Female co worker

[flowtheory]

How would I know its an emergency when I clearly said she stated she going see her son but nothing about an emergency until I expressed my interest in her. No I dont tell women we should be intimate I tell women the reason why I approached or called them in the first place. Unlike you would probably asked women out for drinks or dinner then try to make a move only to find out she was never interested in you from the start but she enjoyed your time n money

You're just attempting to belittle me because you feel hurt because you recognize you made an error in your own character dealings and you're attempting to bring me to a lower level than you based on... literally nothing; atrociously weak speculation.
Fact: you could learn how to type a sentence with proper grammar and syntax and maybe I would listen to a single word you would say? Until then, I see a hurt and overly sensitive guy

To the point: you should have known that that point in time wouldn't have been the correct timing based on facts she told you, if you had been listening from the get-go. But you weren't and that's okay. You just have to OWN IT so you can learn from your MISTAKE. But all you want to do is defend your weak choices, which just makes you look even more foolish and dense. I'm here to help you get better. But I think you just want to blame shift things and be defensive. Life gets easier when you just accept you're flawed. Like me too. But you have to own your flaws (this is called responsibility) and then have the drive to intent to improve, so you can experience a more truthful and happier existence.

I see you learned the hard way because you used the example above: Never pay for drinks on the first time out. Never pay for dinner on the first go. A woman should invest heavily in you before you invest your money, so you know it's true desire.
Me personally? I don't pay for anything for women until we've slept together, and there is a solid investment where I experience overt and clear interest from her.

If correcting your errors make me defensive then I guess im defensive. The reason for this post is cause I never experienced a situation like that and hoping somebody in here has so they can share how they handle it. Thanks for your opinion but it dont mean nothing cause I can see you never been in this situation

I already told you how to handle it. But through the defensiveness of your very fragile ego, you didnt see the suggestion I posed which is actually very caring and solid for someone aside from your own selfish self. But because you're choosing to focus on the hurt you miss everything entirely and just want to bicker like a 7-year-old.
Action figure and balloons for the kid. This situation goes beyond petty dates and romance.
It’s merely an opportunity now for you to transcend

 

[Rocnavy]

You're just attempting to belittle me because you feel hurt because you recognize you made an error in your own character dealings and you're attempting to bring me to a lower level than you based on... literally nothing; atrociously weak speculation.
Fact: you could learn how to type a sentence with proper grammar and syntax and maybe I would listen to a single word you would say? Until then, I see a hurt and overly sensitive guy

To the point: you should have known that that point in time wouldn't have been the correct timing based on facts she told you, if you had been listening from the get-go. But you weren't and that's okay. You just have to OWN IT so you can learn from your MISTAKE. But all you want to do is defend your weak choices, which just makes you look even more foolish and dense. I'm here to help you get better. But I think you just want to blame shift things and be defensive. Life gets easier when you just accept you're flawed. Like me too. But you have to own your flaws (this is called responsibility) and then have the drive to intent to improve, so you can experience a more truthful and happier existence.

I see you learned the hard way because you used the example above: Never pay for drinks on the first time out. Never pay for dinner on the first go. A woman should invest heavily in you before you invest your money, so you know it's true desire.
Me personally? I don't pay for anything for women until we've slept together, and there is a solid investment where I experience overt and clear interest from her.


I already told you how to handle it. But through the defensiveness of your very fragile ego, you didnt see the suggestion I posed which is actually very caring and solid for someone aside from your own selfish self. But because you're choosing to focus on the hurt you miss everything entirely and just want to bicker like a 7-year-old.
Action figure and balloons for the kid. This situation goes beyond petty dates and romance.

 

[Rocnavy]

You're just attempting to belittle me because you feel hurt because you recognize you made an error in your own character dealings and you're attempting to bring me to a lower level than you based on... literally nothing; atrociously weak speculation.
Fact: you could learn how to type a sentence with proper grammar and syntax and maybe I would listen to a single word you would say? Until then, I see a hurt and overly sensitive guy
(So my grammar is the reason why you couldn't comprehend my detailed post? Lol)


To the point: you should have known that that point in time wouldn't have been the correct timing based on facts she told you, if you had been listening from the get-go. But you weren't and that's okay. You just have to OWN IT so you can learn from your MISTAKE. But all you want to do is defend your weak choices, which just makes you look even more foolish and dense. I'm here to help you get better. But I think you just want to blame shift things and be defensive. Life gets easier when you just accept you're flawed. Like me too. But you have to own your flaws (this is called responsibility) and then have the drive to intent to improve, so you can experience a more truthful and happier existence.

