JohnChops
Master Don Juan
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As stuff starts to open up where I'm at I decided to take a plate out to a bar down the shore, we met up with my two female cousins who reserved a table. One is in a relationship and the other is not. The one in the relationship has been in said relationship for 7 years, her boyfriend does not give a fvck, super ripped but also...does not do anything except sleep, work, watch movies, go to the gym. They get on the topic of hooking up with other guys and the cousin in a relationship had some loose lips this evening (alcohol be like that sometimes), and blurted out shes been cheating on her boyfriend with another guy.
So I hear this and now I'm curious. So I ask her why, she says her boyfriend has the perfect body, does everything for her, is a sweatheart but also is not an emotional pu$$y (different words out of her mouth but that sums it up) and yet she is bored. If there is one thing Pook always said, it is that a girl can tolerate a bunch of **** but she can never tolerate bordem. I never believed it until this very conversation. So I asked her what she likes about the dude she was cheating on her boyfriend with, she says he takes me here, we do this this and this, it is so exciting and thrilling. I ask, well what about "boyfriend" and she said shes tried to get him out to do stuff but he doesn't want to.
The obvious thing here is she shouldn't even be with the guy, but im assuming after 7 years with someone comfort takes precedence over anything else, e.g. it is easier to cheat than it is to start over with someone, especially in a relationship that long, but the real meat and potatoes and what I got out of this encounter, was
1) Don't be boring (shocker)
Be exciting, you don't have to be doing anything crazy but no matter what you do make it fun. For example, movies are considered boring, until you spice it up. Tell her what to wear, predict **** like what will happen at the end, if she loses then she has to do xyz. You get the point. No matter wtf you do, make it fun. Not everyone has access to boats (and hoes), beach houses or other sh1t but like I said you can spice just about anything up. A really good way to do it is incorporating bets e.g. you go play mini-golf, make a bet, it makes it more exciting than it really is (but mini golf is fvcking awesome anyway so no need to spice that one up)
2) If you both don't like doing the same sh1t, it is not going to work out
Essentially this is for someone looking for a relationship not the dudes just looking to bang and run. Building a relationship off of sex will only lead to sex and then it fizzles in a few months. Building one off of someone else's body (e.g. boyfriend is super ripped, girl liked it at the start but is now bored) leads to sex and then fizzles out. Build something stronger. Anti-dump talked about weeding out girls, and using your date ideas to find the ones that are flexible and will follow you, but most importantly by using your own date ideas for the first few, you know she likes the same things you do and it could work in the long run. So build your house of out slabs of concrete not sticks and mud.
Thats all I got, felt like sharing my weekend interaction and reflection,
Have a good week fellas.
So I hear this and now I'm curious. So I ask her why, she says her boyfriend has the perfect body, does everything for her, is a sweatheart but also is not an emotional pu$$y (different words out of her mouth but that sums it up) and yet she is bored. If there is one thing Pook always said, it is that a girl can tolerate a bunch of **** but she can never tolerate bordem. I never believed it until this very conversation. So I asked her what she likes about the dude she was cheating on her boyfriend with, she says he takes me here, we do this this and this, it is so exciting and thrilling. I ask, well what about "boyfriend" and she said shes tried to get him out to do stuff but he doesn't want to.
The obvious thing here is she shouldn't even be with the guy, but im assuming after 7 years with someone comfort takes precedence over anything else, e.g. it is easier to cheat than it is to start over with someone, especially in a relationship that long, but the real meat and potatoes and what I got out of this encounter, was
1) Don't be boring (shocker)
Be exciting, you don't have to be doing anything crazy but no matter what you do make it fun. For example, movies are considered boring, until you spice it up. Tell her what to wear, predict **** like what will happen at the end, if she loses then she has to do xyz. You get the point. No matter wtf you do, make it fun. Not everyone has access to boats (and hoes), beach houses or other sh1t but like I said you can spice just about anything up. A really good way to do it is incorporating bets e.g. you go play mini-golf, make a bet, it makes it more exciting than it really is (but mini golf is fvcking awesome anyway so no need to spice that one up)
2) If you both don't like doing the same sh1t, it is not going to work out
Essentially this is for someone looking for a relationship not the dudes just looking to bang and run. Building a relationship off of sex will only lead to sex and then it fizzles in a few months. Building one off of someone else's body (e.g. boyfriend is super ripped, girl liked it at the start but is now bored) leads to sex and then fizzles out. Build something stronger. Anti-dump talked about weeding out girls, and using your date ideas to find the ones that are flexible and will follow you, but most importantly by using your own date ideas for the first few, you know she likes the same things you do and it could work in the long run. So build your house of out slabs of concrete not sticks and mud.
Thats all I got, felt like sharing my weekend interaction and reflection,
Have a good week fellas.
