Welcome to the Sprezzatura Method.
Hi!
Like many of you I've been a "student" of cold approaches, and in my early years I read a lot of stuff.
I'm not saying it's a load of BS, there were lots of useful nuggets.
Yet it didn't work that well for me because I kept thinking of it as a linear path.
If you're still reading this, awesome, let me introduce you to a method that worked for me.
BEGINNER: if you have panic attacks at the thought of talking to any girl, that anxiety won't simply die down by reading books.
Your aim would be to desensitize yourself to social interaction.
Talk to EVERYONE, ask a question, make a funny remark about your environment.
Make small talk, girls, guys EVERYONE. Learn to hold eye contact. Smile.
Place yourself amongst people and learn to understand social momentum you gain as you work a room
INTERMEDIATE: you can go upto a random girl and strike a conversation. More often than not you get rejected due to being overeager, not passing sh!t test. Maybe get a number here and there.
Your aim should be to understand the frame that the woman is the one who's supposed to impress you.
Why should she, you ask.
Because she has been dying to meet a man who believes this frame. Most guys don't internalize this.
You take care of yourself, you have a fit body, you got a myriad of skills, you got hobbies, a great job and a world to show her.
Practice flipping this frame, learn to qualify her.
EXPERT: You know how to get a new woman every month. You are humble enough to know you can't lay every woman you want. You have atleast a rotation of 4 at the moment.
Sow SEEDS everywhere. That means all women are practice. Talk to women everywhere, no need for approaching a woman to just sleep with her. Become the guy who can throw a big party and invite a tonne of women.
Your aim shoud be preselection. Women see you around women and the cycle keeps your rotation full. Soon enough you'll be smashing two or three women in 24 hours. I am no expert but I've done that just with preselection.