Hi,
I just turned 40 about a month ago. I did extremely well with women in my 20s all the way up to age 39. I have noticed for the past year that I fail alot more at getting womens numbers then when I used to. People in public refer to me as "sir" now which makes me feel really old. Is there any point in working out or doing activities anymore if people are gonna look at me as an old man? Even if you workout at this age, you are still gonna have an old face. Its depressing to say the least. Are there any guys on this forum that are in there 40s and beyond that are actually getting women in there 20s and lower 30s without having to pay for it? I feel like I cant reverse this. I feel like it was just yesterday when I was in my 20s and now im 40. Time is going by so fast and its scaring me. Any advice guys?
I turned 40 a few of months ago and my story's completely different.
I struggled with women when I was in my 20s. I wasn't ugly and girls liked me as a friend (well wasn't that sweet of them?). I had no game, no balls and was more of a "fisher" rather then a "hunter". I slept with 4 women in 10 years with a dry spell between 2005 and 2008. Let that sink in for a minute.
Then I turned 30 and I got rejected by a girl I was really into. That same day I saw an ad on the Internet about a guy who claimed he could help men like me. I figured, why not give it a try.. That was day 1 as far as I'm concerned. I didn't even know I was blue pilled until then. I read lots of books (Corey Wayne, Dan Bacon, Robert Glover, etc) and started to see where I went wrong and what I had to do. I'm no natural. I had to learn this shiit.
The first few years I was still afraid to approach women, but there was this new thing called Tinder and boy did I learn how to use that one. At one point I was going into a shop with a tinder date and behind the counter there was another tinder match working.. that was awkward. Later we went to a bar and the waitress turned out to be yet another Tinder match (never went on a date with her though). I felt like Joey in Friends when he thought he slept with all the girls in New York. It became really awkward when I matched with a girl and one of her pictures was her with her two girlfriends.. I had matched with all three of them in the course of a year.
Tinder Dates helped me build up my confidence and as I grew older I started to rely on that app less and less, especially because the hot 23 yo's weren't swiping 34 yo's anymore. That was a pity. I even went as far as to lie about my age on the app. That was a new low. I started approaching girls and I learned that this was way better than Tinder. Girls that would have never swiped me to the right now gave me their number and went on dates with me.
I'm 40 now, although most girls still guess me to be 37-38. Never felt better and I noticed an odd thing. Young girls (as young as 18 ) flirt with me, but so do 45 yo's. There's a broader spectrum then when I was 30 yo. I go to the gym and this keeps me in shape. It's more natural to lead now then when I was younger and that's attractive. People take me serious when I speak up and that wasn't the case when I was 29 (granted, I had no confidence at that age, this isn't the case with most 29 yo's).
I'm still learning every day, so for me.. no, I don't feel getting older is a problem. We'll see in a few years, but my grey hair is suddenly attractive and when I was 28 I was a freak because I had grey hair, or at least I felt like a freak because of it. Which 28 yo has grey hair?? It was terrible.
