Pretty sure a girl im seeing gas lighting me

[jimwho]

She doesn't care about your feelings, so why care about hers? Give her back her tampons (under the bathroom sink) tell her its not working. That's it..

 

[Tilex]

She lives in a 3rd world country and complains about 1st world problems?
This is hilariously ironic!!!!!

Couple of things I recommend:

Don'tet her completely control the conversation.
If she talks about white man bad, slavery, and why she couldn't get a green card......
Change the subject immediately! Talk about your favorite drink or find out where's the best bar.

Tell her to quit watching the news. Most of that sh!t brainwashes people.
It honestly pollutes the mind.

Venezuelan culture is different from Dominican culture
She's trying to influence her culture on you in a place where her culture is not normal.

Find a legit Dominican chick and lose the drama.

 

[zinc4]

She lives in a 3rd world country and complains about 1st world problems?
This is hilariously ironic!!!!!

Couple of things I recommend:

Don'tet her completely control the conversation.
If she talks about white man bad, slavery, and why she couldn't get a green card......
Change the subject immediately! Talk about your favorite drink or find out where's the best bar.

Tell her to quit watching the news. Most of that sh!t brainwashes people.
It honestly pollutes the mind.

Venezuelan culture is different from Dominican culture
She's trying to influence her culture on you in a place where her culture is not normal.

Find a legit Dominican chick and lose the drama.

Yeah, the whole thing is a mind**** actually lol. Also, she has a strong flamboyant personality. Sometimes we end up in shouting matches because i just have to call out her bs sometimes because it's too hard to bare.

Got a date with a hot looking Dominican tomorrow.

The girl im currently seeing just messaging all happy and stuff hoping i had a good day and that she misses me. Hard just blatantly say we are finished but thats what i want actually.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

She works in a call center and is talking trash with a big ego... Somebody in here mentioned women don't change, they do, but only for the worse, the second this woman actually gets a job that pays well, you'll be hearing every opinion she has.

When they drone on with the BLM stuff, just give them silence, no opinion, nothing, if she respects you she'll get the picture.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She works in a call center and is talking trash with a big ego... Somebody in here mentioned women don't change, they do, but only for the worse, the second this woman actually gets a job that pays well, you'll be hearing every opinion she has.

When they drone on with the BLM stuff, just give them silence, no opinion, nothing, if she respects you she'll get the picture.

Queen royal highness of the company works in the call center.

Each unretributed greedy entitlement "power grab or take" she makes makes her worse and worse and worse... They can develop into some huge sh1t balls over the years, with a lot of momentum to drag a man down and sink his life. They are very good at it.

 

[metalwater]

Her speaking Spanish in front of you to the other dude and picking to sit by the other dude when they both can English is very disrespectful, AND also the OTHER MAN she is sitting by is also disrespecting you in in the same way. She should have put you in the front seat. It is awkward for you both to sit in the back, but you sit in the front with the dude and you are part of the conversation. The many men is an issue itself, but priority the other man friend above you is NOT ok. If she doesn't know it, the guys do. I have been in that same spot before and the guy if he respects you will force it back to English right after he looks at you and decides, also his decision is based on what she is telling him.

Plate or next. This is a path to no place but lower self-esteem for you.

 

[Serenity]

This isn't gaslighting, she has different opinions which you strongly disagree with. It's simple, you're incompatible. You're both wasting your time even trying to get this to work, it won't.

 

[zinc4]

Thanks for all the feedback. Nice to know im not crazy nor being too "sensitive"....a word that is often use to silence someone else who is getting disrespected/cucked i have noticed. She even used that word to describe the male guy incident. I told her know it wasnt being sensitive it was being disgusted. Too different things.

Okay, so i think what ill do is just tell her i am leaving the country soon and can go to the beach this weekend because i really do like going to the beach with a drinking partner.... but will make it clear that our relationship is nothing more than casual hooking up and things moved much faster than i had originally intended.

Also, ive decided to go home on November 26th or 27th for Christmas and will book the ticket early next week.

Doubt i will return to the DR anytime soon if ever again. I never even got to see the real normal version because of this curfew.... but the same thing was true with with Miami while i was there.

Will head back to Asia after Christmas and wrap this part of my life up.

In some ways i like the DR but not enough to ever want to spend a lot of time down here unless at a beach resort or something certainly not Santo Domingo again which is a ****hole for the most part. Love the Zona area though and the fact it's on the coast but the city itself is boring during this strict curfew time.

Am meeting a Dominican girl today for lunch who doesn't drink but sent nudes to me last night. So will add her to my dating as well and just casually bang both until the 26th assuming my date goes well today.

 

[Hal9000]

Why would a white person date someone who hates white people? And that doesn't even get into the rest of her issues. Time to find a non racist to date.

