Thanks boys I move on

[TheGambino]

Guys,

I’ve read the replies over and over. If she liked me she wouldn’t mention her ex at all and throw herself totally on me and its just not worth it, period. I am indeed taking big risks, imagine if she told her father about our communication and the whole situation.

I chose for dignity, for my purpose and listen to the brothers here that spit the truth.

I go for a final decision. Totally decease, stop, go professional and see her totally as the employer she is. Going to focus fully on new women and stop this nonsense. Lets not react anymore on the previous threads so this can go to the history where it belongs. Thank you.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Don't let any of the other forum members fool you. We all (no matter the age) have become fixated on the presence of a particular female.

Sounds to me like you caught yourself in time and see the light. Good move.

 

[TheGambino]

Don't let any of the other forum members fool you. We all (no matter the age) have become fixated on the presence of a particular female.

Sounds to me like you caught yourself in time and see the light. Good move.

I know, they all signed up here for a reason.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Guys,

I’ve read the replies over and over. If she liked me she wouldn’t mention her ex at all and throw herself totally on me and its just not worth it, period. I am indeed taking big risks, imagine if she told her father about our communication and the whole situation.

I chose for dignity, for my purpose and listen to the brothers here that spit the truth.

I go for a final decision. Totally decease, stop, go professional and see her totally as the employer she is. Going to focus fully on new women and stop this nonsense. Lets not react anymore on the previous threads so this can go to the history where it belongs. Thank you.

It was your ego fvcking with you. There's a treasure chest of combined experience here so it's been tried before.

 

[Lookatu]

I chose for dignity, for my purpose and listen to the brothers here that spit the truth.

As crazy as you may seem at times and as crazy as girls make us sometimes as well, I wish you luck bro.
Bro's b4 hoes...

 

[soulforge]

I have a similar situation dude.. A girl from my work place.. However I don't intend to let this sloot fuk with my head.

One bang. And then I quickly move on, like we had never even met.

 

[TheGambino]

I have a similar situation dude.. A girl from my work place.. However I don't intend to let this sloot fuk with my head.

One bang. And then I quickly move on, like we had never even met.

Same Bro but I’m the business owner, I play high stakes with a little sloot. I’m out, shout out to all brothers here for their time and effort.

 

[Romanemp22]

Great to hear you finally cut that little b1tch out of your head. When you find even better girl who is all over you, you will think to yourself why the fvck was I even giving that Stockholm syndrom girl a time of my day. Good luck.

 

[TheGambino]

I will say, as I age I tend to get over the fixations incredibly fast. Tbh it's a little frightening. I'm worried about attaching in a LTR. Even when I have scarcity, the abundance mentality overrides that scarcity. There are two women that I was fixated on enough to post about here that I can hardly bring myself to text back now lol

I know, it’s encouraging. And the girls I was fixated on in the past are nothing to me now also.

 

[Glassguy]

I know, they all signed up here for a reason.

Yes and no. I would think the majority of men on here were struggling with a particular woman and they found this place. I found this place because I was in the process of ending a relationship and did a search on dating multiple women at the same time. And here I was.

I would never have considered myself "beta" as I have always had the ability to walk away rather easily, spun plates and had an abundance mindset. However the occasional curveballs do happen as not all women and not all relationships are the same.

The problem lies in the people that come here and either dont buy in to the mindset, processes and mentality and actively apply it. I am a self improvement advocate. Through self improvement (Mind, body and spirit) there are many by products that enhance one's perspective and results in the dating world because of it.
People are either too set in their beta ways or too lazy to apply it or they just dont start the buying in and actively applying it. I have friends that think I am crazy for running a rotation. Those same friends lose their minds when something happens with a relationship, however they see that I dont act the same way.....I just eliminate the weak link.

So to get back to you- You have been here for years. You are still making the same mistakes and each time you say "Ive got it now". So you have to take a step back and punt, realize what you did wrong (over investment, not being DIRECT in what you want with a woman, etc) and fix it going forward.

The problem with the process is that most guys are scared to enforce the mentality because they are scared to lose the girl if they act according to what gets myself and many others great results. So they wallow in their own demise and just continue the cycle of scarcity mindsets, putting a woman's wants before their needs, etc. Its like the guy that wants to be fit but doesnt want to go to the gym or he goes 3 times, doesnt see great results and stops going. Goes home to eat junk food and pity himself.

