What do girls really mean when they say cute

[2Rocky]

You can joke right back when she calls you "cute"...

"oh you meant to say 'Ruggedly Handsome' didn't you?" with a smile..."yeah , I get that alot"

You act in a self deprecating manner, but it reinforces an image, of a self assured guy who knows his value....

 

[Dam44]

It seems she doesn't think you are masculine. Not good. Maybe, I'm misreading here.

Yeah, don't like that too

 

[Dam44]

Nothing wrong with innocence, if you can preserve it.

Would try

 

[Dam44]

I'm cute. Oh wait, what's the question?

Haha, I wanted to know your perspective on what girls mean when they call a guy cute

 

[Dam44]

You can joke right back when she calls you "cute"...

"oh you meant to say 'Ruggedly Handsome' didn't you?" with a smile..."yeah , I get that alot"

You act in a self deprecating manner, but it reinforces an image, of a self assured guy who knows his value....

Nice! I will keep this in mind. Thanks

 

[Dam44]

Concur. Especially if the woman in question is a bit bashful

Yes, she's a shy person

 

[Dam44]

"Cute" is something positive as others have stated.

Hell, I've even had gals use that term on bad a$$ modified cars so take it for what it's worth. It's just something that they say.

Also, if you joke around a lot or are a comedian, get used to being called a "dork" too. This also is used as an endearing term for some gals, mainly the younger ones.

Thanks, I really thought it was bad to be called that

 

[redskinsfan92]

Thanks, I really thought it was bad to be called that

I have seen where it can be used in a negative way. As if cute like a little kid

So, I'm unsure. I am watching this for input.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Haha, I wanted to know your perspective on what girls mean when they call a guy cute

I'm a 47yr old tomboy who hasn't directly validated a guy in over 25 years as I've conditioned myself to ignore their facial attractiveness.
I work in close quarters with men in the industrial trades in dangerous situations at heights, with machinery and power tools and in confined spaces. There's no reason to flirt at work and I just don't date often enough to calibrate giving compliments on attractiveness.

What I will do is compliment gains or some amazing strength or flexibility or dexterity display but never looks.
Its been so long since I told a guy he 'was cute'.
As I remember it, it meant; "I like you and hope you ask me out" but I'm from a generation and a half ahead of you.
Things seem to be different in North America now.as well.

I work with 4 dudes from your area of Africa, all cultured, impeccable gentlemen who are alphas....older than you though. I could ask them if you want me to. I don't talk about 'Fight Club'(ever see the movie?) though so I'll just refer to you as my internet acquaintance.
Fight club is some sosuave members' nickname for sosuave.

 

[2Rocky]

context is everything...

Kinda like "Bless your Heart " in the south.

 

[redskinsfan92]

context is everything...

Kinda like "Bless your Heart " in the south.

Very true. I don't know about other areas of the U.S. but "Have a nice day" can be good or bad here

 

[Dam44]

I'm a 47yr old tomboy who hasn't directly validated a guy in over 25 years as I've conditioned myself to ignore their facial attractiveness.
I work in close quarters with men in the industrial trades in dangerous situations at heights, with machinery and power tools and in confined spaces. There's no reason to flirt at work and I just don't date often enough to calibrate giving compliments on attractiveness.

What I will do is compliment gains or some amazing strength or flexibility or dexterity display but never looks.
Its been so long since I told a guy he 'was cute'.
As I remember it, it meant; "I like you and hope you ask me out" but I'm from a generation and a half ahead of you.
Things seem to be different in North America now.as well.

I work with 4 dudes from your area of Africa, all cultured, impeccable gentlemen who are alphas....older than you though. I could ask them if you want me to. I don't talk about 'Fight Club'(ever see the movie?) though so I'll just refer to you as my internet acquaintance.
Fight club is some sosuave members' nickname for sosuave.

22 years, that's a really long time.
Considering the work conditions, it's understandable.

I can relate, I play the drums and this girl thinks or just said that she really loved how I play and made her dance. Deep down, I know I'm just a bit above average.
I think skills are really cool, could make you some money and maybe get you a few girls

I hope it still has that same meaning now, lol. Fight Club? Never seen it.

