reddit post: Hobby groups are full of single men

[SW15]

Use your head. Perhaps they have friends who have friends. Or maybe you're new to the city and looking for wingmen to hit the bars with. It sounds to me like you get in your own way.

Wingmen seems like the more plausible scenario. Though you can do bar approaching as a solo artist. I've done it many times. Day game is mostly a solo activity.

 

[MatureDJ]

When you say good volleyball players tend to be tall, are you referring to both sexes or just the women?

As for the Chad City part, I don't see this as a major problem. Every man should do everything in his power to be Chad. I exercise 4-5 days a week, eat clean, and avoid porn and mbate to optimize testosterone. While I am not a definitive Chad, I have a very good case for being Chad Lite.



Weddings have changed in recent years as well. In the 1990s and early 2000s when you were likely doing weddings it was different. In a lot of the weddings since 2010, the couple getting married are around age 30, and most of their friends are people in established couples around age 30 as well, making a post wedding reception a complete pusssy wasteland for the single and unattached man. "Wedding Crashers", which came out in 2005, is horribly outdated today, and might have even been outdated in 2005. People just don't meet at weddings anymore if they are in their late 20s or later. If people meet romantic partners through their circle of acquiantances and friends, it is at some other social event.

3 of my friends in my primary social circle got married in 2017. I didn't attend any of the weddings because of this. My closest friend of the 3, after the wedding, told me there were a total of 110 attendees at the post wedding reception, and 0 single and unattached women under the age of 40. The other 2 weddings likely had a similar demographic composition. I was in a new relationship in 2017 at the time of 2 of the 3 weddings, including the one I mentioned with the 110 attendees. In a separate issue, for the one with 110 attendees, I wasn't even given a +1 to that wedding since when the guest list was determined, I wasn't in a couple.

The only time a wedding might be worth going to is if it is a local wedding, and the couple getting married is well younger than the median age of people who married. You want the couple getting married to be like 25 and 23, so that they'll still have unattached people in their orbit.



I'm an early Millennial and I know of Norm from Cheers from passing by re-runs.

I'm not sure that method would work today. Why would a 45 year old woman go to a Rotary Club or Kiwanis event to meet men when she can interact with far more men by putting up a profile on Hinge, Bumble, or even old school Match? It's entirely possible for a 45-50 year old woman who isn't drawing much interest in the real world often to throw up a profile in the digital world and all of a sudden she's being pursued like she was when she was in high school in the pre-internet era. I've seen this exact scenario play out among people I know. About 6 years ago, a male acquaintance who was in his early 30s at the time tried to bang such late 40s woman in this scenario and she turned him down as she told him she had 3-5 other options she was juggling. She was menopausal, had 2 kids still under 18, and yet could carry on a multiple sexual relationships.

He wasn't meeting women in those organizations; he was meeting other men, and these mens' wives were always asking if they knew anyone they could set up for their 40/50-ish female friends, and he fit the bill.

The wedding thing was something that had worked in my younger days. I'm now into the phase of life where the next generation is getting married (i.e., nieces & children of friends), so it's not working anymore as now I look "creepy".

 

[MatureDJ]

Two comments:

1 - Why the **** are you browsing Reddit? It's full of simps, virtue-signalling f*ags, and sad, pathetic, disillusioned white knights.
2 - Hobbies/groups should be done for their own sake, and meeting women should be purely indicidental. If you go into those places NOT expecting to meet women, but have fun and meet people, you'll be much more likely to actually meet a girl anyway.

I was listening to a YouTube video in which the meetup situation was discussed, so I did a search, and the Reddit post came up.

 

[corrector]

Use your head. Perhaps they have friends who have friends.

If its a sausage fest then they are thirsty themselves, which means either they would have those friends as their own prospects, or they were friendzoned/rejected by them. Why would they play matchmaker with you? Did you even have such an experience?

Or maybe you're new to the city and looking for wingmen to hit the bars with. It sounds to me like you get in your own way.

Going to a meetup group to meet a wingman. Probably the bunch of them are thirsty dudes also looking for women there too, lol! You are really going to find a wingman there all right. Their only value to you is if they might have a sister, cousin, or friend they can refer over to you or become your wingman and they will just cooperate with you like that! Well, at least it sounds a bit less gay as a sh1tty idea.

