Side b*tch game.. for the experienced, accomplished men ..

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

This really depends if you are colluding finance or not with your LTR, if the strings that bind you are emotional in nature, rather than metaphysical, you can... "Safely" take risks.

However, if this move could **** up your finances in any way, this is a bad move, a man ain't nothing without his provisions and side won't be on the side for a guy who's life is a mess.

Regardless of the strings however, you should always be talking to women.

Resources over everything, don't do this if your gonna have to refinance the house when she takes her income and walks, as you said, implication is living together.

If we are talking about a woman who does not work or is a mom, I don't think there is any doubt that you will have the time, and the means.

Each to his own, but if you are committed financially, either leave her or commit.

 

[CBear]

Absolutely no thoughts or care on if this is moral or not. Just remember, you get what you give. So the ones that do this must fully expect their ltr to be doing the same and if they are surprised, angry, or feel betrayed, then they are hypocrites of life. This happens often in western society, however, and the people that engage in it continue to be miserable for some reason.

 

[Lookatu]

Ok Judgements aside.

Having multiple plates can basically be similar to what OP is saying.

- Make sure you meet up somewhere far from your LTR(20+ min is safe)
- Make sure you have additional clothes in your car(women can smell other women on you or their hair sticks to you)
- Make sure you're always wearing cologne or body spray and keep one in your car(masks other women's scent/perfume)
- Make sure you keep some breath strips in your carr(especially if you like eating pvssy. LOL)
- Make sure you use alternate number like Google Voice(turn off the notifications though)
- Make sure you have portable 12v Vacuum and also lint roller for your clothes(women's hairs sticks everywhere)
- If you have a beard, make sure you wash it good before returning or seeing the next one.(Lot of smells and fluids can get trapped in there)
- Always meet at her place when possible. (minimizes any evidence)
- Get used to taking showers afterwards. (Just tell your other girl that you are OCD about staying clean)
- Don't be on social media(facial recognition/tagging)
- Do not take selfies with the other girl(facial recognition/tagging/evidence)
- Always have backup condoms stashed in a secret place in your car(that way your main doesn't keep track of your condom inventory)
- Be congruent with your behavior. Often times guys that have done something wrong or feel guilty end up being overly nice and cheery to their main. Women definitely pickup on this and get suspicious
- Learn to have excuses/stories that tie into something that really happened. It's easier that way to remember your lies.
For example: Excuse: "I can't stay that long tomorrow as I have to go to a buddy's birthday party" Reality: You are going to celebrate your main's birthday. This is similar enough to easily remember though for future reference.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How would you react if you found out she was already being unfaithful before you decided to be? haha! that would be fun...

And don't try to BS yourself out of this with saying you are just "meeting your natural needs". If you merely wanted multiple women you could break up, make it open, or polyamorous. This is about your amoral hedonism and nothing else, at least just own up to that. Not only do you contaminate the forum with your hypocrisy, but you are too spineless to admit to doing so. Now I won't bother you any more, I don't have any futile delusions that anything will change... as I said, this is what we are. Peace...

Most of the guys who do multiples "don't do relationships", they just have 2 or 3 babes that their fvcking that they don't take too serious.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Absolutely no thoughts or care on if this is moral or not. Just remember, you get what you give. So the ones that do this must fully expect their ltr to be doing the same and if they are surprised, angry, or feel betrayed, then they are hypocrites of life. This happens often in western society, however, and the people that engage in it continue to be miserable for some reason.

"the ones who engage in it continue to be miserable for some reason", i wonder why? It's because they know and it doesn't feel good to know that, even if they sign on for it and continue to do it.

 

[Dash Riprock]

@cola,

Same thing happened to me. I was in a 9-year LTR with a gorgeous Croatian woman. Really good girlfriend for the most part. Had some personality quirks I didn’t care for but no one is perfect. First three years were great (good sex), second three were just ok (sex diminished a lot) and the last three years we were like roommates (almost no sex). I just got sick of having sex with the same woman over and over. She kept in great shape and was good looking up until the end, but if you have a hot fudge sundae every day, eventually you'll get sick of them. The fact she was VERY meticulous and fastidious and passive-aggressive (could NOT communicate) didn't help. We actually slept in separate bedrooms for most of time we lived together 5-6 years--her choice. That kind of killed it for me sex-wise.

