article: The “Uneven” Nonmonogamous Marriage - I agreed to open our marriage for my husband. He’s loving it. I am not.

[mrgoodstuff]

No they won't. A man starved of sex over time carries alot of stress and LOOKS like a sexless man. Its not a good look.

Dude getting CVCKED tears up a mans looks, drains his swag, lowers his testosterone, makes him more submissive. It makes him look like shyt when formerly he could be a man full of sexuality and vitality.

 

[Lookatu]

Yeah, ethical non-monogamy is a third rail in most circles, I've found that out the hard way as well. I'll say I've found it somewhat puzzling that tacit non-monogamy (aka, Spinning Plates) is embraced here, but ethical non-monogamy is not, despite being arguably very close on the spectrum.

I'm not 100% sold on the fact that ethical non-monogamy works for both sexes though. There's a strong emotional component for women more so than men and they have a higher chance of falling in love or getting emotions tied up when sleeping with others. That's why I think it can only work for guys mainly. I'm not saying guys can't fall in love with someone if they sleep with them long enough but chances are more rare than women, especially if their significant other is treating them very well. You can see this from history where guys that's slept with women outside of their marriage end up staying married but you can't exactly say the same with women in the same scenario. That's what I expressed to the wife and told her that I prefer her not to go outside of the marriage. So far she agreed not to but is waiting for me to get my $hit together and figure things out or she will leave.

But then there are also scenarios where guys just get tired of having sex with the same person over and over and give up having sex with their partner and that's totally the fault of guys. Those are the cases where you see women going outside of the marriage and the guys basically condone cvcking so they don't have to deal with it and can pass off "their problem".

There are also scenarios where both are naturally swingers and are able to separate out the sex from anything else. They often have very strict rules they abide by as to not get into any trouble.

There's a lot more to this with unique individual situations/dynamics and details but that can turn into a book in itself.

 

[Lookatu]

I've been in similar situations as well, although I was usually the wife's boyfriend. I would be the main boyfriend of as many as 4-5 wives at once and none of them cared. In fact, I even managed to enjoy an occasion threesome when I could get a couple of them together, since most of them were bi. Its fun and very validating but not something I could have done for the rest of my life or anything.

It sounds like in your situation, the wives not caring indicates maybe they were staying together for the kids and/or the beta support/stability/white knight/resources/financial that existed in their marriage while still being able to get sex on the side? If the woman wanted her cake and eat it too, this sounds like it.

 

[SW15]

When a sheep dog gets a taste for sheep... the farmer can’t train that taste out of him... he will end up killing sheep every chance he gets until the farmer has no choice but to put the dog down. That’s what will happen to the relationship. One person will enjoy it, the other won’t. The one that enjoys it won’t stop and the relationship will ultimately come to an end as a result.

I agree. That's how a lot of these open relationships work.

No they won't. A man starved of sex over time carries alot of stress and LOOKS like a sexless man. Its not a good look.

I think women can sense this and not give the sexless man the sex he needs.

I've been in similar situations as well, although I was usually the wife's boyfriend. I would be the main boyfriend of as many as 4-5 wives at once and none of them cared. In fact, I even managed to enjoy an occasion threesome when I could get a couple of them together, since most of them were bi. Its fun and very validating but not something I could have done for the rest of my life or anything.

Major credit for this. This is awesome. Getting two separate cheating wives together for a 3 way is solid.

Wow this is a very good point. I gotta remember this—how they only make the man look good here so that they can cuck men even more in this society RIP this was a seriously good catch. Can’t believe I didn’t see it.

Few guys can do open relationships well. This is a very stealth use of media content by the media entity. They are selling the false hope to men that men can do well in open relationships when the likely outcome is that a man won't do well in a open relationship. They'll create more cucks. This segways perfect into the next quote.

I've run around with a lot of poly and swinger couples and I can confirm that in 90% of them its the female that gets all the extramarital action, not the male. The reality is that there are alot more attractive females than males at every age level. Add in the fact there are also a lot more men who will bang anything and it's a recipe for the "hotwife" scenario where she plays and he watches (if he's lucky)

Also there is tons of jealousy and cheating even within the confines of an "open" relationship so it doesn't really help with regards to those issues either.

This is good insight and exactly what I expected. I've never run in the whole poly and swinger environment. I have had one casual threesome with two women. I'm glad that I have had that experience.

The general open relationship environment seems to benefit women more than men. They can get their Alpha fvcks and beta bucks simultaneously.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Its possible. Every relationship is different. Some men just watch, some actively participate, some like to take pics/video and some aren't allowed to be there at all during sexual encounters. I think the most common thing I experienced was a couple that had been together a while and the wife had aged much better than the husband. The husband viewed this as a way to keep her happy and to stay together.

That wife likely aged better than her husband, because she cvcked his bytch or stupid azz.

Men who are cvcked or starved for puzzy look like a man who is cvcked or starved for puzzy.

There's also a real phenomenon of guys who enjoy watching another man treat his wife like a dirty little slvt.

