I’m sick of these females lying

[mrgoodstuff]

To be honest I don't ever try to qualify to a woman, however I also do not feel she need to qualify to me per se. There are red flags and peeves I stay away from. I suppose you can say she needs to qualify, but I don't think of it that way.

But you don't need her and won't force it. Anything less that serious interest is unacceptable.

 

[justhe_justin]

But you don't need her and won't force it. Anything less that serious interest is unacceptable.

Oh yes, of course.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

I think what the guys are trying to say is that you are, by the mere fact of calling her out, expending unnecessary emotional bandwidth on attention w h o r e s like this. Clearly she isn’t what you desire. Simply drop the conversation, block her, purge her, whatever.

Your silence itself is powerful. Remember that. Or just say something undeniably negative. Like “Nah” or “Pass” or “Nah, Pass”....the problem you have is that ANY attention is attention worth getting. You say “Pass” she will respond by calling you rude JUST TO CONTINUE the conversation. So it’s better to go silent, block, delete ignore or whatever.

If I’m starting a new interaction with a guy I will drop him in a NY millisecond for 2 things...sending a photo of his naughty bits and/or requesting photos of me. Either of those things I go silent and vanish.

Now. Full disclosure...I don’t do OLD. It’s a complete waste of my time for all the reasons you’ve mentioned, so in my life we are talking about men I’ve already actually met....but I’ve no interest in disembodied looking naughty bits (I’m familiar with male anatomy)...and I’ve no desire to be part of any man’s private photo cache, which all men show their buddies....Hell men I date seriously do not have naughty photos of me...nor did my ex husband...only a very few and those were tasteful enough that if displayed publicly would be no more scandalous than me in a bikini at the beach.

You always have to monitor your image and the way you are perceived.

Telling off some woman you’ve never met says “Butthurt”.

Silence says nothing but everything...and at once deprives her of attention. Try it.

 

[justhe_justin]

Advice from the old lady:

I think what the guys are trying to say is that you are, by the mere fact of calling her out, expending unnecessary emotional bandwidth on attention w h o r e s like this. Clearly she isn’t what you desire. Simply drop the conversation, block her, purge her, whatever.

Your silence itself is powerful. Remember that. Or just say something undeniably negative. Like “Nah” or “Pass” or “Nah, Pass”....the problem you have is that ANY attention is attention worth getting. You say “Pass” she will respond by calling you rude JUST TO CONTINUE the conversation. So it’s better to go silent, block, delete ignore or whatever.

If I’m starting a new interaction with a guy I will drop him in a NY millisecond for 2 things...sending a photo of his naughty bits and/or requesting photos of me. Either of those things I go silent and vanish.

Now. Full disclosure...I don’t do OLD. It’s a complete waste of my time for all the reasons you’ve mentioned, so in my life we are talking about men I’ve already actually met....but I’ve no interest in disembodied looking naughty bits (I’m familiar with male anatomy)...and I’ve no desire to be part of any man’s private photo cache, which all men show their buddies....Hell men I date seriously do not have naughty photos of me...nor did my ex husband...only a very few and those were tasteful enough that if displayed publicly would be no more scandalous than me in a bikini at the beach.

You always have to monitor your image and the way you are perceived.

Telling off some woman you’ve never met says “Butthurt”.

Silence says nothing but everything...and at once deprives her of attention. Try it.

Thanks for your input.

 

[derby1]

To be honest I don't ever try to qualify to a woman, however I also do not feel she need to qualify to me per se.

you should , women only respond to men above them, those who don't get left behind.There is no such thing as equality.

Women dont want to win, they want a winner.

Ask her what her talents, passions & hobbies are? 90% will eliminate themselves just off that question, they havent got any.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Women lie? What else is new?

You going to tell us the sky is blue next? Don't go on OLD expecting to find quality women. Temper your expectations and become outcome independent and you won't care as much anymore until you meet a real quality girl in real life.

 

[Dam44]

What is OP?

Original Poster

 

[justhe_justin]

Women lie? What else is new?

You going to tell us the sky is blue next? Don't go on OLD expecting to find quality women. Temper your expectations and become outcome independent and you won't care as much anymore until you meet a real quality girl in real life.

