Can you have normal conversations as well with them, or do you need to be always on point and try to make it fun?
Sometimes I have days where I’m not feeling it and I just have a normal conversation, but they still reply and keep it going. But I always feel like I could have done much better.
Then again I do remember an ex girlfriend of me with which I could chat every day for hours, about every single topic and yet afterwards was head over heels for me.
OP, bottom line is YES, girls do want to have fun when out on a date and/or spending time with their man, especially in the early going.
Keep in mind, once you land the date, she already has some semblance of attraction for you so it's up to you to be charismatic, engaging, a good conversationalist, and interesting. And well-placed humor is an absolute GOLDEN TICKET to advance things and/or bang her.
Some on here are knocking c*ocky and funny (C&F). Let me tell you this: It works big time. I've been using it for years and years. The reason it works is that it takes an intelligent and intellectual person to find and use humor and being c*ocky is being "cheerfully confident." Put these two together and it is pure gold--guaranteed.
But, I would guess only a small percentage of guys can effectively pull this off, maybe 10-20%. And guess what? These are the guys banging A LOT of women. Half the population is introverted and of the remaining extroverts, many don't know how to effectively use C&F. So yes, many on here are knocking it because they can't use it properly. But that's ok, maybe something else works for them.
But I can say this with absolute 100% accuracy: Being boring on a date is the kiss of death. I hear it from attractive women all time—and laugh out loud as they’re telling me the story.
Here are a few tips for success especially in the early going with a woman to give yourself massive separation vs other guys:
1- YOU make the date. NEVER ask what she wants to do. PLAN a fun date doing something active or unique. Hiking, paddle boarding, horseback riding, making dinner together, whatever, but be creative and different. Netflix and chill is so f*ucking unimaginative and stupid. Woman must vomit at that offer but often take it because it's that or nothing and 90% of all guys have zero game or ideas.
2- Be a good conversationalist. Talk about interesting topics and subjects, but nothing negative. Get her opinion on things. Pop culture, music, hobbies, career are good topics. Peel the onion and ask follow-up questions when she talks. Don't run your mouth. Shut the F up and give her small morsels of info when she asks, keep her inquisitive and guessing a bit. Most guys talk way too much on dates. This is a real turn-off to women as it communicates you're trying way too hard to impress her. Make her impress you.
3- Humor is GOLD. Make fun of a couple maybe on a first date, make funny observations, keep her having fun. Don't be a dancing monkey, use well-placed humor so pick your spots.
4- Tease her an flip her some s*hit. Here's where C&F comes in. Women subconsciously loved to be teased because it shows humor and confidence on your part like you don't pedestalize her and could care less if she gets mad. Don't be mean or disrespectful, but playful teasing is HUGE and can often be enough to get you laid.
5- Never plan another date while on a date. You can say, "Hey that was fun. Talk soon." or similar. Men project their feelings way too much so use some gamesmanship in the early going and keep her guessing a little bit. It creates some mystery which women love.
So to recap:
C*ocky (confidence) + Funny (intelligent humor) + Creative (fun dates) + Teasing (more confidence) + Good Conversationalist (smart, interesting) + Mystery (keep her guessing a bit on another date) =
100% success on your part if you can pull it off. 6/6 will get you laid guaranteed.
Good luck
~Dash~