Not sure how many dominant men can feel this way if they aren't able to fvck other women at will.

Can't tell you how many times I was told by couples they wanted me to treat her in a manner her hubby never could, whether that meant bondage, being very aggressive or whatever. I did get the feeling most of the wives loved their husband, but didn't really enjoy the sexual aspect of their relationships with them. The usual "nice guy" thing we've all read about on here is a real thing and a lot of married men are allowing it to ruin their sex lives.

IT could be that she won't "let" him treat her that way. Many of the wives have this need to feel superior to their men, and they use outside entities to enforce this view point. Being triangulated or quad or hexalated takes an impossibly strong man to prevent tear-down.

As far as your specific question, I really never met a husband with those characteristics. Strength, vitailty and good looks are in short supply in the swinger world, especially among the men. That's why most women go with single men. If youre looking for a night of passion, why trade in your married guy for another one just like him?

You your self said 90% of the swinger situation is most of the men don't get action and get basically cvcked by their swinger wives. Such a man will look like he's been starved of life and strength in comparison. Like a starving ethiopian.

 

[Hal9000]

It sounds like in your situation, the wives not caring indicates maybe they were staying together for the kids and/or the beta support/stability/white knight/resources/financial that existed in their marriage while still being able to get sex on the side? If the woman wanted her cake and eat it too, this sounds like it.

Most of these situations were definitely about the woman getting whatever she needed.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I wonder how many women would agree to have an open relationship where they can get banged from other guys while her husband has an open wallet and can blows money on other women.

Somehow I believe they wouldnt find it a great deal.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I agree. That's how a lot of these open relationships work.



I think women can sense this and not give the sexless man the sex he needs.



Major credit for this. This is awesome. Getting two separate cheating wives together for a 3 way is solid.



Few guys can do open relationships well. This is a very stealth use of media content by the media entity. They are selling the false hope to men that men can do well in open relationships when the likely outcome is that a man won't do well in a open relationship. They'll create more cucks. This segways perfect into the next quote.



This is good insight and exactly what I expected. I've never run in the whole poly and swinger environment. I have had one casual threesome with two women. I'm glad that I have had that experience.

The general open relationship environment seems to benefit women more than men. They can get their Alpha fvcks and beta bucks simultaneously.

I wonder how many women would agree to have an open relationship where they can get banged from other guys while her husband has an open wallet and can blows money on other women.

Somehow I believe they wouldnt find it a great deal.

That would drain his cash. Most women dont want other women draining cash.

 

[Who Dares Win]

That would drain his cash. Most women dont want other women draining cash.

Thats the whole point, a husband getting money drained from other women is exactly like a wife getting railed from other men.

 

[SW15]

Thats the whole point, a husband getting money drained from other women is exactly like a wife getting railed from other men.

A guy that I would consider a real man doesn't want his wife or girlfriend getting railed by another guy, especially if he isn't getting some from other women, as @Hal9000 indicated is common in poly and swinging communities.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thats the whole point, a husband getting money drained from other women is exactly like a wife getting railed from other men.

How is it for a husband if he got "knocked out ot the puzzy" for say a year because his wife wanted to submit her body to another man?

 

[Who Dares Win]

A guy that I would consider a real man doesn't want his wife or girlfriend getting railed by another guy, especially if he isn't getting some from other women, as @Hal9000 indicated is common in poly and swinging communities.

How is it for a husband if he got "knocked out ot the puzzy" for say a year because his wife wanted to submit her body to another man?

Well those kind of men who happen to accept such condition or even encourage it, should talk with a psychologist...a very good one possibly.

The only positive thing is that hopefully it wont be them to make their woman pregnant therefore their defective dna wont spread.

 

[SW15]

Well those kind of men who happen to accept such condition or even encourage it, should talk with a psychologist...a very good one possibly.

The only positive thing is that hopefully it wont be them to make their woman pregnant therefore their defective dna wont spread.

Some psychologists are also cucks. It would have to be a non-cuck psychologist.

Wives and girlfriends have been known to get pregnant from non-primary partners. It is unknown how common that is. I've seen varying statistics.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some psychologists are also cucks. It would have to be a non-cuck psychologist.

Wives and girlfriends have been known to get pregnant from non-primary partners. It is unknown how common that is. I've seen varying statistics.

Alot of the white knights are cvcks and if your not a cvck they will hate you.

 

[Hal9000]

It sounds like in your situation, the wives not caring indicates maybe they were staying together for the kids and/or the beta support/stability/white knight/resources/financial that existed in their marriage while still being able to get sex on the side? If the woman wanted her cake and eat it too, this sounds like it.

I'd say that a fair assessment of many, if not all, of them. I was also very up front that I wasn't going to be in a committed monogamous relationship with another man's wife. If they wanted me then they would have to share. They actually enjoyed the competition and anyone who has been in that situation can tell you that a woman trying to make it worth your while to keep seeing her can deliver some amazing sexual energy.