you don't sit watching your missus get railed. you also sit in the same room being seduced by 2 women.I would like to see their facial expressions to see if they are really ok with that
Its more along the lines of "Art".
do you remember bram stokers dracula where he is being seduced by the female vampires, you must portray that energy.
If the woman ever feels you want to hold her hand whilst the other guy claim her ***** for an hour, she will lose all respect for you.
theres a knack to doing, like you say its pretty far out there, and not to everyones taste.