( How would I have known timing wasnt good according to you when clearly I stated when I called her she answered kinda fast. I said did I catch you at a bad time. She said she was on her way to see her son why whats up? [Key words "whats up" meaning despite the fact it was a bad time but she's allowing me to express the reason why I called.)

I see you learned the hard way because you used the example above: Never pay for drinks on the first time out. Never pay for dinner on the first go. A woman should invest heavily in you before you invest your money, so you know it's true desire.
Me personally? I don't pay for anything for women until we've slept together, and there is a solid investment where I experience overt and clear interest from her.

(Of course I learn the hard way on not to pay for dinner n drinks with a woman you just met. In order to become better at anything you have to go through trail n error)


I already told you how to handle it. But through the defensiveness of your very fragile ego, you didnt see the suggestion I posed which is actually very caring and solid for someone aside from your own selfish self. But because you're choosing to focus on the hurt you miss everything entirely and just want to bicker like a 7-year-old.
Action figure and balloons for the kid. This situation goes beyond petty dates and romance
(My ego not fragile I just dont have no patience for people that dont try to understand you or what you post. You rather argue like you know my situation rather than asked me for details)

 

[Rocnavy]

I think this would be like trying to save the Titanic from sinking.

All she will be able to associate in her mind with you is the extreme negative emotion of her baby dying or almost dying because of your impeccably bad timing(through no fault of your own really). Good luck overcoming that.

I think this would be like trying to save the Titanic from sinking.

All she will be able to associate in her mind with you is the extreme negative emotion of her baby dying or almost dying because of your impeccably bad timing(through no fault of your own really). Good luck overcoming that.

Now I can say that you understood the post. Yes it was bad timing but all I understood was that when she answered which was kinda fast I asked did I catch u at a bad time. She said she was on her way to see her son why whats up?

 

[flowtheory]

I called this female and she answered. I asked her did I catch you at a bad time? She said she was on her way to see her son why whats up? I then told her the reason why I called you cause I wanna get to know you outside of work in an intimate way but I didnt wanna expressed that to you while at work. She was quiet for a lil minute then responded you didnt hear me say my baby pulse had stop?

This does not make sense.

“YOU DIDNT HEAR ME SAY MY BABY PULSE HAD STOP?”

This is why you defending anything is actually just pointless!
Read that 5 times and ask yourself if you have trouble delivering details or a cogent story.

Why would she respond the way she did if she never said that? No one does that. She doesn’t care enough about you yet to gaslight your @ss.
You’re obviously leaving parts out. And you’re responding to me like I have trouble understanding a terribly written post that’s essentially a giant run-on paragraph typed by a 7-year-old in remedial English class.

You have things to work on in this whole thread. But yet you still insist on holding down your fort, that’s unfortunately made out of soggy popsicle sticks. The best bet is to just abandon your ground and just be like: “yea, I wasn’t very good in this, and I have some things to work on. Like everyone” As opposed to continue to delude yourself in to some righteousness.

 

[Rocnavy]

This does not make sense.
(Whats not making sense?)

“YOU DIDNT HEAR ME SAY MY BABY PULSE HAD STOP?”
(Yes she said that after I stated the reason why I called her.)

This is why you defending anything is actually just pointless!
(How is it pointless?)

Read that 5 times and ask yourself if you have trouble delivering details or a cogent story.
(Read what 5 times? I dont need to ask myself if I have trouble delivering details when I delivered all the details in the post but for some reason you just not comprehended.)

Why would she respond the way she did if she never said that? No one does that. She doesn’t care enough about you yet to gaslight your @ss.
You’re obviously leaving parts out. And you’re responding to me like I have trouble understanding a terribly written post that’s essentially a giant run-on paragraph typed by a 7-year-old in remedial English class.
( I never said she didn't say that I said I didnt catch the part that it was an emergency. She aint supposed to care enough about me cause she dont know me personally. She just know of me lol.) (There you go assuming im leaving parts out when I went into details.) (You do have trouble cause if not we wouldn't be continuing this conversation.) (Well it would amaze me if a 7 year old can understand this post and you cant lol.)


