I also work around mostly men and we do the same. I get what you're saying. The problem is that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. You say something in real life and people go "haha" and hand it right back at you, you say the exact some words on the forum and due to the very limited form of communication that is text it's next to impossible to know whether you're serious or not.
If you want the same effect on the forum you have to be very mindful of how the readers are going to interpret you. In person this is covered by non-verbal communication, they get that it's a game and not just you trying to be a d!ck for the sake of it.
All in all, not against ruffling some feathers in good spirit, just be aware that it may be hard to see that it is good spirited due to being limited to only verbal/text communication.
I also work with all men for several decades now and agree.
Its the nonverbal, inperson communication that indicates how serious or how lighthearted someone is 'speaking'.
Iron sharpens iron and its still good practice with the backs-and- forths here on this forum, even if only with typed words.
One can ask a member here to present irl via video or even real phone but that doesn't mean they have the b@lls to do it. In fact, they're not obligated to and its unfair to judge them.
Some people prefer the anonymity aspect of typed words on a forum and for some its important to them for good reasons. 3 times I was willing to skype or whatever, talk on real phone number and third time, skype or whatever with longstanding members here(>5 years)
Each time fell through for some good reason.
Just trying to indicate its good to be more authentic and be willing to back up your typed words with evidence of you than be antagonistic.