 

[Hal9000]

The thing you'll learn about leftists is that they are usually racist. You see they don't actually mind racism, they just don't like it when it is towards minorities. If you hate white people, then they welcome you to their club of open mindedness and tolerance with open arms. Go talk with any white, leftist, female college student and you'll walk away shaking your head at their absolute cluelessness when it comes to stuff like this.

 

[zinc4]

The thing you'll learn about leftists is that they are usually racist. You see they don't actually mind racism, they just don't like it when it is towards minorities. If you hate white people, then they welcome you to their club of open mindedness and tolerance with open arms. Go talk with any white, leftist, female college student and you'll walk away shaking your head at their absolute cluelessness when it comes to stuff like this.

Yeah its pretty bad. I did the beach thing yesterday and we argued/debated the entire time. Well only the times i actually dare to have an opinion Most of the time its her babbling non stop about her family or friends...longggg drawn out stories where the listerner is forced to listen to. Huge rants as well. And its like when you say something she constantly has to try to correct you or say no because blah blah. Being around her is honestly exhausting. I feel drained once again.

Last night we got home from the beach we went up to my rooftop drank some then went downstairs watched a movie to which she has to recite every movie line as it comes. Holy ****. She wanted to drink more and watch more movies so i was like im going to bed early so i went to sleep early because at 9:30 because the previous morning i had woken up at like 3:30 am for online work and i just had to get a break from dealing with her.

So i go to sleep wake up to the sound of a guys voice on speaker phone loudly at like 2 am.

I told to not speak to another guy when in my place. Oh its ryan, you know, one of my best friends, she says. A guy friend met 3 months ago who is always texting her btw.

You know how close in am to my guy friends. I said idgaf ...dont do that here. Then she says are there any questions about our relationship you have or something you have been acting really insecure lately?

I said dont turn the tables on me and say im being insecure...its about respect and common courtesy.

And to answer your questions yes i have lots of questions. Number one you are a very offensive and disrespectful and in general. Also i dont like the guy friend thing and could care less what way you spin it. Its a deal breaker foshmehh Also i dont like how racist you are against white people (just that same day earlier she described thinking before going on the first date with me well ill give this honkey ass cracker a try).

So she tried to defend herself on these subjects a bit but ended up asking what the dynamic of our new relationship was. I said just casual and thats it. We can still have sex but zero expectations of each other. We have moved way too quickly. She reluctantly agree and started iniating sex with me then when finished immediately started another argument. Then she goes out to the living room to drink and watch movies again until 5 am or so. She drinks too much as well and smokes btw which is a disgusting habit.

She also told me last night that being with me on the weekends has costed her a lot because she usually works overtimes on the weekend to save up the proper amount of money to send her mom in Venezuela and says because of me she is short of $180 this month. No way im helping someone with money who i realize i dont like at all. Nevermind all the dinners and bar tabs ive paid and even resort stay one time. She also always expects me to buy her cigarettes and i tell her no because i dont smoke but sometimes end up getting them for her

So now its 8:30 am here and she came back to the bedroom at around 5 am to pass out. She is under the impression that we are going to spend today together. I literally dont want to. Am going to tell her i need to focus on online work today and id prefer to be alone. I seriously am starting to despise this effin know it all liberal ****.

I have been with some crazy and annoying bitches before but never one this outspoken, condescending and who is such a know it all.

She is going to bring up the money she lost by even staying with me this weekend when she wakes up and i kick her out. Try to guilt trip me and say she could have been working today. But ive never demanded she hang out on weekends. In fact its always her suggestion or idea. ***** is getting sent home as soon as she wakes up though.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Yeah its pretty bad. I did the beach thing yesterday and we argued/debated the entire time. Well only the times i actually dare to have an opinion Most of the time its her babbling non stop about her family or friends...longggg drawn out stories where the listerner is forced to listen to. Huge rants as well. And its like when you say something she constantly has to try to correct you or say no because blah blah. Being around her is honestly exhausting. I feel drained once again.

Last night we got home from the beach we went up to my rooftop drank some then went downstairs watched a movie to which she has to recite every movie line as it comes. Holy ****. She wanted to drink more and watch more movies so i was like im going to bed early so i went to sleep early because at 9:30 because the previous morning i had woken up at like 3:30 am for online work and i just had to get a break from dealing with her.

So i go to sleep wake up to the sound of a guys voice on speaker phone loudly at like 2 am.

I told to not speak to another guy when in my place. Oh its ryan, you know, one of my best friends, she says. A guy friend met 3 months ago who is always texting her btw.

You know how close in am to my guy friends. I said idgaf ...dont do that here. Then she says are there any questions about our relationship you have or something you have been acting really insecure lately?

