These are the girls I swipe left on on Tinder/Bumble! Am I being too picky?

[Black Widow Void]

Welcome aboard...

Your standards are quite reasonable. In fact, back when I did on line dating, my dating criteria was almost identical. Because I'm older, I was more lenient about women with kids because the kids were usually in college or out of the house.

Your posting made me think about something.

Could it be that most men prefer a woman that is more conservative (no tattoos, etc..) ? I sure do.
If so, these women that meet our average expectations could be viewed as more of a 'catch' than they actually are. And therefor, they are quickly and more abundantly pursued by men. And as a result, they do not remain on the profiles as long as those of the 'lower hanging fruit' varity.

 

[JayAce]

Your list is more than reasonable

the only problem with it is that is like 80% of the women on these apps these days.

 

[Mazer]

It depends. I would have no problem having sex with single moms, women with piercings and tattoos but I would never get into a relationship with them. If you want quality then you need to be quality. What do you have to offer these ladies? Are you a high value male? Would you consider yourself to be out of their league in terms of looks? All good questions to ask yourself. If you are a three then I would reassess. You can date ****ty women or raise your value so your sexing 18yr olds every weekend. Good Luck

 

[MatureDJ]

1. Single mums. I never want my own kids so why would I want to raise another man’s?
Plus I have read countless articles/forum posts on here, girlschase etc that recommended you stay away.

2. Girls that are heavily tattooed/lots of body piercings. I’m cool with a girl having a little tattoo but I’m talking about girls that have their hands/fingers/entire arms/back/chest covered in tattoos. I’m also not into the look of girls that cover their faces in piercings. I prefer more feminine looking women.
I read an article on girlschase recommending to avoid heavily tattooed/pierced girls.

3.Girls that insist you must be over 6ft or say comments like ‘a man shorter than 6ft is known as just a friend’ well I’m not 6ft so why waste my time as well as theirs?

4.Fat girls

5, Girls that either just have 1 photo only (feel they are catfish) nothing written in their bio at all (lazy) or girls that just share their IG/Insta and say “I never use this app” that are fishing for followers.

6. Dark skinned girls. Not sure why but have just always had a preference for being attracted to white girls. I sometimes like some Asian girls too.

So I’m just looking for honest feedback here guys! Are my standards fine or are any of those maybe being slightly too picky?

I was recently chatting to some IRL friends and people on a Reddit group and a few people have said my standards are way too high for a dating app and that’s why I’m probably not getting many matches.

I’m 35 and have my age range set 18-40 I prefer younger women but happy to date a older woman that’s attractive.

Yes, I basically have the same filter. I've learned that a profile with only a face shot means the chick is fat.

 

[MatureDJ]

A big part of that depends on where you are. In my area, OLD is very much a dumpster fire as you describe it. I also swipe left on any woman who decides to include something in their bio about the Orange Man Being Bad.

But if you go to latin america, at least half the women are decent looking and you'll find your OLD blowing up if your profile is in english and you're semi good-looking. It's worth paying for tinder or bumble for the duration of a trip down there.

I deleted all my OLD apps because swiping in this area is a complete waste of time.

I do my macking in another part of the world, but it's the same as in Latin America.

 

[JayAce]

Yes, I basically have the same filter. I've learned that a profile with only a face shot means the chick is fat.

most of these women who take those face shots only pictures have to know that most guys understand she’s 99.9% fat, right?

it’s basically catfishing.

what’s the end game for them? meet up with the guy only for the guy (if he’s extremely naive about fat girl angle shots) to see that she’s a land whale and then either nope out or ghost her?

 

[MatureDJ]

most of these women who take those face shots only pictures have to know that most guys understand she’s 99.9% fat, right?

it’s basically catfishing.

what’s the end game for them? meet up with the guy only for the guy (if he’s extremely naive about fat girl angle shots) to see that she’s a land whale and then either nope out or ghost her?

There is always the guy who hasn't had the experience, and he might revert to Juggernaut Law for her. Of course, sometimes there is a body shot which is damn fine, but after 15 kg of porking out since, not so much anymore.

There was one gal that had an absolutely incredible body shot (she had a very cute face too), and after meeting her, I wondered if somehow I had miscalibrated, and she was actually not that fat. A 2nd date solved this issue for me.

 

[sangheilios]

The only cities where OLD has ever been great for me were LA, NYC, and a few cities in Florida.

in some cities you might as well swipe left forever because all you will get are low hanging fruit. In some cities you actually have to infiltrate social circles or develop a social life based on your hobbies and passions that have women in it.

