Plate just called hijacking our plans. She claims her cousins wanted to hangout with her and she is bringing them to mine.

[isasda66]

Not my cup of tea. I lost frame and told her my plans were with you not your cousins. She insisted both her cousins would leave within 2 hours. But I stood my ground and told her to enjoy her night with her cousins. Soft nexting her for a week because of this drama.

A part of me says this is a **** test and she is testing to see my boundaries. Another part says its to get their approval to scope for a relationship.

It annoys me when they think they can just disrespect my time/plans.

 

[Georgepithyou]

You did the right thing, never ever let them invite thurd parties.

The fact that she even thought this was okay, is a huge red flag to me.

 

[isasda66]

The fact that she even thought this was

Exactly. She thinks I want to meet her cousin whom Ive interacted with once in my life. The fact that 1 cousin gives me bad vibes is another matter.

A night with her cousins means no sex for me.

What get me more angry is she was willing to drop plans to accommodate others.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Exactly. She thinks I want to meet her cousin whom Ive interacted with once in my life. The fact that 1 cousin gives me bad vibes is another matter.

A night with her cousins means no sex for me.

What get me more angry is she was willing to drop plans to accommodate others.

It just means she doesn't value you enough, could be a number of reasons why but if i were you i would start searching for a new girl and put this one on the backburner.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Good move. Do what benefits you and she will have to acquiesce now to what you want and will have to make it up to you.

 

[isasda66]

she will have to acquiesce now to what you want and will have to make it up to you.

Yup. Soft next for a week maybe even longer is she doesnt reach out.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Not my cup of tea. I lost frame and told her my plans were with you not your cousins. She insisted both her cousins would leave within 2 hours. But I stood my ground and told her to enjoy her night with her cousins. Soft nexting her for a week because of this drama.

A part of me says this is a **** test and she is testing to see my boundaries. Another part says its to get their approval to scope for a relationship.

It annoys me when they think they can just disrespect my time/plans.

If she were 100% into you she wouldn't have pulled this crap. No worries, start swiping or go out with other women to protect your ego and confidence.

You played this well. *Never* let the woman change YOUR plan early in the dating process, *especially* when they try to invite other people on the date. That is just so f*ucked up.

I agree with the soft next. Decrease your availability and text response rate too.

Good luck.

 

[isasda66]

You played this well. *Never* let the woman change YOUR plan early in the dating process, *especially* when they try to invite other people on the date. That is just so f*ucked up.

I would never accept this from an LTR also. Especially when its so last moment.

No contact for a week.

 

[2Rocky]

Did you have actual "plans" or was it a "hangout"?

You know some things in that Tomi Lahren video were right...No chick wants to have a pointless hangout if they have a busy fulfilling life and have to fit you in. You offered no value in your hangout time.

I think wishing her well to have a good time with her cousins was the right move. Make sure you act unaffected and go on with your plans..

 

[MatureDJ]

I did this twice. Once was a gal that had no interest in me, and when she dragged me into a club, I simply left them there. Another was a gal who really wanted to get her friend's opinion of me (I was 39; she was 19 ), and my charming personality sealed the deal.

You might try macking her cousins.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How far along are you in the dating and relationship process?

 

[Dash Riprock]

I would never accept this from an LTR also. Especially when its so last moment.

No contact for a week.

Depends on what one considers a LTR, but I may be more amenable if she's done enough to earn my trust and affection and the LTR is on solid ground. That takes time and investment from both people.

Let's say this played out after I was with her for maybe 2 years and it wasn't a common occurance, I may go along with it as you need to be somewhat flexible in a LTR.

Maybe I'd invite a guy friend or two and make it a group thing. In a LTR, it's really not that big of a deal, IMO. As a matter of fact, if you make a big deal out of it it could make you look jealous or possessive which are female traits and a bad look for any guy.

If this happens early in the dating process, much different story.

 

[isasda66]

She wants her family to meet you

Too early, not vetted her yet.

Did you have actual "plans" or was it a "hangout"?

You know some things in that Tomi Lahren video were right...No chick wants to have a pointless hangout if they have a busy fulfilling life and have to fit you in. You offered no value in your hangout time.

I think wishing her well to have a good time with her cousins was the right move. Make sure you act unaffected and go on with your plans..

City is still in lockdown so only plans are at each others houses.

Of course her last minute addition of her cousins is of no value to me.

She's more than free to go elsewhere.

I did this twice. Once was a gal that had no interest in me, and when she dragged me into a club, I simply left them there. Another was a gal who really wanted to get her friend's opinion of me (I was 39; she was 19 ), and my charming personality sealed the deal.

You might try macking her cousins.

Her cousin isnt half as attractive but I like this.

How far along are you in the dating and relationship process?

Plate for 2 months

Let's say this played out after I was with her for maybe 2 years and it wasn't a common occurance, I may go along with it as you need to be somewhat flexible in a LTR.

Fair enough, Sounds reasonable.

 

[backseatjuan]

No backup chick?

 

[bat soup]

You should have thrown a brick through the television and sent her the bill

 

[Tilex]

Call me when you decide not to bring your parents along.

 

[isasda66]

No backup chick?

Not anymore. She moved back home. And cant really go out.

But the night wasnt a waste, played poker with the boys.