Moving forward with a woman

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So I have got a hot chick interested in me. I want suggestions on this-
1. I don't have a great profile on Instagram and that's what she has asked for. We have only talked on Bumble for now. What should I do about this?
2. She is rich. I'm not. I'm usually busy all day with studies and work. I feel this won't go anywhere. Your opinions?
 

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You should never do something because some woman you are interested in is asking you to do it. If you don’t have a great Instagram account and that is what she wants then she is not the girl for you.

You also say that she has more money than you. This is also a problem because women do not date down and she will look down on you. Women with money want to date guys with more money than them.

I don’t think you have a future with this girl. You should be talking to and dating lots of girls, don’t get hung up on just one of them.

If you really want to try with this girl you just need to ask her out and see how it goes. Don’t try and build rapport with her through Bumble and Instagram, just ask her out.
 

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So I have got a hot chick interested in me. I want suggestions on this-
1. I don't have a great profile on Instagram and that's what she has asked for. We have only talked on Bumble for now. What should I do about this?
2. She is rich. I'm not. I'm usually busy all day with studies and work. I feel this won't go anywhere. Your opinions?
Get her to meet up and escalate.

If she doesn't cooperate, ditch her and move on to the next.
 

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Girls who ask for your IG are looking to judge your value online, in order to determine if you are “worthy” of them. Almost no man can compete with a woman on IG, given the number of thirsty men who follow and blow up her pics. You can’t seduce her via an IG profile. She doesn’t understand that but you do so you have to lead her. You can tell her you’re interested in meeting her, not her social media persona, and ask her to meet up at a specific time and place. If she doesn’t agree then you next. Simple as that. And don’t worry about her wealth. Think about all the deadbeats who get hot women. Push it out of your mind and do not let it cause you to pedestalize her.
 
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You should never do something because some woman you are interested in is asking you to do it. If you don’t have a great Instagram account and that is what she wants then she is not the girl for you.

You also say that she has more money than you. This is also a problem because women do not date down and she will look down on you. Women with money want to date guys with more money than them.

I don’t think you have a future with this girl. You should be talking to and dating lots of girls, don’t get hung up on just one of them.

If you really want to try with this girl you just need to ask her out and see how it goes. Don’t try and build rapport with her through Bumble and Instagram, just ask her out.
One day avg salaries for that gender will exceed man. And in some ethnic groups it's already true.
 

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So I have got a hot chick interested in me. I want suggestions on this-
1. I don't have a great profile on Instagram and that's what she has asked for. We have only talked on Bumble for now. What should I do about this?
2. She is rich. I'm not. I'm usually busy all day with studies and work. I feel this won't go anywhere. Your opinions?
No social media. Get her out in person. Number 2 is meaningless if she is interested. She will justify and rationalize to herself all the things she likes about you and your situation.

She wants you to have a great instagram profile? For what purpose? Never add women to social media. If they ask tell them you don't have it.
 
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So I have got a hot chick interested in me. I want suggestions on this-
1. I don't have a great profile on Instagram and that's what she has asked for. We have only talked on Bumble for now. What should I do about this?
2. She is rich. I'm not. I'm usually busy all day with studies and work. I feel this won't go anywhere. Your opinions?
You asked for opinions on this. Well,my question is,why are you letting her dictate the terms?

You say she's asked for you to have a "great" profile on Instagram. Ok....

So what demands have YOU ASKED of her? What standards of YOURS have you asked her to meet?

What...you have a pad and pen out,jotting down all her requests and changes she wants you to make before she'll consider going out with you?

You gonna ask anything of her? Or just follow all her demands like a good little boy,in hopes that she MIGHT go out with you?
 

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Ignore her request for instagram, social media is the devil.

Her being rich is nice, it won't be a problem if you don't have a problem with it and you don't let her use it to dictate anything.

See where it goes, see what her real interest is. You have the power.
 

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Moving forward? With what exactly? How do you move forward when you haven't made any moves at all?

Doesn't this all seem very premature considering you're still only talking online and know nothing about each other in real life?

I see thirst. Slow down man.
 

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If a chick asks for your Instagram or Facebook, just tell them you don't have one.
All they're gonna do is judge you when they see it.

If they ask why you don't have one, just you say you're busy man and you don't have time to be on the computer all day looking for validation.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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