BackInTheGame78
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So I have been seeing my main plate for almost 5 months. In truth I think we are more than just plates, we talk to each other daily, sleep over at each other's place when we see each other, she has a toothbrush for me at her place, etc.. Also when I say we text each other daily it's usually a few texts throughout the day not all day long...but the past few weeks something seems off. Sex wasn't the issue, we pretty much have sex everytime we see each other, including last time.
I know she has a lot going on at work where she is pretty high up and some things have been really stressing her out and her son just started up hockey again so she has been doing a lot with that. Haven't seen her in 2 weeks, which has happened before but I kind of get the sense that I am now a burden that she can't handle at this time.
My birthday is coming up and she knows it but hasn't mentioned anything about it in regards to doing something for it. I kind of feel some type of way about it if I am being honest...is it wrong to think that if you have been dating for that long that they should figure something out or want to do something for you?
I almost feel like I am accepting being a 0 priority in her life and in some ways feel like I am disrespecting myself by accepting this. Am I overreacting? Do I just need to take a step back and chill?
She has admitted that she internalizes a lot of things when she is stressed and kind of shuts down to focus and get things done.
I haven't asked her to do anything since last week when she ended up not being able to due to work stuff(she works late a lot) and don't plan to at this point but I am wondering if I should just tell her this isn't working for me and to get back in touch if things change or if I should just wait things out for a little while and see if things change.
I am dating a couple of other women at this point but I don't see anything long term possible with them like I do woth this one.
Advice in this situation? I haven't acted needy, never double text, and don't cry about her not having time or anything like that. I have been pretty chill about it.
I know she has a lot going on at work where she is pretty high up and some things have been really stressing her out and her son just started up hockey again so she has been doing a lot with that. Haven't seen her in 2 weeks, which has happened before but I kind of get the sense that I am now a burden that she can't handle at this time.
My birthday is coming up and she knows it but hasn't mentioned anything about it in regards to doing something for it. I kind of feel some type of way about it if I am being honest...is it wrong to think that if you have been dating for that long that they should figure something out or want to do something for you?
I almost feel like I am accepting being a 0 priority in her life and in some ways feel like I am disrespecting myself by accepting this. Am I overreacting? Do I just need to take a step back and chill?
She has admitted that she internalizes a lot of things when she is stressed and kind of shuts down to focus and get things done.
I haven't asked her to do anything since last week when she ended up not being able to due to work stuff(she works late a lot) and don't plan to at this point but I am wondering if I should just tell her this isn't working for me and to get back in touch if things change or if I should just wait things out for a little while and see if things change.
I am dating a couple of other women at this point but I don't see anything long term possible with them like I do woth this one.
Advice in this situation? I haven't acted needy, never double text, and don't cry about her not having time or anything like that. I have been pretty chill about it.