a seat at the cool kid’s table, who never went to the good high school and college parties, who never made it into the VIP, extrapolating what they see from the outside looking in and filling in the gaps with their imagination.
I used to work in the nightlife. I’ve logged thousands upon thousands of hours in bar and clubs across dozens of cities and parties at a handful of colleges. I was plugged in with some regionalized celebrities (about as high status as you can get in this particular status-obsessed city); I was in VIP brushing shoulders with even more high status celebs than them. I’ve met ball players. I still go out and game in the college bars. I’ve yet to meet Chad.
I know guys who kill it, but they’re usually not the objectively highest status or conventionally attractive guys—usually they’re just socially really well-connected in a particular environment and when that environment disappears (they graduate high school or college or the club closes, etc.), they usually settle down or dumpster dive until they can rebuild a similar dynamic somewhere else (if they even know how to do that and didn’t just luck their way into it). A lot of those guys never do and just settle down. The other fact of the matter is that the overwhelming majority of guys who do have high sexual status in a particular environment will end up pretty monogamous with a cute or hot (or sometimes even meh) girl for months/years at a time. Very few guys are out to rack numbers—even fewer have the skill set to do it consistently.
Every time I see the Chad stuff, I’m just like get off the internet. Leave your house. Befriend the guys you think are Chad. Learn game. Try to take girls off of those guys. Stay at the bar til last close to see how rarely one of the good looking dudes talking to the hot girl actually leaves with her.
I used to work in the nightlife. I’ve logged thousands upon thousands of hours in bar and clubs across dozens of cities and parties at a handful of colleges. I was plugged in with some regionalized celebrities (about as high status as you can get in this particular status-obsessed city); I was in VIP brushing shoulders with even more high status celebs than them. I’ve met ball players. I still go out and game in the college bars. I’ve yet to meet Chad.
I know guys who kill it, but they’re usually not the objectively highest status or conventionally attractive guys—usually they’re just socially really well-connected in a particular environment and when that environment disappears (they graduate high school or college or the club closes, etc.), they usually settle down or dumpster dive until they can rebuild a similar dynamic somewhere else (if they even know how to do that and didn’t just luck their way into it). A lot of those guys never do and just settle down. The other fact of the matter is that the overwhelming majority of guys who do have high sexual status in a particular environment will end up pretty monogamous with a cute or hot (or sometimes even meh) girl for months/years at a time. Very few guys are out to rack numbers—even fewer have the skill set to do it consistently.
Every time I see the Chad stuff, I’m just like get off the internet. Leave your house. Befriend the guys you think are Chad. Learn game. Try to take girls off of those guys. Stay at the bar til last close to see how rarely one of the good looking dudes talking to the hot girl actually leaves with her.