You have to commit to it and stay committed or you will continue this cycle that is not only taxing on your dating life, but has to be emotionally draining as well. Its a much happier place to spin 2-3 plates and just eliminate a weak one with someone you have on standby.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Great to hear you finally cut that little b1tch out of your head. When you find even better girl who is all over you, you will think to yourself why the fvck was I even giving that Stockholm syndrom girl a time of my day. Good luck.

Being stuck on stupid

 

[Glassguy]

@TheGambino I think your major flaw in this particular situation with this girl is this: You didnt make a CLEAR and DIRECT move on her. It was tap dancing around what you wanted to either avoid the rejection or some other reason.

Just this week:
Chick one-
Me: Hey whats up
Her: Not much blah blah
Literally after 4 or 5 messages:
Me: Gotta run, but let me know if you're free this Thursday night. I'm going to such and such place for a drink or two. Let me know if you want to join.
Her: OK I will let you know.
I never responded back, never heard back from her. Maybe she will reach out, maybe she wont. But I didnt text her for days endlessly. I invited, she didnt give me a clear "yes" and that was that.

Chick 2-
Me: hey whats up
Her: Nothing much. I see that we have a lot of mutual friends on fb. How do you know such and such?
After 5 or 6 messages back and forth:
Me: I am getting busy and gotta run. I am going to grab a drink or two this Thursday evening since I finally have a little free time. Why dont you join me at such and such place at 7:30.
Her: Sounds great. Here is my number ________ texting is much easier.
Me: Sounds good. Text ya later when I get free

She has messaged me the last 2 days and meeting tonight. She already texted to confirm and asked if I could actually be there a little early because she is leaving work sooner than expected.

Point being- same process. I trust it. Does it always work? No. Do I stick around and endlessly text a chick if the process isnt working? No. I move on.

You cant move on from something that you didnt pull the trigger on directly and confidently because you get stuck in the same place you got stuck with regarding this chick. Literally weeks/months of not making a clear move and letting her make a decision to your inviation.


Food for thought.

 

[TheGambino]

@TheGambino I think your major flaw in this particular situation with this girl is this: You didnt make a CLEAR and DIRECT move on her. It was tap dancing around what you wanted to either avoid the rejection or some other reason.

Just this week:
Chick one-
Me: Hey whats up
Her: Not much blah blah
Literally after 4 or 5 messages:
Me: Gotta run, but let me know if you're free this Thursday night. I'm going to such and such place for a drink or two. Let me know if you want to join.
Her: OK I will let you know.
I never responded back, never heard back from her. Maybe she will reach out, maybe she wont. But I didnt text her for days endlessly. I invited, she didnt give me a clear "yes" and that was that.

Chick 2-
Me: hey whats up
Her: Nothing much. I see that we have a lot of mutual friends on fb. How do you know such and such?
After 5 or 6 messages back and forth:
Me: I am getting busy and gotta run. I am going to grab a drink or two this Thursday evening since I finally have a little free time. Why dont you join me at such and such place at 7:30.
Her: Sounds great. Here is my number ________ texting is much easier.
Me: Sounds good. Text ya later when I get free

She has messaged me the last 2 days and meeting tonight. She already texted to confirm and asked if I could actually be there a little early because she is leaving work sooner than expected.

Point being- same process. I trust it. Does it always work? No. Do I stick around and endlessly text a chick if the process isnt working? No. I move on.

You cant move on from something that you didnt pull the trigger on directly and confidently because you get stuck in the same place you got stuck with regarding this chick. Literally weeks/months of not making a clear move and letting her make a decision to your inviation.


Food for thought.

Clearly, I didn’t make a move because she’s my secretary. I always make moves, I’m always direct and cexual. Even if I fvck her, I have to become serious with her or she has to go. Fvcking her is going to have serious consequences. Most of the time bad, I felt this always. Meaning I didn’t do anything more then flirting and maintaining frame without making a direct move. When her ex came back I got fixated. Ego. But now im sure its not worth it. Next.