What is OLD?

 

[bat soup]

Women lie continuously, either to make themselves seem pure and innocent or to make men think that they're interested when they're not so that they can continue to get free favours and attention.

You should always pay attention to their actions, not their words. Also, make a move quickly so that they have to show their hand and can't string you along.

 

[bat soup]

Online dating

Online simping.

 

[RickTheToad]

Below are 3 screenshots of my Hinge (dating app) and this girl sent me a 'like' and tried to open a conversation. She comments on my preference for fit chicks, claiming that tho she is not fit, she eats healthy…

What planet are these females living on. I’ve noticed women will make claims like, “I’m smart”, “I’m down to earth”, “I’m healthy”. Seems they talk a lot but what matters is action. You don’t need to say these things when I can see it in your actions.

In this case she directly contradicts her claim in her profile where she professes her pleasure in dipping french fries in ketchup and mayonnaise… I call her out on her bull**** and shut her down. Don’t be fooled gents. View attachment 5131 View attachment 5132 View attachment 5133 View attachment 5131 View attachment 5132 View attachment 5133

B!tch is ugly. Pass dude.

 

[justhe_justin]

B!tch is ugly. Pass dude.

LOL, that's harsh. I passed, but not before I called out her bull****.

 

[Lookatu]

I think what the guys are trying to say is that you are, by the mere fact of calling her out, expending unnecessary emotional bandwidth on attention w h o r e s like this. Clearly she isn’t what you desire. Simply drop the conversation, block her, purge her, whatever.

I can definitely see both sides and while I agree with you (generally silence having been my default), I do feel on one hand that Justin is just knocking down that positive body image reinforcement that has always been driven into society by feminists.

I don't really see anything wrong(except maybe being rude) trying to reverse that body positive movement that was started by feminists. If all gals were shamed again into keeping themselves fit and healthy, it can only help males IMO by having more attractive selection of females to choose from. Why is it that men can be shamed for certain things without recourse by females but we can't shame anyone ourselves? My $.02

But seriously that girl needs to go back to Nigeria and get back on the Paleo diet and then come back to the states. LOL

 

[BeExcellent]

I can definitely see both sides and while I agree with you (generally silence having been my default), I do feel on one hand that Justin is just knocking down that positive body image reinforcement that has always been driven into society by feminists.

I don't really see anything wrong(except maybe being rude) trying to reverse that body positive movement that was started by feminists. If all gals were shamed again into keeping themselves fit and healthy, it can only help males IMO by having more attractive selection of females to choose from. Why is it that men can be shamed for certain things without recourse by females but we can't shame anyone ourselves? My $.02

But seriously that girl needs to go back to Nigeria and get back on the Paleo diet and then come back to the states. LOL

Agree 100%. I get affronted myself at entitled women. I am still 5’6” 115lbs. Been that way through 3 pregnancies and for 35 years. Through discipline and good habits, not luck.

I’ve been roundly dressed down and shunned socially for wanting my 15 year old daughter to lose 30 lbs. She’s 5’9” and was pushing 160. I’m sorry. That’s fat. For a teen.

Oh God. You’d have thought I killed somebody’s pet. My ex husband lit into me, the therapist said I’m a bad mother, moms of my daughter’s friends thought I’m a horrible person. That I don’t love her.

No goddammit I DO love her and don’t want her to be tossed out by men or lose out on work opportunities for being overweight!

And what was true of every person freaking out? Fat. Every single one of them. I refuse to be fat. And I don’t want the social stigma my daughter will have if she’s fat. So in a few months I will be moving her OUT of the blubbery Midwest and to a state where people take fitness and proper weight seriously. Just as I do. Don’t like the peer pressure? Change peers. Simple.

Sheesh. Ok. Rant over.

 

[Lookatu]

I’ve been roundly dressed down and shunned socially for wanting my 15 year old daughter to lose 30 lbs. She’s 5’9” and was pushing 160. I’m sorry. That’s fat. For a teen.

