That works very well to get her to pursue. Female brain will work like this "wait, WHAT. Did he just friendzone ME?! *insert beeping alarm because of hamster overheating* Am i not attractive enough?? Now i feel SAD and frustrated. I don't want to feel this way, i'm going to show him! He's hotter than i thought now that i think of it".
Don’t even do that. Just walk away. You don’t need to explain why, or throw a parade or friendzone her back and play mind games. It’s never worth it in the end because even if you do flip the girl, it won’t be what you hoped it would be. There’s a reason why all phones have a block and delete option, it’s for times when a woman refers to you as a friend.
Girls that used to be good looking but have been knocked down a few points in the looks department also act this way. They don’t know any better. It’s like me being in shape but letting myself go and blow up to 350 pounds and trying to tell everyone I can still run a 4.5 40.
Glass, do any of your females make significantly more than you?
Friendzoning a woman assumes that you're dating or that she has interest in you when you put her in the friendzone.
You’re right, but it can also be used to throw back to a woman that isn’t interested in you and who friendzoned you. Here’s how that works, eventually Miss Friendzone will need a favor or expect you to do SOMETHING that only a boyfriend would do. That’s when you remind her “but we are just friends, sorry but no”. Women are users. They don’t have to date you in order to use you, they’ll gladly use their “friends” anytime.
The friendzone is very real and it’s evolved over the years. Women have figured out how to word it now in such a way that you have to really be paying attention. They no longer come right out and say “let’s just be friends, you need to move on because we are never going to date”. No. Now they craft it something like “I’m not looking for anything right now, but I like you and want to keep getting to know you as a friend and see what happens.” What guy wouldn’t fall for that? And not only will they not tell you up front, they’ll wait until you’ve been dating for a month or two so you’re really starting to invest in them emotionally.
That is rejection, HOWEVER, the same woman that says that will also follow that up with texting and wanting to hangout still....but just as friends(she just hadn’t worded it that way yet). Women make it hard to walk out of the friendzone these days. You really have to be experienced in recognizing it because they can package it in a way that it doesn’t sound like what it is at all.
Currently spinning 2 plates. One is a pharmacist and the other is a Nurse Practitioner. So they both make good money with the pharmacist also working another job through the state which equals good money. So she makes quite a bit more than the other.
Say what?
My response: Yeah I am just casually dating also. Pick up a bottle of wine and come to my place Thursday at 8pm.
I’m talking about men that maybe don’t have a lot of experience with women, or maybe they haven’t swallowed the red pill yet. You have to remember that the majority of women have far more dating experience than the average guy. Women also know how to play on a guys “caretaker” instinct. There’s a lot of misinformation out there claiming the “friendzone” doesn’t exist, but it very much does and it can do real damage to a guy that doesn’t know how to navigate it. It’s something all guys have to go through, but my point is I am pointing out what to look for so a guy doesn’t waste months or years in it. Like you said, women are coy, they are users.
Are you sure that you've swallowed the pill?
I won’t say I’ve swallowed the pill but I’ve never made the same mistake twice. I’m indifferent towards women these days for the most part. Nothing they can do or say affects me whatsoever. I’m still nice to people that are nice to me, but I’ve never been nice to anyone in order to gain favor or acceptance. I’m not going to turn into a bitter d!ck though, that doesn’t look good on anyone. I’m woke when it comes to women, trust me.
You dont have to be bitter to stand up for yourself.
I walk away like nobody’s business. I think I may have even invented ghosting. I was dating a girl for a year onetime and she had become super b!tchy towards me for a month. I couldn’t take it anymore and I wasn’t going to. If she wasn’t willing to tell me what why she was being that way towards me, I wasn’t going to try to figure it out. We went out one last time and things seemed normal, she wasn’t being b!tchy to my face, only through texts. I’d already made up my mind about walking away though. I dropped her off and got the standard “text me when you get home”. “Sure thing babe”. Pulled out of her driveway, blocked and deleted her from every aspect she had to contact me and never talked to her again. Gave no reason or anything. I ghost all the time.
Thats the difference between you and I. I dont ask because I dont care. Nothing I could say to someone will effect who they REALLY are and how they REALLY want to treat people. I just bounce. She can worry about it later because I certainly wont be.
We were in a long term relationship, this wasn’t a plate. Communication is key in all relationships and she chose to not communicate with me all of a sudden. You can’t treat relationships like plates.
Sure you can. Please explain to me why you cant? Please tell me why changing what you did to attract a woman in the beginning (plate status) should change just because the title of the relationship changed to girlfriend/fiancee/wife?
I think communication breakdown is the cause of most relationships failing. Communication is great in the beginning but one side tends to stop communicating and wants the other side to be a mind reader.
