Help! I think I lost my edge with women...

[GaBrotha]

Ok before I start this long post, I want to say that this is sort of a life story for me and how it all came about for me over the years. Hopefully it isn't drawn out too long for some of you. I honestly think I've lost my edge with women and I don't know what I am doing wrong the past few years or even a decade. I remember when I was in jr. high/middle school around probably age 12 or 13, I always had a great options with girls in my age group. I could get about any girl I wanted to get at that point and almost had no trouble meeting them since I was in school. This lasted until I was probably 15-16 when I got to high school. While in middle school, I tried my best to be myself (or not) by making others laugh that were in my social circle at school and it seemed to work wonders for me back then. At one point during that time, I had almost every white girl in my grade wanting to be in a relationship with me, bang me or at least be my friend. (disclaimer: some of these girls dislike me strongly now ten years later). At age 14, one of these girls liked me more than anyone else in her friend group. She was a month older than I and had a great body (at the time). During down-time at school, she would always find me, try to strike a conversation with me and ask how I was doing showing immediate signs of affection and what not. I was confused since I never had a girl do that before besides one of her friends which eye-balled me in a seducing matter the year before in science class (she was cuter, IMO). So when I got to high school around age 15, it was more Blacks and Hispanics that went there than Whites or Asians. For the most part, I had classes where it was a diverse mix of people, but I never had classes with the girls I saw back in middle school. This is where I started attracting black girls. Some were into me back in middle school, I was just never around them more than I was when I got to high school. These black girls wanted to literally sleep with me and even suck my ****. I had one of these girls show me her tits and ass during gym class while another wanted to have elevator sex. It eventually got out to my mom and it ended quickly... (I was so naive back then). Shortly after this time span, I seemed to struggle to get the type of girls I wanted to be with. In college, I met a few women there, but they all seemed to only date guys within their social circles and it made it harder for the new guy to get in there (esp. me being a minority.) The quality in my area is decent (I live in a college town with one of the best NCAA football teams in the country), but the attitudes of these women now are totally different when I'm around them now more than ever. They are colder and harder to approach than anywhere else I've noticed. I want to know what I can do to improve myself to these women? I know part of the reason is that I fell out with some social circles from back then which decreases my chances to meet new women/girls. Overall, I think I'm decent appearance wise as I'm about 5'10 (5'11 on a good day), weigh about 220 lbs, average to above-average in looks at least I think so, and have a little bit of skinny-fat. I dress regularly wearing t-shirts and khaki shorts during the summer months with sweaters/hoodies and jeans during the winter. I was thinking should I change my whole attire, or should I find ways to be more aggressive in attracting women (learning actual game instead of relying on a woman to come to me). Help a man out! Thanks guys...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Ok before I start this long post, I want to say that this is sort of a life story for me and how it all came about for me over the years. Hopefully it isn't drawn out too long for some of you. I honestly think I've lost my edge with women and I don't know what I am doing wrong the past few years or even a decade. I remember when I was in jr. high/middle school around probably age 12 or 13, I always had a great options with girls in my age group. I could get about any girl I wanted to get at that point and almost had no trouble meeting them since I was in school. This lasted until I was probably 15-16 when I got to high school. While in middle school, I tried my best to be myself (or not) by making others laugh that were in my social circle at school and it seemed to work wonders for me back then. At one point during that time, I had almost every white girl in my grade wanting to be in a relationship with me, bang me or at least be my friend. (disclaimer: some of these girls dislike me strongly now ten years later). At age 14, one of these girls liked me more than anyone else in her friend group. She was a month older than I and had a great body (at the time). During down-time at school, she would always find me, try to strike a conversation with me and ask how I was doing showing immediate signs of affection and what not. I was confused since I never had a girl do that before besides one of her friends which eye-balled me in a seducing matter the year before in science class (she was cuter, IMO). So when I got to high school around age 15, it was more Blacks and Hispanics that went there than Whites or Asians. For the most part, I had classes where it was a diverse mix of people, but I never had classes with the girls I saw back in middle school. This is where I started attracting black girls. Some were into me back in middle school, I was just never around them more than I was when I got to high school. These black girls wanted to literally sleep with me and even suck my ****. I had one of these girls show me her tits and ass during gym class while another wanted to have elevator sex. It eventually got out to my mom and it ended quickly... (I was so naive back then). Shortly after this time span, I seemed to struggle to get the type of girls I wanted to be with. In college, I met a few women there, but they all seemed to only date guys within their social circles and it made it harder for the new guy to get in there (esp. me being a minority.) The quality in my area is decent (I live in a college town with one of the best NCAA football teams in the country), but the attitudes of these women now are totally different when I'm around them now more than ever. They are colder and harder to approach than anywhere else I've noticed. I want to know what I can do to improve myself to these women? I know part of the reason is that I fell out with some social circles from back then which decreases my chances to meet new women/girls. Overall, I think I'm decent appearance wise as I'm about 5'10 (5'11 on a good day), weigh about 220 lbs, average to above-average in looks at least I think so, and have a little bit of skinny-fat. I dress regularly wearing t-shirts and khaki shorts during the summer months with sweaters/hoodies and jeans during the winter. I was thinking should I change my whole attire, or should I find ways to be more aggressive in attracting women (learning actual game instead of relying on a woman to come to me). Help a man out! Thanks guys...

