This idea of women initiating 90% of seductions keeps sticking in my head. How does that square with the idea that women are inundated with male attention and thirsty betas constantly trying to get with them?
Seduction and getting attention are two different things.
Seduction can only happen if a woman allows it. And if she’s allowing it, chances are she sent the signals to give that guy the go ahead. (someone she felt who wasn’t needy of her) So the seduction originally came from her. The guy just thinks he’s seductive because he’s taking action.
Look at all the OLD stories where women are bombarded with 100x the offers men get (or whatever it is)? Or is this just a case where if an unwanted male initiates, it doesn't count?
I would say nothing counts if a guy initiates and it isn’t openly received. Nothing can happen if the woman isn’t going to hit the tennis ball back to the guy. Can’t seduce something that is closed.
90% of the time online, things probably won’t go anywhere due to various reasons on the woman’s end. But simply put: they are very choosy because they can be, they are already getting what they want (easy validation and attention), and because of those two they will only go out with guys they feel are closest to what they desire. I mean, how great is that for women? The app’s ideal is catered to women. “Looking for a perfect match for you? Download this app and swipe right and you’ll get him. Boom, done.”
For men its like..
“Looking for the perfect match for you? Yea well so is everyone else.. have fun with your 3 matches who are not at all what you want. Don’t like it? Grow a pair of b@lls and start approaching in real life and go build something worthwhile, then your ‘perfect’ woman will show up. But you have to maintain that and probably get better overtime to stay competitive, or else she will get bored and grow eyes for someone else because society has reinforced she is a princess. Pr!ck.”
Now if you say women initiate 90% of successful seductions, I could believe that.
Yea it’s definitely this.
There is no seduction unless it’s successful.