 

[jaymbrs]

If its a sausage fest then they are thirsty themselves, which means either they would have those friends as their own prospects, or they were friendzoned/rejected by them. Why would they play matchmaker with you? Did you even have such an experience?



Going to a meetup group to meet a wingman. Probably the bunch of them are thirsty dudes also looking for women there too, lol! You are really going to find a wingman there all right. Their only value to you is if they might have a sister, cousin, or friend they can refer over to you or become your wingman and they will just cooperate with you like that! Well, at least it sounds a bit less gay as a sh1tty idea.

Yes. I've moved twice and have met women through guy friends. Some of them were clients of theirs, some were friends of GFs, and some were friends from school.

 

[corrector]

Yes. I've moved twice and have met women through guy friends. Some of them were clients of theirs, some were friends of GFs, and some were friends from school.

Did you told them you were looking for a girl and asked them to hook you up?

 

[jaymbrs]

Did you told them you were looking for a girl and asked them to hook you up?

Not really. I met most of them at the parties we would attend or in the group settings when we would go out for a live music venue or bars.

 

[corrector]

Not really. I met most of them at the parties we would attend or in the group settings when we would go out for a live music venue or bars.

Did you meet these guys from a sausage-fest meet up group? Yes, or no?

Assuming that you did not, you still met women in a group setting that included women so it's not really the guy friends that hooked-you up or introduced you to them. That's all incidental so it's not really a point. Nobody would be down on having guy friends. But going to a meet-up group that would attract single guys looking to pair up is not the same thing.

 

[SW15]

He wasn't meeting women in those organizations; he was meeting other men, and these mens' wives were always asking if they knew anyone they could set up for their 40/50-ish female friends, and he fit the bill.

The wedding thing was something that had worked in my younger days. I'm now into the phase of life where the next generation is getting married (i.e., nieces & children of friends), so it's not working anymore as now I look "creepy".

I was just saying the wedding thing isn't working all that well for the younger generation, so you're not missing much by having matured out of it.

I could see a situation of a wife setting up a social circle introduction for her divorced 40/50-ish female friends. That's not outdated in this era but a lot of married people tend to have mostly other married people in their social circles. It is semi-improbable, but far from being out of the realm of possibility.

 

[jaymbrs]

Did you meet these guys from a sausage-fest meet up group? Yes, or no?

Assuming that you did not, you still met women in a group setting that included women so it's not really the guy friends that hooked-you up or introduced you to them. That's all incidental so it's not really a point. Nobody would be down on having guy friends. But going to a meet-up group that would attract single guys looking to pair up is not the same thing.

Sounds like you either need new guy friends or just friends in general. I don't see what you're finding so difficult about this.

 

[corrector]

Sounds like you either need new guy friends or just friends in general. I don't see what you're finding so difficult about this.

Stop deflecting. You answer is no so your meetup advice is bs.

 

[jaymbrs]

Stop deflecting. You answer is no so your meetup advice is bs.

Not deflecting. Just not going to continue a conversation with someone who is trolling. I don't give BS advice. I give advice based off my personal experiences. If you can't wrap your head around the fact that it's possible to meet women through guy friends, then I don't know what else to tell ya.

 

[corrector]

Not deflecting. Just not going to continue a conversation with someone who is trolling. I don't give BS advice. I give advice based off my personal experiences. If you can't wrap your head around the fact that it's possible to meet women through guy friends, then I don't know what else to tell ya.

Right and you have no personal experience going to a meetup sausage fest. You do have experience meeting women in group settings where you happen to also hapen have guy friends. You are doing social circle game with a coed group not a sausage fest. Your own admission.

Title of thread, hobby groups full of SINGLE men.

 

[MatureDJ]

Did you told them you were looking for a girl and asked them to hook you up?

If a man asks if anyone could set him, it can be assured that the gal he gets set up with will be a whale.

 

[nismo-4]

If you create a hobby group named "international millionaires in hedonism" and as description:
"we're young millionaires from everywhere in the world who enjoy travelling and taking advantage of our wealth visiting the most exclusive places on the globe and meet you friends to join us".

For some reason I believe many more women will ask to join.

You know it seems to me that women are drawn to a small numer of men while they not only are not to the majority but actually see such majority as a waste of space and would gladly avoid any interaction with them.

LOL!

Yeah, 90% of girls go for 10% of men. If you're not there, find a way in. No different than a Fortune 500 job interview.