Relapse with my feelings about my ex

[mrgoodstuff]

I can say that this one I never found it yet.

I'm being aware a lot lately about that energy stuff. Paying attention to what is draining my energy and working to avoid and protect from it.

People, foods, environment, sex... All this can mess with our energy. For example, every time I went to a bar... Unless its a place with more family or good energy, I always feel weird after leaving that place.

A "too bright" woman whose into you will increase your energy. Most social climbers and attention wh0res will be feeding on you.

 

[Spaz]

I just got 1 advice for you, applicable for ur situation now and throughout in whatever u do.

Learn from other people's mistakes, don't learn from their success stories, because no matter what, you will encounter those same mistakes and would then know how to handle them.

You're been here long enough, read enough, by now you should have known all those mistakes the men here have made.

Learn from it.

And then u r able to handle it like a boss.

 

[Blacksheep]

I just got 1 advice for you, applicable for ur situation now and throughout in whatever u do.

Learn from other people's mistakes, don't learn from their success stories, because no matter what, you will encounter those same mistakes and would then know how to handle them.

You're been here long enough, read enough, by now you should have known all those mistakes the men here have made.

Learn from it.

And then u r able to handle it like a boss.

Thanks, man! That's a big truth!

I took some time to think about that situation and I see that I was driven by my emotions (not good ones) and did something I should avoid.

Gonna keep that in mind!

 

[Blacksheep]

A "too bright" woman whose into you will increase your energy. Most social climbers and attention wh0res will be feeding on you.

First question for a date: Do you use any social media? How do you use that? With which frequency do you check it?

Second: How many stories and photos do you post daily?

Unless its a professional account and something that doesnt fill this social media validation stuff... If she uses social media + has a lot of male followers + post a lot of selfies, pictures, stories. Better to run away.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

First question for a date: Do you use any social media? How do you use that? With which frequency do you check it?

Second: How many stories and photos do you post daily?

Unless its a professional account and something that doesnt fill this social media validation stuff... If she uses social media + has a lot of male followers + post a lot of selfies, pictures, stories. Better to run away.

I'm off social media. I have met a few decent people off of there. Your right on the validation thing for them.

 

[Blacksheep]

good point. Op find a girl that is attracted to you. If a girl is sexually attracted to you, it doesn’t matter how badly you **** up. As long as you don’t act like a simp, If you can get her in person you will always be able to bang her.

Sexually attraction is actually easy... The challenge I see nowadays is to find a woman that really worth to invest your time and energy on.

As I was talking with @mrgoodstuff the best is to check how is her social media behavior. If she doesn't use it for personal pictures and social validation, that's a good indicator that she might worth the time.

 

[Blacksheep]

Women have varying personalities and problems it's inevitable that you won't get along with many of the ones that you're dating it's normal. To be honest over the past 3 years I've only connected deeply with 2-3 women in total out of dating between 60-80 it's just the way things are but when things work out and get better you'll be greatful for those moments

That's true man! I'm gonna limit the women I get involved with and try to filter it very carefully. I was dating girls from Tinder, Instagram... and to be honest, they seem the worst type to date ever. I don't have even to say about Tinder, this is the most dirty and weird place I ever went to date women.

I'll keep myself very distant from that app. Also get rid of my IG... this is as bad as pornography for our minds.

 

[Blacksheep]

I'm off social media. I have met a few decent people off of there. Your right on the validation thing for them.

Best thing man. I just did that too.

My facebook I use that feed eradicator for some years and I'm just posting some videos and songs I wanna keep some record. Like classic music, podcasts, etc.

I made the bad decision to went back to a personal Instagram account this year. I'm glad that I get rid of it again, and don't want to come back.

I don't doubt there might be some great people to meet out there that don't use those social media. And those are the ones I wanna cultivate on my social circle.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Best thing man. I just did that too.

My facebook I use that feed eradicator for some years and I'm just posting some videos and songs I wanna keep some record. Like classic music, podcasts, etc.

I made the bad decision to went back to a personal Instagram account this year. I'm glad that I get rid of it again, and don't want to come back.

I don't doubt there might be some great people to meet out there that don't use those social media. And those are the ones I wanna cultivate on my social circle.

I've thought about having someone else maintain a page for me, and I don't go in there into the gossip. Most of those conversations devolve into gossip or politics.

 

[Blacksheep]

I've thought about having someone else maintain a page for me, and I don't go in there into the gossip. Most of those conversations devolve into gossip or politics.

If you have any project or business, it might be good... but only for that.

When I installed this feed eradicator on my facebook, I remember most of posts where people talking about some politics or fighting with which other about some topic. Also people showing off like videos about feminism, and how they approve some cause.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If you have any project or business, it might be good... but only for that.

When I installed this feed eradicator on my facebook, I remember most of posts where people talking about some politics or fighting with which other about some topic. Also people showing off like videos about feminism, and how they approve some cause.

Most of it isn't business

 

[Blacksheep]

Most of it isn't business

So probably it wont worth so much.

Idk if you know Cal Newpot, if dont... check some videos about him. This guy say some good stuffs about social media and why he don't use it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So probably it wont worth so much.

Idk if you know Cal Newpot, if dont... check some videos about him. This guy say some good stuffs about social media and why he don't use it.

I don't want to say anything "bad", but if you are a focused person, it's easily an addiction that will steal your focus and make you distracted.

 

[Blacksheep]

I don't want to say anything "bad", but if you are a focused person, it's easily an addiction that will steal your focus and make you distracted.

For sure!

Thats something I experienced when I use it. It messes with our dopamine receptors.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

For sure!

Thats something I experienced when I use it. It messes with our dopamine receptors.

That too. We need to be handling our sh1t and living. Not caught in a virtual world.