I am in such a city night now. Every woman is either a fatty or single mom with 5 kids On tinder. I haven’t used tinder in a long time.

An experiment I did was hitting up chicks in third world countries on social media. It’s surprisingly easy. If you have the money, international game is worth it.

Im going to be traveling anyway so I’m using online to set up future dates. At first I thought there was something wrong with me because of my lack of luck in old. But then I realized it was just my environment.

Social game trumps all in my opinion. It will always stand the test of time. It’s pandemic proof. This past year my romantic life has mostly consisted of going to parties, get togethers, cabin in the woods, beach houses, bbq’s
,etc. there’s always something going on and someone always has a hot sister/cousin/female friends.

I would be hesitant to try to land women from foreign countries, particularly those from 3rd/poor countries. As a westerner, particularly an American, you will already be seen as a ticket to a free ride, whether that be getting a green card to the U.S, living a better lifestyle, etc. You shouldn't think of this as evil, it is in the best interest of these individual women to try to land a man from the developed nations, as the quality of life they and their potential children can be have will be much better compared to staying in their home nations. There also is this incorrect idea in some of these countries that the average American is rich and lives a life of luxury, sure relative to those countries that is partially true but a big reason for this view is from t.v shows and movies.

There is nothing wrong with looking for women overseas and I can understand why some men feel that they may be better than western, particularly American, women. You are more likely to find women that have more traditional values, in regards to family and man-woman relationships. These women may also be more appreciative of what you can offer them and be more down to earth. However, with that said I feel that this has been turned into a major scam that takes advantage of desperate/clueless men. I personally feel that there really shouldn't be a reason to resort to this and that having to do so says more about the current dating climate as a whole and you as an individual, in regards to why you are seeking to use this as a means to find a woman.

This video is super cringe but it's what comes to mind when I think of this.

 

[MatureDJ]

I would be hesitant to try to land women from foreign countries, particularly those from 3rd/poor countries. As a westerner, particularly an American, you will already be seen as a ticket to a free ride, whether that be getting a green card to the U.S, living a better lifestyle, etc. You shouldn't think of this as evil, it is in the best interest of these individual women to try to land a man from the developed nations, as the quality of life they and their potential children can be have will be much better compared to staying in their home nations. There also is this incorrect idea in some of these countries that the average American is rich and lives a life of luxury, sure relative to those countries that is partially true but a big reason for this view is from t.v shows and movies.

There is nothing wrong with looking for women overseas and I can understand why some men feel that they may be better than western, particularly American, women. You are more likely to find women that have more traditional values, in regards to family and man-woman relationships. These women may also be more appreciative of what you can offer them and be more down to earth. However, with that said I feel that this has been turned into a major scam that takes advantage of desperate/clueless men. I personally feel that there really shouldn't be a reason to resort to this and that having to do so says more about the current dating climate as a whole and you as an individual, in regards to why you are seeking to use this as a means to find a woman.

This video is super cringe but it's what comes to mind when I think of this.

The key is for the man to go live in HER country. Obviously, a man would need to have some level of financial security to do this, although teaching English (for native English speakers) would pay the rent.

 

[bat soup]

1. Single mums. I never want my own kids so why would I want to raise another man’s?
Plus I have read countless articles/forum posts on here, girlschase etc that recommended you stay away.

2. Girls that are heavily tattooed/lots of body piercings. I’m cool with a girl having a little tattoo but I’m talking about girls that have their hands/fingers/entire arms/back/chest covered in tattoos. I’m also not into the look of girls that cover their faces in piercings. I prefer more feminine looking women.
I read an article on girlschase recommending to avoid heavily tattooed/pierced girls.

3.Girls that insist you must be over 6ft or say comments like ‘a man shorter than 6ft is known as just a friend’ well I’m not 6ft so why waste my time as well as theirs?

4.Fat girls

5, Girls that either just have 1 photo only (feel they are catfish) nothing written in their bio at all (lazy) or girls that just share their IG/Insta and say “I never use this app” that are fishing for followers.

6. Dark skinned girls. Not sure why but have just always had a preference for being attracted to white girls. I sometimes like some Asian girls too.

So I’m just looking for honest feedback here guys! Are my standards fine or are any of those maybe being slightly too picky?

I was recently chatting to some IRL friends and people on a Reddit group and a few people have said my standards are way too high for a dating app and that’s why I’m probably not getting many matches.

I’m 35 and have my age range set 18-40 I prefer younger women but happy to date a older woman that’s attractive.

You should also swipe left on women that mention Instagram or that look like attention whoares. Don't waste your likes on them.