What do the old circles have to do with today 10+ yrs later?

 

[corrector]

You had situational confidence.

 

[GaBrotha]

What do the old circles have to do with today 10+ yrs later?

Nothing much, but I feel like that was one of my only chances of meeting women around my age range which I seemingly don't have anymore now that I'm older and out of school. Even recently (in college), I've hung out with more guys in social settings than I did where women were, but I will say this. As of a couple of years ago before I got out of college, there was this one girl that seemed interested in me, but turns out that she was seeing another guy and was leading me on which I didn't take too kindly of...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nothing much, but I feel like that was one of my only chances of meeting women around my age range which I seemingly don't have anymore now that I'm older and out of school. Even recently (in college), I've hung out with more guys in social settings than I did where women were, but I will say this. As of a couple of years ago before I got out of college, there was this one girl that seemed interested in me, but turns out that she was seeing another guy and was leading me on which I didn't take too kindly of...

You live in the same area where your tarnished in some former circles? You can let them see you with a new and better females or you can relocate.

 

[corrector]

Nothing much, but I feel like that was one of my only chances of meeting women around my age range which I seemingly don't have anymore now that I'm older and out of school. Even recently (in college), I've hung out with more guys in social settings than I did where women were, but I will say this. As of a couple of years ago before I got out of college, there was this one girl that seemed interested in me, but turns out that she was seeing another guy and was leading me on which I didn't take too kindly of...

You haven't dealt with anyone all this time?

 

[GaBrotha]

You haven't dealt with anyone all this time?

Other than on-off type of flings, I've had nothing the past 5-7 years. I've been single as a dollar bill basically. Honestly, I want a real long-term relationship as I'm tired of games from some of these women. I tried online dating even as recently as 2 months ago and managed to pull between 3s to 7s and it seems like I can talk to the chick, get a number, but I can't even get a date out of it or even a text back. I also tried to join some local groups, but I can't do anything now due to covid-19.

 

[corrector]

Other than on-off type of flings, I've had nothing the past 5-7 years. I've been single as a dollar bill basically. Honestly, I want a real long-term relationship as I'm tired of games from some of these women. I tried online dating even as recently as 2 months ago and managed to pull between 3s to 7s and it seems like I can talk to the chick, get a number, but I can't even get a date out of it or even a text back. I also tried to join some local groups, but I can't do anything now due to covid-19.

When was the last fling you had?

 

[GaBrotha]

When was the last fling you had?

About 3 years ago, I don't want to go into detail but it was fantastic... I randomly hooked up with chicks while in town..

 

[HyenaPrince]

I'd forget on-line dating. It exists to boost women's egos, and today, their heads are swollen enough. Hundreds of thirsty simps on there telling them how good they look, begging to meet them, etc.

Focus on social setting with friends.

