All women are gold diggers to some extent. Either for their potential gold or what they already have. If a man is on his way to success but is broke as fvck she will love him. If a man is going nowhere and Is rich she will only use him. Again it all comes down to dominating your life and frame in life. No women loves a man unconditionally. If she says she does it's because he himself is unconditional to himself and stays true to his own ambitions and success.
Agree strongly with your last sentence. A man who loves himself and stays true to his ambitions and purpose will garner steadfast love & loyalty from a worthy woman.
But many men fail to attain this level of self determination, self love, and self assurance. Hence all the advice all over this forum to improve and evolve as a man for your own purpose.
As to women. Not ALL women are gold diggers. I am not now nor have I ever been. In fact I was the sole breadwinner and financial provider for my family for 10 years...whilst being pregnant and bearing 3 children over the course of that 10 years. My story of how things came to be that way is elsewhere on SS. Suffice to say my husband’s partnership in the nightclub soured and he didn’t cope well with that life obstacle. Instead of making cookies and memories as a mom I had to make bank as my ex husband simply vacated his leadership role in the marriage and I was not going to watch everything in our lives go down the tubes.
I did love my husband deeply but he refused to take responsibility for himself and his life and he became like a disgruntled teen and a responsibility added onto me. I married a man who portrayed himself as a solid man and appeared as a solid man but when life happened he curled up and stayed down. I gave him much patience and more than 10 years to recover and get up etc., but he never did. So...in time I lost respect for him and I left the marriage. If anything he took advantage of me...I provided a good comfortable lifestyle through my business endeavors and financial acumen. Nevertheless I never cheated, I was loyal and waited until a year after the divorce before entertaining offers to go out with other men.
I still support him financially in fact, and that benefits our children so it’s fine.
So I take issue with the ALL women are gold diggers statement. Perhaps many, but not all.
If banging new women every other day is your sexual strategy for now then enjoy yourself. No judgment here at all. But that isn’t end game.
End game is what you figure out to do once you realize banging indiscriminately is meaningless and the disillusionment sets in. And eventually it WILL set in.
At that point you’ll think about end game.
In the meantime carry on.
