Barrister
Master Don Juan
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Something I don't think truly exists except in very limited circumstances. Those circumstances being your buddy's wife, a childhood friend you have known for ages, employer/employee (not that this stops everyone), neither person finds the other attractive at all, etc. (there are others but don't want to bog this post down). Even in these circumstances, outside of the limited circumstance where there is no attraction either way, I think there can be sexual tension that but for the previous relationship something would otherwise happen.
For the most part, I think in most dynamics between a man and a woman, one of them, typically the man, is always going to be attempting to escalate the situation to sex. I had a disagreement with an ex in the past that told me that my stance made her "feel sorry for me" because of what I was missing out on to be friends with women. I simply disagree it is possible. I think there is always an undercurrent of sexual energy and that it will be in play in some way, maybe not overtly, in a relationship between a man and a woman (in most situations).
I think women will sometimes view their orbiters as platonic "friends" when in fact these orbiters are generally beta men that want nothing more than to move into a sexual role with her -- she just is not receptive to it and then pigeon holes them into the friendzone believing that she has a platonic, male friend. They, being desperate, accept this role in the friendzone because they (wrongfully) believe that if they bide their time being friends then it may become more.
For the most part, I think in most dynamics between a man and a woman, one of them, typically the man, is always going to be attempting to escalate the situation to sex. I had a disagreement with an ex in the past that told me that my stance made her "feel sorry for me" because of what I was missing out on to be friends with women. I simply disagree it is possible. I think there is always an undercurrent of sexual energy and that it will be in play in some way, maybe not overtly, in a relationship between a man and a woman (in most situations).
I think women will sometimes view their orbiters as platonic "friends" when in fact these orbiters are generally beta men that want nothing more than to move into a sexual role with her -- she just is not receptive to it and then pigeon holes them into the friendzone believing that she has a platonic, male friend. They, being desperate, accept this role in the friendzone because they (wrongfully) believe that if they bide their time being friends then it may become more.