If you could ask them, I'll appreciate that.
Thank you for your input

 

[Barrister]

I know I've been asking a lot questions lately. I'm sorry, I just want to be better

So about this cute thing? What do you think

I was talking to this girl about two months ago on the phone and the convo went something like this

I told her that I didn't really have much to say and just wanted to hear her voice after talking for about 10 minutes

She : awwn, cute my name

Me: that name is making me cringe

Her: "you don't like it? OK, I won't call you that again"

Me: it's not like

Her: (cuts in) I'm sorry

Me: just that it's kinda feminine

Her: (little laugh) Are you not feminine

Me: are you kidding me?

Her: I'm sorrrryyyy

Me: When school resumes, you'll see I've changed

Her: Hmm, do you have abs, biceps, triceps, pectoralis

Me: Maybe I don't have biceps&triceps but you've not seen my abdomen.

Her: Abeg (Nigerian pidgin English for please), do you gym?

Me: I don't but you can't be so sure

Her: I can be sure

Me: Don't worry, I'll show you when we resume

Her: I'll be waiting

We talked about a few topics then I ended the call

I had always wanted abs like Ronaldo but this kinda pushed me to work. It hurt me a bit too

I've been working on my abs everyday since June 12. Results are starting to show.

She's called me cute about 2 times before this. Once as a comment on my picture.

This cute of a thing, could it have any positive meaning?

For my looks, I don't think I'm cute(looking like Korean actors), I think I'm quite above average

Her very close friend(Z), I know her too, once called me cute.
Here's what happened. The lecturer wasn't around yet so I went to talk to this girl in class. She was sitting close to Z like two seats away. For some reason I don't remember, I decided not to say hello to Z.

After I had been talking to this girl for a while, Z interrupts to say I didn't greet her or I didn't see her? . I replied her saying I'm sorry but you could have said hello to me too and you didn't. I followed that with a good afternoon, how are you.

At that moment, Z turns to the girl and says, isn't he cute? With smiles over their faces. I just changed the topic from there
What could this mean?

I certainly don't think I'm feminine but how can I be more masculine?

You are way too worried about how you are perceived by this girl. I can tell just by the excruciating amount of detail you have put into this post about a fairly mundane conversation. Who cares how they describe you so long as they respect you as a man. I have had women call me "cute" before -- usually trying to get a rise out of me. I actually think it is overall a good thing because it means they at least think you are physically attractive. However, cute also carries a negative connotation that you are harmless. Don't let her think that. Just confidently play it off (usually using humor is the best way in my experience). Busting her chops in return is a good way to build rapport with her (don't overdo it though) while at same time letting her know you aren't some small, harmless, "cute" man who is just going to be one of her little buddies that she turns into an orbiter.

But you need to be more assertive than you are being in this conversation if you want this girl to actually think of you as a sexual being. The way this post reads is that you lack confidence with women and are unsure of your actions towards them. Women have a sixth sense in sniffing out insecurity and it is a death knell for your chances with them. The best way to no longer feel insecure is to stop caring. Easier said than done I know but it is absolutely necessary. The main takeway here is to have an "abundance mentality" as a lot of guys talk about on this forum. I suggest you read up on it as there are plenty of posts in the archives about it. It will change how you approach women in a positive way.

 

[Dam44]

You are way too worried about how you are perceived by this girl. I can tell just by the excruciating amount of detail you have put into this post about a fairly mundane conversation. Who cares how they describe you so long as they respect you as a man. I have had women call me "cute" before -- usually trying to get a rise out of me. I actually think it is overall a good thing because it means they at least think you are physically attractive. However, cute also carries a negative connotation that you are harmless. Don't let her think that. Just confidently play it off (usually using humor is the best way in my experience). Busting her chops in return is a good way to build rapport with her (don't overdo it though) while at same time letting her know you aren't some small, harmless, "cute" man who is just going to be one of her little buddies that she turns into an orbiter.

But you need to be more assertive than you are being in this conversation if you want this girl to actually think of you as a sexual being. The way this post reads is that you lack confidence with women and are unsure of your actions towards them. Women have a sixth sense in sniffing out insecurity and it is a death knell for your chances with them. The best way to no longer feel insecure is to stop caring. Easier said than done I know but it is absolutely necessary. The main takeway here is to have an "abundance mentality" as a lot of guys talk about on this forum. I suggest you read up on it as there are plenty of posts in the archives about it. It will change how you approach women in a positive way.

Yeah, I know I am. Gotta read those posts you suggested and I'll work on being more assertive

Thank you

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If she says “cute” while looking at your d!ck it could be a bad sign.

The way their using "cute" these days is different. As long as it's not a feminist "cute" means attractive. "That corvette looks cute". It's femalese.