A thing I like to do is I like to go out once in a while, perhaps to the gym, some fitness class, or a social gathering, and see how many women on my wavelength show up and give me signals. I sort of use it as a barometer.
I've noticed that whenever I've invested in myself for a prolonged period of time (work out, diet, spirituality, focus on purpose/career/money), more women on my wavelength would effortlessly show up and reflect to me how I feel about myself (which is great).
But when I neglect myself, no woman shows up. And the social environment reflects back to me how I feel (needy, desperate, low value).
The problem I see with 99% of guys is they take an outside-in approach. They go out "there" to try to attain validation from women. And they end up getting nothing.
You can NEVER "get" anything from women.
You can only give value to yourself, invest in yourself in all facets of life, and validate yourself to the point where you become self-fulfilled - and then women will reflect that back to you.
In other words, you can only ATTRACT women, not GET them.
And if you are a guy who attracts women, it almost does not matter where you go. Like I said, I'll go to the gym, a fitness class, a social gathering, meeting, bar, club, event - it doesn't matter.
I know I'm going to attract a certain amount of women. Most of the time I JUST LET GO and leave it up to fate and be pleasantly surprised by what shows up.
But if you are not investing in yourself self-worth everyday, nothing is going to show up.
And if you ARE investing in yourself daily, then pick a spot out of a hat. The women WILL find you.
They have a radar - a GPS system that always find value.