You have things to work on in this whole thread. But yet you still insist on holding down your fort, that’s unfortunately made out of soggy popsicle sticks. The best bet is to just abandon your ground and just be like: “yea, I wasn’t very good in this, and I have some things to work on. Like everyone” As opposed to continue to delude yourself in to some righteousness
(What kinda things you feel I need to work on in this thread when the other members not complaining)
(Aint thats what a man does is hold down his fort and what you mean by popsicle sticks?)( Why would a man abandon his ground last I check a real man stands on his ground. Didnt yo dad teach you that?

 

[flowtheory]

I think you’re in denial. Or just can’t face something. But I don’t judge you. I just hope soon you can push your ego aside and grow. That’s why we’re all here, at least I hope.

I’m out of this thread.

 

[andreihaha]

Now I can say that you understood the post. Yes it was bad timing but all I understood was that when she answered which was kinda fast I asked did I catch u at a bad time. She said she was on her way to see her son why whats up?

1. You don't ask if it's a bad time. You should not assume that.
2. The guy was trying to help you. I'd like to get advice like this every time I fk up. Thank him and move on. Unless you are incapable of change, which would make all this useless.
3. You are a Human in the first place. She is in a terrible situation, be kind to her and expect nothing in return. Be a man.

 

[Rocnavy]

I think you’re in denial. Or just can’t face something. But I don’t judge you. I just hope soon you can push your ego aside and grow. That’s why we’re all here, at least I hope.

I’m out of this thread.

What am I denying? I always push my ego to the side when I mess up. Yes I caught her at a bad time but didnt have no knowledge that her situation was an emergency until I expressed my interest in her. Thats what I keep telling you but you making it look like I did but didn't care. According to you I should've known it was an emergency but continue to express my interest anyway when clearly I said I didnt know that until after I had expressed my interest in her. Hmmm thats not judging?

 

[Rocnavy]

1. You don't ask if it's a bad time. You should not assume that.
2. The guy was trying to help you. I'd like to get advice like this every time I fk up. Thank him and move on. Unless you are incapable of change, which would make all this useless.
3. You are a Human in the first place. She is in a terrible situation, be kind to her and expect nothing in return. Be a man.

1. You don't ask if it's a bad time. You should not assume that. (I asked cause she answered the phone kinda fast.)

2. The guy was trying to help you. I'd like to get advice like this every time I fk up. Thank him and move on. Unless you are incapable of change, which would make all this useless.(I like getting advice to but the guy is one sided and wasnt trying to understand my post. He assume I should've known the woman had an emergency when I clearly said I didnt know until after I expressed my interest in her. If he wanna help somebody he need to stop being closed minded and allow people to explained their situation.)

3. You are a Human in the first place. She is in a terrible situation, be kind to her and expect nothing in return. Be a man. (I am a man cause men go for what they want. When I asked her did I catch you at a bad time she respond she was going to see her son why whats up. I then expressed my interest in her. She then responded you didnt hear me say I got a call about her baby pulse had stop. I told her I understood that she was going see him but didn't catch the part that it was an emergency.) (Thats what I keep trying to tell him but according to him I should've known it was an emergency but continue to express my interest in her anyway.)

 

[andreihaha]

1. You don't ask if it's a bad time. You should not assume that. (I asked cause she answered the phone kinda fast.)

2. The guy was trying to help you. I'd like to get advice like this every time I fk up. Thank him and move on. Unless you are incapable of change, which would make all this useless.(I like getting advice to but the guy is one sided and wasnt trying to understand my post. He assume I should've known the woman had an emergency when I clearly said I didnt know until after I expressed my interest in her. If he wanna help somebody he need to stop being closed minded and allow people to explained their situation.)

3. You are a Human in the first place. She is in a terrible situation, be kind to her and expect nothing in return. Be a man. (I am a man cause men go for what they want. When I asked her did I catch you at a bad time she respond she was going to see her son why whats up. I then expressed my interest in her. She then responded you didnt hear me say I got a call about her baby pulse had stop. I told her I understood that she was going see him but didn't catch the part that it was an emergency.) (Thats what I keep trying to tell him but according to him I should've known it was an emergency but continue to express my interest in her anyway.)

We all understood. She had important issues, no harm in that. Be kind enough to wish her son well or get him a toy and move on. And also learn from this. We all mess up, but we can't get better if we don't learn from it.
Best of luck in the future!