Broke no contact after 4 months.

[Robert28]

I'm not gonna allow the kids to meet and whem she calls, I'm gonna ignore all her calls and texts

She isn’t calling or texting you though. She’s ignored you the few times you’ve reached out. Hell, your main does no contact better than you do. I honestly wouldn’t be a d!ck and be all petty about not letting your son hangout with her daughter if he wants to. You don’t have to talk to her when she’s at the door, just a friendly hey or something. You’re wanting to create all this drama and she’s going to see that you haven’t changed one bit. You keep getting in your own way. You could fix this over time but it would take a long time, you acting cordial and not butthurt and just not acting childish. You could start out with simple hellos when she’s at the door, then maybe make small talk after 10 times of this, then ask her if she’d like to come in onetime if your son isn’t ready and she’s there to pick him up.

 

[Robert28]

I don’t see how 5 months haven’t helped your feelings die down at all. I dated a girl for a year and a half that I was CRAZY about and after 2 months of no contact I felt myself not feeling about her near as strong as I did. Her mom even reached out to me to tell me she missed me.lol

 

[RicBoy]

She isn’t calling or texting you though. She’s ignored you the few times you’ve reached out. Hell, your main does no contact better than you do. I honestly wouldn’t be a d!ck and be all petty about not letting your son hangout with her daughter if he wants to. You don’t have to talk to her when she’s at the door, just a friendly hey or something. You’re wanting to create all this drama and she’s going to see that you haven’t changed one bit. You keep getting in your own way. You could fix this over time but it would take a long time, you acting cordial and not butthurt and just not acting childish. You could start out with simple hellos when she’s at the door, then maybe make small talk after 10 times of this, then ask her if she’d like to come in onetime if your son isn’t ready and she’s there to pick him up.

This sounds good on paper. But she will keep having the power and the decision making. She will feel in the clouds knowing she didn't reach out for 6 months, didn't reply to my birthday msg and now after what I'll presume will be her reaching out soon I'm gonna let her get the kid.
I'm assuming she would respect me a lot more of I stand up for myself and tell her the kids aren't no longer meeting. No point because we ain't together.

 

[RicBoy]

She isn’t calling or texting you though. She’s ignored you the few times you’ve reached out. Hell, your main does no contact better than you do. I honestly wouldn’t be a d!ck and be all petty about not letting your son hangout with her daughter if he wants to. You don’t have to talk to her when she’s at the door, just a friendly hey or something. You’re wanting to create all this drama and she’s going to see that you haven’t changed one bit. You keep getting in your own way. You could fix this over time but it would take a long time, you acting cordial and not butthurt and just not acting childish. You could start out with simple hellos when she’s at the door, then maybe make small talk after 10 times of this, then ask her if she’d like to come in onetime if your son isn’t ready and she’s there to pick him up.

And let's face it, if she wanted me back she would have already reached out in these past 5 months. Its not the kids meeting up and her coming to my door that she will melt for me again.

 

[RicBoy]

That is hilarious and true.

But this is one of those posters who cherry picks what he wants to respond to, either because he's trolling or just can't handle the truth. Reminds me of that bigdave guy.

Not that man... I came here to ask if I should let the kids meet or not to have the best chance to either work things out with her in the future or at least some sort of fwb

 

[Lookatu]

Not that man... I came here to ask if I should let the kids meet or not to have the best chance to either work things out with her in the future or at least some sort of fwb

Once again, you're using the kids as a prop. Man, you got one thick skull...

 

[JayAce]

Until you kill 100% hope of ever getting back with her... you’re going to be stuck in this pathetic loop of thinking. You need to finally slap yourself out of this mindset you have

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dont cut it, unless her kid is a bad influence.

This is acting selfish, you make this about you and your ex.
That friendship as nothing to do with your ex.


Dont use this as a reason get in contact woth her but why the **** does your ex txt your boy.


Mods should close this thread it is feeding the neediness and desperation.

Yes. He needs to learn to stop talking about it.

This bullshyt keeps him weak as fvck.

 

[Glassguy]

I'm gonna ignore all her calls and texts

Sure you will

But she will keep having the power and the decision making

Uhm.......what decision making?

And let's face it, if she wanted me back she would have already reached out in these past 5 months

Ya think?

I came here to ask if I should let the kids meet or not to have the best chance to either work things out with her in the future or at least some sort of fwb

Yet you mention the thought of getting back together in nearly all of your posts.......

Once again, you're using the kids as a prop. Man, you got one thick skull...

Yep lol

 

[RicBoy]

I'm going to do the following and this is final.
When she calls or texts about picking up my kid I'm gonna ignore her. Every 2 to 3 texts she sends ill just reply that me and my son are busy. And will keep saying we are busy. Either she gets it and stops or she actually steps forward and makes a move on me. Maybe asks me to bring my son over and join her for dinner or so.

This way she cant blame me or start pointing out the finger at me that I don't let the kids meet. And I'll regain control and power over the situation which will make me feel better and she will probably feel worse.

Thanks for all the replies.

 

[Glassguy]

When she calls or texts about picking up my kid I'm gonna ignore her. Every 2 to 3 texts she sends ill just reply that me and my son are busy. And will keep saying we are busy.

Because you dont have the frame to just block her and actually move on.

Either she gets it and stops or she actually steps forward and makes a move on me. Maybe asks me to bring my son over and join her for dinner or so.

There you go again with your hopeful thinking of her taking you back.

This way she cant blame me or start pointing out the finger at me that I don't let the kids see

She cant blame you if she cant contact you after you block her

And I'll gain control and power over the situation

Look at yourself......you really think you will regain power to this woman who has you acting like a total nutcase after being broken up for months on end? Seriously?

Obviously your kid and her kid can communicate without your help or her help. No idea why you just dont block her and let the kids remain friends and communicate with each other on their own.

Oh yeah I do......because internally you are trying to manipulate the situation into trying to MAKE her like you and respect you again. It wont happen captain.

Every guy in the world has done something beta and stupid before. Thats how we learn. We do something, get a negative response and dont do it again. We do something, get a positive response and we continue doing it as long as the response remains positive.

You on the other hand.......it doesnt matter what you do because she is indifferent. She doesnt care either way about you. That is the part that you totally dont understand yet.

Nothing you will do will make her like you.

 

[RicBoy]

She is friends with all her exes, I'd say that's indifference. She has me blocked everywhere, didn't say thanks for my birthday msg. Showed up announced to my door 5 months ago, when I opened she said she hates me and despises me.. I don't think that's indifference. But let's see how it rolls.
I don't block women exactly for that reason shows you're affected and not indifferent.

Kids can talk without our intervention thats not the issue here. The issue here was 2 times my son was here in holiday she came to pick him up. So she will want to continue this 2/3 times a month when he moves here next month and also having her daughter sleep over my place.

By the way one time I dropped him off at her place 5 months ago she was hidden on the toilet in the shower. My son later told me she was hidden, she had the clothes on and got of the toilet as soon I left. Still indifference?

 

[lamath]

I dont mind talking about how you are coping Ric but this is very counter productive.

Hope this **** is not too hard on you but from i see its getting worst.

Dont hesitate to pm if you need advise about coping but the ex talk should stop right now.




@Atom Smasher , @billtx49 , @logicallefty This ran its course?

 

[Billtx49]

Yes, this thread is looped and stalled.
Closed