Mr Force Kin
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I don't know if I am being too offensive. I met her off tinder and we texted before the date and everything seemed to be going well and she seemed cool. Turned out she wasn't.
She is from the Philippines, came here 4 years ago, and when I asked her why she came to Canada, she got a little defensive. She came to study English. When I asked her if she spoke any English before she came here, she said: Yes, of course. And why would I ask her such a question? (Because she came here to study English?) Later, I asked her about if it was tough to adjust to the cultural differences, as it was for me; That was basically the end of the date. She didn't really look at me after this and was very cold like I offended her personally.
How is it that some people are so easily offended that they feel like they have to go on the defense. I wasn't born here, but I would never act this way if someone asks questions trying to get to know me. I had challenges in life, but it is what led to me being successful in life and to be who I am today. If anything, I appreciate talking about this. It is a topic I like talking and sharing about because it moves me.
Do I have to be more careful when asking about the past, even if it is an important part of who we are? I don't think my questions were in any way inappropriate. She is definitely the kind of sensitive social justice type. Maybe not my type of girl in a sense, but hot nonetheless. Now I feel kind of guilty, like it was my fault for asking these kinds of questions and make her feel this way.
She is from the Philippines, came here 4 years ago, and when I asked her why she came to Canada, she got a little defensive. She came to study English. When I asked her if she spoke any English before she came here, she said: Yes, of course. And why would I ask her such a question? (Because she came here to study English?) Later, I asked her about if it was tough to adjust to the cultural differences, as it was for me; That was basically the end of the date. She didn't really look at me after this and was very cold like I offended her personally.
How is it that some people are so easily offended that they feel like they have to go on the defense. I wasn't born here, but I would never act this way if someone asks questions trying to get to know me. I had challenges in life, but it is what led to me being successful in life and to be who I am today. If anything, I appreciate talking about this. It is a topic I like talking and sharing about because it moves me.
Do I have to be more careful when asking about the past, even if it is an important part of who we are? I don't think my questions were in any way inappropriate. She is definitely the kind of sensitive social justice type. Maybe not my type of girl in a sense, but hot nonetheless. Now I feel kind of guilty, like it was my fault for asking these kinds of questions and make her feel this way.