I considered a side piece and had offers, one was a really hot client who asked me out. I called her and told her sure, but I'm with someone now. She wouldn’t do it.

Looking back, I should have gotten out of the relationship 2-3 years before I did, but no one ever gets that right as hindsight is always 20/20.

My recommendations for you are:

1) Just go single. I've been for 5 years and though sometimes I think about having a steady gf, the thought of all the work, communication hassles, problems, sacrificing my time and hobbies, etc., etc., far outweigh the benefits.
2) Exes are likely more open to a side-fling than some unknown new chick.
3) Try a site like Seeking Arrangement or Sugar Daddy Meet. I’ve banged many hot girls off these sites half my age and aside from some drinks and appetizers, never "paid" for sex. They just want successful MEN who have confidence and game and are in good shape and have their s*it together. The whole "age difference" thing is much less taboo now than 10-20 years ago, I've found. It was easy af.

Good luck.

 

[Alvafe]

I follow the dash line of thinking really, wishing to dip the pen in others kind of ink is normal we all get that, but then there is the social aspect of our living, and if you will fell guilty or not, your mind is teh judge of you, op starting with "don't judge" is more a indicative he is feeling back about thinking about it at all.

what you should do is or you just let the feeling go, or end with her and play single field again, not because of morals or anything like that but is for your own integrity, end of day what is important is if you will still live with yourself, if just thinking about it is giving you a tip of guilty, if you do commit it you will only feel worse.

if was me, and I tell you is not rare I would just let it go, because the moment I stay witha woman, I give her my word and I tend to keep my word, just because of that, but then again, I don't commit, I know its fleeting any "feeling" I get and most of time it don't benefit me

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@cola,

Same thing happened to me. I was in a 9-year LTR with a gorgeous Croatian woman. Really good girlfriend for the most part. Had some personality quirks I didn’t care for but no one is perfect. First three years were great (good sex), second three were just ok (sex diminished a lot) and the last three years we were like roommates (almost no sex). I just got sick of having sex with the same woman over and over. She kept in great shape and was good looking up until the end, but if you have a hot fudge sundae every day, eventually you'll get sick of them. The fact she was VERY meticulous and fastidious and passive-aggressive (could NOT communicate) didn't help. We actually slept in separate bedrooms for most of time we lived together 5-6 years--her choice. That kind of killed it for me sex-wise.

Some of us can fvck the same "good" pvssy for years and continue to enjoy it! What kills the taste for you is the "games" ( sleeping in different bedrooms, passive agressive, METICULOUS but without good communication ).

I considered a side piece and had offers, one was a really hot client who asked me out. I called her and told her sure, but I'm with someone now. She wouldn’t do it.

Looking back, I should have gotten out of the relationship 2-3 years before I did, but no one ever gets that right as hindsight is always 20/20.

Yes it's clarity.

My recommendations for you are:

1) Just go single. I've been for 5 years and though sometimes I think about having a steady gf, the thought of all the work, communication hassles, problems, sacrificing my time and hobbies, etc., etc., far outweigh the benefits.
2) Exes are likely more open to a side-fling than some unknown new chick.
3) Try a site like Seeking Arrangement or Sugar Daddy Meet. I’ve banged many hot girls off these sites half my age and aside from some drinks and appetizers, never "paid" for sex. They just want successful MEN who have confidence and game and are in good shape and have their s*it together. The whole "age difference" thing is much less taboo now than 10-20 years ago, I've found. It was easy af.

Good luck.

Good info on the sites, and the fact you didn't "pay", that's good info in this day and age.

 

[2Rocky]

I'd say if you seriously need a different flavor, Observe the 100 mile rule, Make it a one off event, be safe (protected sex).

100 mile rule: outside of your social circle and out of town

One Off: One night stand or one weekend and never see them again. Take their number out of your phone

Safe Sex. No bringing home diseases or siring a kid.

Best way is the 21 legal brothels in Nevada. I seriously think it should be nationwide.

If you need to branch out more than once a year, you should really consider whether you should be in an LTR.