I said dont turn the tables on me and say im being insecure...its about respect and common courtesy.

And to answer your questions yes i have lots of questions. Number one you are a very offensive and disrespectful and in general. Also i dont like the guy friend thing and could care less what way you spin it. Its a deal breaker foshmehh Also i dont like how racist you are against white people (just that same day earlier she described thinking before going on the first date with me well ill give this honkey ass cracker a try).

So she tried to defend herself on these subjects a bit but ended up asking what the dynamic of our new relationship was. I said just casual and thats it. We can still have sex but zero expectations of each other. We have moved way too quickly. She reluctantly agree and started iniating sex with me then when finished immediately started another argument. Then she goes out to the living room to drink and watch movies again until 5 am or so. She drinks too much as well and smokes btw which is a disgusting habit.

She also told me last night that being with me on the weekends has costed her a lot because she usually works overtimes on the weekend to save up the proper amount of money to send her mom in Venezuela and says because of me she is short of $180 this month. No way im helping someone with money who i realize i dont like at all. Nevermind all the dinners and bar tabs ive paid and even resort stay one time. She also always expects me to buy her cigarettes and i tell her no because i dont smoke but sometimes end up getting them for her

So now its 8:30 am here and she came back to the bedroom at around 5 am to pass out. She is under the impression that we are going to spend today together. I literally dont want to. Am going to tell her i need to focus on online work today and id prefer to be alone. I seriously am starting to despise this effin know it all liberal ****.

I have been with some crazy and annoying bitches before but never one this outspoken, condescending and who is such a know it all.

She is going to bring up the money she lost by even staying with me this weekend when she wakes up and i kick her out. Try to guilt trip me and say she could have been working today. But ive never demanded she hang out on weekends. In fact its always her suggestion or idea. ***** is getting sent home as soon as she wakes up though.

Whenever a chick says negative crap I always point it out with "tell me about things you love. What do you love?" And usually they have to pause and really think about it. Once they say something positive I smile and contribute to the conversation. If she keeps on about negative stuff I keep saying "yeah but what do you love?". This is a polite way of saying the conversation is over unless she says something positive. The whole time I'm being casual and smiling about it, because being positive is effortless so her negativity is silly.

It sounds like she knows exactly what she's doing and is actively trying to sap as much of your resources as possible. She's doing this because she's realized that you're kind and patient. She's exploiting your virtues to enable her excess drinking. She blames you for her financial state despite it being her decision to stay and drink. She also says you're insecure when you're simply expressing things you don't like. I agree that this is gaslighting.

You shouldn't have to compromise for sex except for a bit of time on foreplay.

Put on some nice big steel toe boots and kick her as$ out after sex. Who cares if she doesn't come back, peace of mind is more important.

And regarding her racism, this is typical of the the ignorant in less fortunate countries. A smart ambitious girl would try to come back to the states with you or get involved so she can be more successful. The lazy and toxic simply complain to feel better about themselves and excuse away their bad decisions instead of being responsible.

I bet she talks shiit about america then pulls out her phone and gets on the internet(made in the DoD, USA), plays around on facebook or instagram(USA company), and orders shiit on ebay or Amazon.

She is so ignorant to not understand the extreme hypocrisy in her thinking, and thus her thoughts should carry no weight in your mind.

You've already warned her to cut it out. Now you need to follow through and kick her out when she does those things again.

 

[zinc4]

Whenever a chick says negative crap I always point it out with "tell me about things you love. What do you love?" And usually they have to pause and really think about it. Once they say something positive I smile and contribute to the conversation. If she keeps on about negative stuff I keep saying "yeah but what do you love?". This is a polite way of saying the conversation is over unless she says something positive. The whole time I'm being casual and smiling about it, because being positive is effortless so her negativity is silly.

It sounds like she knows exactly what she's doing and is actively trying to sap as much of your resources as possible. She's doing this because she's realized that you're kind and patient. She's exploiting your virtues to enable her excess drinking. She blames you for her financial state despite it being her decision to stay and drink. She also says you're insecure when you're simply expressing things you don't like. I agree that this is gaslighting.

You shouldn't have to compromise for sex except for a bit of time on foreplay.

Put on some nice big steel toe boots and kick her as$ out after sex. Who cares if she doesn't come back, peace of mind is more important.

And regarding her racism, this is typical of the the ignorant in less fortunate countries. A smart ambitious girl would try to come back to the states with you or get involved so she can be more successful. The lazy and toxic simply complain to feel better about themselves and excuse away their bad decisions instead of being responsible.

I bet she talks shiit about america then pulls out her phone and gets on the internet(made in the DoD, USA), plays around on facebook or instagram(USA company), and orders shiit on ebay or Amazon.