 

[Glassguy]

Clearly, I didn’t make a move because she’s my secretary. I always make moves, I’m always direct and cexual. Even if I fvck her, I have to become serious with her or she has to go. Fvcking her is going to have serious consequences. Most of the time bad, I felt this always. Meaning I didn’t do anything more then flirting and maintaining frame without making a direct move. When her ex came back I got fixated. Ego. But now im sure its not worth it. Next.

You dont always clearly make moves because you didnt with this one. She strung you along.
You still deny what you did wrong. That is the issue

 

[TheGambino]

You dont always clearly make moves because you didnt with this one. She strung you along

Aight bro, I don’t care anymore. Already focusing on new prospects, she can svck another d1ck. Her ex will use her until quaraintaine is over and fvck around again then she will cry and ride the c1ck carousel why gambino fvcks new dimes. I let it go.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You dont always clearly make moves because you didnt with this one. She strung you along.
You still deny what you did wrong. That is the issue

The logic doesn't make sense.

If she is your secretary and you aren't going to make a move then why bother with any of this? It's a complete waste of time if no move was going to be made.

 

[Glassguy]

Dude read OPs opening statement. Let's leave it at that. Why drag it through the mud.
Clearly on one of your high and mighty trips again. We could bring your past back up about your backsliding but why?
Why not let him soak in his epiphany without your god dam coach ego getting in the way dude? You Gotta a lot of growing up to do.
Most of these dudes dont see your glass house... but i do. Why rub his face in it? he clearly has retrospect. ITS A START. gtfo

In order for you to insult me, I would have to respect your opinion. Which I clearly do not.

Try adding something of value to this forum. That should help. Acting like a clown just shows why people on here message me about how stupid you act and how immature you are the majority of the time.

This forum is about advice and help. Gambino goes through the same issues over and over. Sometimes people just need the shyte shaken out of them in order to wake up and get their sense back. Some of that might be in terms of direct feedback, which you certainly do not like from great posters like myself and a few others. People who ego trip have fragile egos. You are the epitome of that. In the future I'll be sure to handle you and others with white gloves since your thin is so skin and you get so upset over silly things.

But thanks for playing. You lose again. You think if care about you and your opinion but you are quite mistaken.

 

[Glassguy]

The guy has awareness of what he is doing Glass. Its a start. Well truthfully it IS THE START.
You should know this already but you seem to take the occasion to take a kick.
Ill tell you this. Newbies will learn more from his 2 threads then they will from your 5 step program threads and you bragging about braking up with some chic.
Question is why does someone's seeming self inflicted stupidity bother you so much???
Huh Glass? Thats what you should be asking yourself... i wonder what thats all about?

Didnt you preach to me to ignore your posts if i didnt like them? Cant follow your own advice Mr Integrity?

The dude is understanding his mistake and thats the foundation so what of it takes 1000 tries who cares.
Practice makes perfect.

The saying is It takes 10k hours to master something. Ask me how i know this is true.

So its ok for you? But not the rest of us huh?
I see how that works.

K clown lol

 

[TheGambino]

In order for you to insult me, I would have to respect your opinion. Which I clearly do not.

Try adding something of value to this forum. That should help. Acting like a clown just shows why people on here message me about how stupid you act and how immature you are the majority of the time.

This forum is about advice and help. Gambino goes through the same issues over and over. Sometimes people just need the shyte shaken out of them in order to wake up and get their sense back. Some of that might be in terms of direct feedback, which you certainly do not like from great posters like myself and a few others. People who ego trip have fragile egos. You are the epitome of that. In the future I'll be sure to handle you and others with white gloves since your thin is so skin and you get so upset over silly things.

But thanks for playing. You lose again. You think if care about you and your opinion but you are quite mistaken.

@classguy

I respect your opinion, but the only mistake I made with this girl is that I didn’t take action. Because I started to like her when her bf who cheated came back!! Not when the lights were green, I saw her giving out strong iois but I ignored it because she’s my secretary. Afterwards my ego started to play.

I felt like I missed my chance.

Now I feel like there are two major mistakes, I’m her boss, and I didn’t take action.

Too much drama for exactley a little pvssy.

Wrong idea, I move on. That’s it!!