What's ironic is we're both old enough to have witnessed that mothers used to do that all the time to their daughters, and it was perfectly acceptable and normal at that time. Hell, I was over at friends houses when I was in grade school and their mothers gave the pep talk to their daughters right in front of me.

Image is one thing but obviously, there comes a point as well where it can affect their healths too along with self esteem.

 

[BeExcellent]

What's ironic is we're both old enough to have witnessed that mothers used to do that all the time to their daughters, and it was perfectly acceptable and normal at that time. Hell, I was over at friends houses when I was in grade school and their mothers gave the pep talk to their daughters right in front of me.

Image is one thing but obviously, there comes a point as well where it can affect their healths too along with self esteem.

Health & self esteem were/are my top concerns. You get fat as a teen maintenance of a healthy weight is a struggle All. Your. Life.

I can’t believe the number of obese young people anymore. They will have diabetes, hypertension and heart disease onsetting in middle age. No thanks.

And if I were male & fit? No way I’d tolerate it.

 

[death_wish. .]

What is OLD?

old= online dating

 

[justhe_justin]

I can definitely see both sides and while I agree with you (generally silence having been my default), I do feel on one hand that Justin is just knocking down that positive body image reinforcement that has always been driven into society by feminists.

I don't really see anything wrong(except maybe being rude) trying to reverse that body positive movement that was started by feminists. If all gals were shamed again into keeping themselves fit and healthy, it can only help males IMO by having more attractive selection of females to choose from. Why is it that men can be shamed for certain things without recourse by females but we can't shame anyone ourselves? My $.02

But seriously that girl needs to go back to Nigeria and get back on the Paleo diet and then come back to the states. LOL

OMG the paleo lololololololol

 

[justhe_justin]

Agree 100%. I get affronted myself at entitled women. I am still 5’6” 115lbs. Been that way through 3 pregnancies and for 35 years. Through discipline and good habits, not luck.

I’ve been roundly dressed down and shunned socially for wanting my 15 year old daughter to lose 30 lbs. She’s 5’9” and was pushing 160. I’m sorry. That’s fat. For a teen.

Oh God. You’d have thought I killed somebody’s pet. My ex husband lit into me, the therapist said I’m a bad mother, moms of my daughter’s friends thought I’m a horrible person. That I don’t love her.

No goddammit I DO love her and don’t want her to be tossed out by men or lose out on work opportunities for being overweight!

And what was true of every person freaking out? Fat. Every single one of them. I refuse to be fat. And I don’t want the social stigma my daughter will have if she’s fat. So in a few months I will be moving her OUT of the blubbery Midwest and to a state where people take fitness and proper weight seriously. Just as I do. Don’t like the peer pressure? Change peers. Simple.

Sheesh. Ok. Rant over.

Good on you for looking after your daughter despite the discouragement from society. I would do the exact same, fitness is not only important for physical presentation (i.e. easier social life, more opportunities in dating and career), but it's also key to living a long healthy life. Exercise promotes a healthy heart and efficiently functioning brain. The fact people stigmatized this due to their own laziness is sickening and stupid asf. I find often times the popular narrative society preaches (i.e. body positivity, be comfortable in your skin, fat is okay) does not align with reality.

 

[justhe_justin]

What's ironic is we're both old enough to have witnessed that mothers used to do that all the time to their daughters, and it was perfectly acceptable and normal at that time. Hell, I was over at friends houses when I was in grade school and their mothers gave the pep talk to their daughters right in front of me.

Image is one thing but obviously, there comes a point as well where it can affect their health too along with self esteem.

Yes. When it comes to dating, I personally seek a potential long-term partner who values fitness and health because it's easy for young women to be curvy, petite, and sexy with little to no effort, but when they grow older and their metabolism slows, and there is no need to attract new men they easily grow fat and the husband has to deal with it with no recourse (at age 29 I am old enough now to have observed beautiful young women become unattractive). The husband is the bad guy if he says anything about it. A fat wife is more likely to raise unhealthy children as well....

That is the original motivation for my OLD profile preference for "fit chicks" and I have gotten harsh criticism and person insults from white knights about the post (LOL). Like.. if I'm villain for preferring a healthy woman then so be it.