She is so ignorant to not understand the extreme hypocrisy in her thinking, and thus her thoughts should carry no weight in your mind.

You've already warned her to cut it out. Now you need to follow through and kick her out when she does those things again.

Agree. Am kicking her out as soon as she wakes up. A m starting to downright despise her. Last night in her drunken state, she said why you we just be chill? Isnt it so much better to be chill?

I said be chill? Hahaha you really think you are a chill person???? You talk more than any girl i have ever dated go on longggg rants all the time about mundane crap then when i ever say anything you correct me or talk down to me. I feel the opposite of chill around you. You arent "chill" at all.

She also loves to use the term "nigga."

I told yesterday to stop saying you arent black. Plus it's a derogatory term in the first place and you sound stupid saying it. She said im not white and am not part of the oppression of blacks so i can say what i want.

This is the kind of crazy im dealing with.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Agree. Am kicking her out as soon as she wakes up. A m starting to downright despise her. Last night in her drunken state, she said why you we just be chill? Isnt it so much better to be chill?

I said be chill? Hahaha you really think you are a chill person???? You talk more than any girl i have ever dated go on longggg rants all the time about mundane crap then when i ever say anything you correct me or talk down to me. I feel the opposite of chill around you. You arent "chill" at all.

She also loves to use the term "nigga."

I told yesterday to stop saying you arent black. Plus it's a derogatory term in the first place and you sound stupid saying it. She said im not white and am not part of the oppression of blacks so i can say what i want.

This is the kind of crazy im dealing with.

You simply have different preferences than her. I watched a lot of boondocks, which really normalized the nigga term for me so I personally wouldn't mind as much.

I also personally don't care about guy friends, as long as they show respect when around me. If he ignores me to chat with her I know he's a sidelined cuck waiting to sniff her used toilet paper at the first chance. Any thought about him having the power to pull her away or whatever is a huge fantasy and undeserved compliment to him. I think about those guys the same way I think about my farts, I laugh.

The speaker phone in the middle of the night would piss me off and asking for money after drinking at my place would have me dropping her as$ off instantly. The white hate would also have me staring at her then dropping her off and repeating her bs back to her. "Hey I'm the evil white guy remember? You were right you should really go see a nice brown boy instead." Not in a butthurt way, but to mock her hypocrisy.

I would never bother arguing emotionally or raising my voice, these toxic types love that because it confirms to them they have the power to get you worked up. It's pathetic and not worth explaining unless she asks. What drives them nuts is a guy with ice in his veins. Cold and calculated.

 

[zinc4]

You simply have different preferences than her. I watched a lot of boondocks, which really normalized the nigga term for me so I personally wouldn't mind as much.

I also personally don't care about guy friends, as long as they show respect when around me. If he ignores me to chat with her I know he's a sidelined cuck waiting to sniff her used toilet paper at the first chance. Any thought about him having the power to pull her away or whatever is a huge fantasy and undeserved compliment to him. I think about those guys the same way I think about my farts, I laugh.

The speaker phone in the middle of the night would piss me off and asking for money after drinking at my place would have me dropping her as$ off instantly. The white hate would also have me staring at her then dropping her off and repeating her bs back to her. "Hey I'm the evil white guy remember? You were right you should really go see a nice brown boy instead." Not in a butthurt way, but to mock her hypocrisy.

I would never bother arguing emotionally or raising my voice, these toxic types love that because it confirms to them they have the power to get you worked up. It's pathetic and not worth explaining unless she asks. What drives them nuts is a guy with ice in his veins. Cold and calculated.

I guess its a subjective thing, but a grown woman saying niggah this niggah that left and right is incredibly unattractive to me. This is a western woman trashy phenomenon kind of thing that was picked up by her via social media and tv imo. Next.

 

[MatureDJ]

Is she spreading her legs for you? That's the only "gaslight" that has any relevance here.

 

[zinc4]

Is she spreading her legs for you? That's the only "gaslight" that has any relevance here.

Sex isn't everything man.

I would rather pay a pro at this point than have to talk to her/hang out in person again. She is an energy vamp. These 2 days alone have been great. Got another girl on deck for this weekend.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Sex isn't everything man.

I would rather pay a pro at this point than have to talk to her/hang out in person again. She is an energy vamp. These 2 days alone have been great. Got another girl on deck for this weekend.

Pros are usually powerful energy vamps too. It's one of their side benefits.

 

[TheKid]

Waste of time. Shes a vampire. Flex

 

[zinc4]

Pros are usually powerful energy vamps too. It's one of their side benefits.

She called me last night asking to see me on Wednesday then guilt tripping me saying i just want to see you mire before you leave.