 

[Lookatu]

Best way is the 21 legal brothels in Nevada. I seriously think it should be nationwide.

Have you been here? Care to comment if so?

 

[2Rocky]

Have you been here? Care to comment if so?

Was a bucket list item. Done. Moving on.

 

[Romanemp22]

I always stumble upon same thing whenever I'm in ltr. It's in our nature, craving for more women. You're current gf may be really hot but it's just a matter of time when the better looking girl will walk by.

If you're not living together it's very possible to get a side girl and bang her occasionally.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thoughts and opinions from an experienced cheater:

There will arrive a point, a crossroads, when you look in the mirror, and it will feel impossible to accept or reconcile the image steering back at you. The way you choose to react to this "epiphany" will define you, and it will forever permeate your soul and conscience.

It can be a very tough burden to bear.

I feel no sense of pride and joy in deceiving anybody, especially the women who care for and love me.

Despite this, I still continue in my whoring ways.

The few women I've been in LTRs with have all loved and supported me deeply, but NOTHING seems to outweigh the rush and andrenline that I feel from chasing hundreds of other women.

You can be a wh0re without decieving women...

 

[2Rocky]

You can be a wh0re without decieving women...

There is an internet blogger who writes about doing it (open Relationship) but I can't say there are many people pulling it off successfully long term.

 

[Lookatu]

The woman I was in a recent LTR with found a condom in my glove compartment.

- Always have backup condoms stashed in a secret place in your car(that way your main doesn't keep track of your condom inventory)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The woman I was in a recent LTR with found a condom in my glove compartment. She brought it into the house and placed it atop my bedroom dresser. She never said a word to me about it.

I felt no sense of relief from that. Made me feel pretty shiatty about myself.

Just tell them, you do some things, and if it makes them feel better that they can do some things. There are some people who would be cool with that.

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

I 100 percent own up to that.. I get tired of the same p*ssy can’t help it. If we were on an iPhone I’d end that last sentence with the shrug emoji.

Men in my family take care of home, drag their ass to work everyday, put in that over time and as a consolation get their d*ck sucked in Vegas or New Orleans a couple times a year.

sounds like how my grandfather lived , he owned a mech shop and brought in the dollars but sounds like apparently he was a flirt

 

[Lookatu]

Honesty is the best policy, and in the early phase of courtship, I'm convinced many women will go along with this.

However, in my experience, very few women will ever truly accept "an open relationship."

Whether they agree to it or not, inevitably, their heart and soul WILL demand exclusivity (because they are biologically programmed to seek exclusivity), and they WILL avenge/try to wreak emotional havok on you, even if they acquiesce to other lovers.

Disclaimer: I'm the world's biggest hypocrite. I want to have my cake and eat it too. I don't want to be alone. I want a stable, live-in GF with whom I can share a "normal" life...BUT I also want to experience the thrill and the rush and the subsequent disconnect that compulses me to sexually pursue women.

^^^ Truth. It can be a month or a year or more but eventually all females will want exclusivity if you hold any value at all(which you do since she's willing to be with you).

 

[metalwater]

I get where you’re coming from. This thread isn’t for everybody. If the topic triggers you morally your objections are respected.

Let’s face it. A certain percentage of us need multiple partners and a certain percentage are content with one. That’s male and female.

does this mean that to be a man one must have multiple partners. thats male and female?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Honesty is the best policy, and in the early phase of courtship, I'm convinced many women will go along with this.

However, in my experience, very few women will ever truly accept an "open" long-term relationship.

Whether they agree to it or not, inevitably, their heart and soul WILL demand exclusivity (because they are biologically programmed for exclusivity), and they WILL try to avenge/wreak emotional and physical havoc on you, even if they acquiesce to other lovers.

Disclaimer: I'm the world's biggest hypocrite. I want to have my cake and eat it too. I want a stable, live-in GF with whom I can share the many wonderments of a "normal" life...BUT I also want to experience the freedom and the thrill and the decadence of chasing women.

Currently I choose the easier route, the route of deception. It will likely catch up with me, but I'll be able to accept getting caught. Sad, but I am willing to risk losing the very women who truly love and care for me.

Sounds like a woman in 2021. Nowadays you can actually say this is how you want it and ladies will be ok with it.