For a specific example, she has a better social circle than me, more powerful/famous friends, more followers on instagram, is she not going to perceive me as lower value than her? How do I show her I am higher value and worth chasing.
Start with a IDGAF attitude when it comes to such superficial things like perceived popularity of social circles. Instagram might be the biggest validation tool chicks use -- just delete the silly thing if nothing else.Is it not all social proof? Being high status? Can you give examples of how to be a high value man / show value without these things?
Social media is pretty fake. I have followers that I've never talked to and I don't identify with the number of followers I have. If you cater to the likes you receive you are catering to the crowd, you're not being yourself. It's a balance but there's really no problem with completely avoiding all social media, it has no real value unless you get millions of followers and become sponsored. You can occasionally post vacation shots and let people's imagination run wild if you want to use it, but in general it should be fun, not some metric you use to validate yourself. I'm pretty turned off if a girl thinks she's better than me because of her social media following.Is it not all social proof? Being high status? Can you give examples of how to be a high value man / show value without these things?
I agree with your first part but totally disagree with the last part.Be a high value man, not a high value woman.
Your masculine vibe and masculine traits will determine how high your value is.
Worrying about having famous friends, more instagram followers, or a better social circle is highly feminine.
Having a better social circle is completely irrelevant btw.
You shouldn't be competing with another female's social circle. That's a very terrible strategy.
I agree with all of this - although I think the issue was that OP was concerned that his own social circle was inferior vis a vis to the chick's social circle. Having a good social circle has a lot of great benefits - no question. Comparing your own social circle to the chick's social circle is pointless and counter-productive and ultimately has no benefit since whose is "better" is completely subjective.I agree with your first part but totally disagree with the last part.
I agree that chasing validation through IG followers, etc., is 100% feminine. It is weak. It reeks of desperation.
However- a stonger social circle has many benefits. Friendships, more options for dating, business and personal opportunities, etc.
A strong social circle is like money. Everyone wants as much as they can get.
Now this is where it gets tricky.......someone with money that flaunts it is WEAK. Someone with a strong social circle that flaunts it is WEAK. They are merely using it as a tool to conceal something inside of them that is lacking....aka a WEAK frame.
Its all in the intent. Anyone would be a happier person with a stronger social circle and more money as long as their intent was on par.
Try hards use those things to attempt to impress women and it blows up in their face.
Better physique, more money, stronger social circle, fame, education.....all beneficial things in life and all things that will help YOU be a more productive and better person and in turn have a happier life if used properly. The byproduct is that it will also attract women.
Self improvement on the above things should be for the betterment of yourself. If you are doing those things just for women in general you will surely be let down.
Is having more Instagram followers an indication of value?? What a sad world we live in.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
AgreedI agree with all of this - although I think the issue was that OP was concerned that his own social circle was inferior vis a vis to the chick's social circle. Having a good social circle has a lot of great benefits - no question. Comparing your own social circle to the chick's social circle is pointless and counter-productive and ultimately has no benefit since whose is "better" is completely subjective.
Funny how things like this can just be in our head.For a specific example, she has a better social circle than me, more powerful/famous friends, more followers on instagram, is she not going to perceive me as lower value than her? How do I show her I am higher value and worth chasing.
By treating her no differently than any other normal girl.For a specific example, she has a better social circle than me, more powerful/famous friends, more followers on instagram, is she not going to perceive me as lower value than her? How do I show her I am higher value and worth chasing.