I agree, women's egos are absolutely inflated due to the online dating culture. But OLD offers quick and easy dates with a high possibility of ending up at your or her place. Your appearance is evaluated way more critically though. If you get her number after a short conversation on the app and then set up a date with zero tolerance for bullsh*t or time wasting stories, you're going have effective results.

 

[corrector]

About 3 years ago, I don't want to go into detail but it was fantastic... I randomly hooked up with chicks while in town..

Chicks, as in plural "s"? Threesome? A sex-spree? What happened?

Anyway, as @mrgoodstuff would say, you need a slump buster because you are in a dry-spell and now look "Non-sexual" to women and unless you break the slump, normally with a grotesquely looking fat woman you want to puke rather than lay with, then you are doomed to a life of involuntary celibacy. I personally disagree with his logic, but it would be interesting to hear him weigh-in on this. You can bag an ugly fattie if you want to through, right?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Chicks, as in plural "s"? Threesome? A sex-spree? What happened?

Anyway, as @mrgoodstuff would say, you need a slump buster because you are in a dry-spell and now look "Non-sexual" to women and unless you break the slump, normally with a grotesquely looking fat woman you want to puke rather than lay with, then you are doomed to a life of involuntary celibacy. I personally disagree with his logic, but it would be interesting to hear him weigh-in on this. You can bag an ugly fattie if you want to through, right?

Bro wisdom : "you need to get your d1ck wet".

Sex is a world where starving men do not get fed. But a well sexed man has countless offers.

 

[GaBrotha]

Chicks, as in plural "s"? Threesome? A sex-spree? What happened?

Anyway, as @mrgoodstuff would say, you need a slump buster because you are in a dry-spell and now look "Non-sexual" to women and unless you break the slump, normally with a grotesquely looking fat woman you want to puke rather than lay with, then you are doomed to a life of involuntary celibacy. I personally disagree with his logic, but it would be interesting to hear him weigh-in on this. You can bag an ugly fattie if you want to through, right?

You're right, I definitely need to get out of this slump (via the slump buster) lol.. But I will say this, I've noticed the women that give me great social ques and things in real life are better quality (in looks) than what I attract while on online dating, so I'm mainly interested in running day game more than anything at this point. The only time I deal with fatties or single mothers is on online dating and usually that ain't happening in my book. As far as the thing from couple of years ago, it was this little blonde girl (I'd assume she was a student) at the time because I was too. We met at a restaurant and she was the one who was overly nice towards me and I had to do something in a short span of time. I met her and some dudes there and we had a gang type thing with *******s/handjobs... No actual sexual intercourse happened tho.

 

[corrector]

We met at a restaurant and she was the one who was overly nice towards me and I had to do something in a short span of time. I met her and some dudes there and we had a gang type thing with *******s/handjobs... No actual sexual intercourse happened tho.

Inside the restaurant? Did this happen under the table?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You're right, I definitely need to get out of this slump (via the slump buster) lol.. But I will say this, I've noticed the women that give me great social ques and things in real life are better quality (in looks) than what I attract while on online dating, so I'm mainly interested in running day game more than anything at this point. The only time I deal with fatties or single mothers is on online dating and usually that ain't happening in my book. As far as the thing from couple of years ago, it was this little blonde girl (I'd assume she was a student) at the time because I was too. We met at a restaurant and she was the one who was overly nice towards me and I had to do something in a short span of time. I met her and some dudes there and we had a gang type thing with *******s/handjobs... No actual sexual intercourse happened tho.

What did you mean by gang type thing?

 

[GaBrotha]

What did you mean by gang type thing?

What did you mean by gang type thing?

Inside the restaurant? Did this happen under the table?

Nope, it happened at a kickback party. I've only been to a couple of these in my life.. It's like in porn where a group of guys get a lil sumthin from one girl. The girl blows one guy, then the next and on forth. That is what I was referring to in that statement.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nope, it happened at a kickback party. I've only been to a couple of these in my life.. It's like in porn where a group of guys get a lil sumthin from one girl. The girl blows one guy, then the next and on forth. That is what I was referring to in that statement.

You all nutted?