As far as cars go they should be congruent with the rest of a man's lifestyle. Don't live in a trailer park and drive a Ferrari unless you own the trailer park (or several - they are quite lucrative actually
)...personally I don't care what kind of car a man drives so long as I like the man and what he stands for. Am I going to date someone who drives a rusted out beater? No. Men with rusted out beaters aren't going to make the cut with me in other ways...especially given that I'm dating in the 40's and 50's where a man should have been able to accomplish some thing in his life just as I have.
My current guy drives a late model modest Ford vehicle that he keeps immaculately clean. He used to drive an exotic muscle car, but he found that it had some disadvantages. The disadvantages were 1.) It attracted too much attention and people wanting to touch it, and oogle it and take pictures of it, which he liked for a time but that got old; 2.) It attracted too much attention from law enforcement when he would go out, which crimped his ability to go out (what fun is a 700+ HP car if you never get to really drive it because all the police are watching you like a hawk); 3.) It was incredibly expensive cost of ownership over time (new tires were 4 figures a batch, oil changes required a specially qualified and very expensive mechanic, regular maint. was incredibly expensive, etc.)...and his business income went up and down with the economy but the cost of keeping that car stayed expensive. He misses it sometimes but he doesn't miss the expense and the unwanted attention.
I agree with
@marmel75 that you should never spend money (and NEVER get into debt) for a depreciating asset. That is dumb. A very poor use of capital indeed. I pay cash for cars, get the absolute best deal that I can negotiate, and drive them until the wheels come off. That's what I learned from my family.
I did buy my ex husband an older muscle car (that was something I promised him when we got divorced). It's a Challenger 6-speed Hemi with a custom exhaust and catback and whatever else...It's the car he really wanted and it was very clean and well taken care of with lots of extras and options and upgrades for the money. And yes I paid cash. It's loud and sounds great and he is enjoying it. He gets some extra attention from women because of it, but he's good with women any way so it's kind of a wash.
stop defending women
even the ones on this forum are looking for well-earning male (and they overtly claim it).
Correct statement. However I think some context is appropriate. I for one do not care to be a sugar mama. I've already got an ex and kids to support financially. I don't care to sign up for any more of that. I get approached constantly by hot men aged 28-40 who frankly are too young for me...but they approach anyway. Breeder type guys as some refer to on this thread. Meh. I'm going to think I know more than they do in life, I am not going to think they can lead me (I've met ONE who I thought could - he was 35, owned an international business, was a millionaire, and was very grounded and sexy and mature - but he was still too young.)...
Because I require someone who is on the same level as myself financially I won't date someone who doesn't have means. NOT because I'm seeking resources (I have my own resources) but because I'm seeking someone who *thinks* like I do, who understands business and success like I do, and preferably someone who knows MORE than I do and so I can learn from him and expand my knowledge base by knowing him.
And yes, I'm interested in the man as a person. Who he is as a person is very important to me. Yes he needs to have his act together as I do, and be physically attractive as I am, but beyond that I care a great deal about who he is as a person. To think women don't care about who a man is, well that is both foolish and short sighted.