Last night: trouble getting erection: where do I get from here with plate?

[Stoic]

Hey brothers,

Embarrassing, distressing issue from last night.

1. Started taking very small dosage of Zoloft (treats premature ejaculation) ~April 2nd as I think I was cumming faster than I wanted.
2. Had sex with this one plate on 4/11. Started going a little soft midway through. ****!
3. Last night, a lot of oral sex, but could not get hard. And could not have sex because I was too soft.
4. Tried to play it cool, but was honestly feeling embarrassed and disappointed as hell.
5. Plan now is obviously to get off Zoloft as my guess is that this is the issue. I'm heading to the doctor today as well.
6. I guess where do I go from here? Do I tell her I'm going to the dr to figure it out? Not say anything about it? Honestly, it's causing me some distress now and I need to get it handled.
7. Anyone had this issue and overcome it?

I'm 37 years old and in good shape. Surprised to be running into this issue..

Thanks

 

[Georgepithyou]

Could just be performance anxiety, it happens to all of us at some point

 

[BaldandBrazy88]

Damn brother I feel for you, but I embrace and applaud your courage to ask for advice. Regarding your buddy not wanting to play here's what I recommend:
1. Lay off on the porn bro, oh yeah looking at IG thots also counts.
2. Do not fap. Related to #1 obviously, but after 15 days you will see how your buddy starts to get stronger and stronger, will have those mid night erections that even hurt, you LL be like godddam I'm ready to break a b&tch back lol
3. Start taking L-Arginine 1000mgs or Red Gingseng. Great for the blood flow (which is all about)
4. Start working out, this related to #3 . Those pills will give you a nice boost plus they're natural.
5. Now let me go full hippie on ya, haha. This one I discovered recently about a month or so ago. Do some yoga!!! Oh yeah, u heard it. Yoga! Helps with the blood flow, helps with the breathing control ( THIS is big when you are f**ckin, pay attention to how shallow your breaths are) and of course helps with your physique.
Regarding your plate, I wouldn't mind telling her anything, if she s a plate she s disposable, if you do want to have her around a bit more be proactive in a non apologetic way and flip the tortilla on her " I don't want you think it was because of you" etc etc and come up with something harsh that happened that day and had your mind somewhere else (real or fake).
Good luck brodie

 

[Lumix]

Hey man, don't worry so much. We've all had that experience one day.

For how long have you been fkcing that plate? Is she hot and has some sexual energy?
When I had premature ejaculation, I went to fck another girl, and had no more problem. Same with not getting hard. Usually it's because the girl is just meh... even if they are 8/10, if they have no sexual energy I can't get hard easily. My ex was like that. It was just mechanical and it didn't work very well.

You say you are in shape, but what's your idea of being in shape? Do you workout, with some high intensity training? Because some people think they are in shape when they are vastly overweight.

You should still check with your doc as it can come from more serious health issues, but they are quite rare.

 

[Stoic]

Thanks folks.

I actually wish the issue was not being in shape but that's not it. I'm 5'9 , 165, and work out 6 days a week. And I eat clean 90 percent of the time. I have considered giving up caffeine because I know that can cause anxiety.

Yoga would be worth a try I think. Not my favorite workout, but if it fixes the challenge then I'm all for it.

As far as porn...I dont think so, but I think worth giving it up. I probably have looked at porn and jerked off once every 2 weeks on average.

Just talking out loud. I had a long dry spell of no sex for 6 months following a divorce. Then, very recently I had sex with three different girls in a period of only four days..wondering if my body is just in a little shock?!

I'll send an update after I visit the doctor today. Hopefully helps some poor bastard like me down the road...

 

[Stoic]

Maybe I'm being generous calling her a plate. 4 dates. Sex on date 3. I couldn't perform on date 4 (last night)

 

[R.U.G.]

Hey brothers,

Embarrassing, distressing issue from last night.

1. Started taking very small dosage of Zoloft (treats premature ejaculation) ~April 2nd as I think I was cumming faster than I wanted.
2. Had sex with this one plate on 4/11. Started going a little soft midway through. ****!
3. Last night, a lot of oral sex, but could not get hard. And could not have sex because I was too soft.
4. Tried to play it cool, but was honestly feeling embarrassed and disappointed as hell.
5. Plan now is obviously to get off Zoloft as my guess is that this is the issue. I'm heading to the doctor today as well.
6. I guess where do I go from here? Do I tell her I'm going to the dr to figure it out? Not say anything about it? Honestly, it's causing me some distress now and I need to get it handled.
7. Anyone had this issue and overcome it?

I'm 37 years old and in good shape. Surprised to be running into this issue..

Thanks

Are you attracted to her? When was the last time you jerked off? Are you overly stressed out about life? Many things can cause this.

 

[Stoic]

And I dont know maybe it is just her. I am having sex with 2 other girls. Admittedly this is new for me. Always just had sex with one other girl at a time...

 

[Stoic]

Yes, attracted to her. Last time jerked off was 11 days ago...but had sex 3 times in last ten days with 2 other women...

 

[Stoic]

Not overly stressed I dont think. Do have some anxiety with sex because I had a long 6 month dry spell after divorce.

 

[BaldandBrazy88]

Thanks folks.

I actually wish the issue was not being in shape but that's not it. I'm 5'9 , 165, and work out 6 days a week. And I eat clean 90 percent of the time. I have considered giving up caffeine because I know that can cause anxiety.

Yoga would be worth a try I think. Not my favorite workout, but if it fixes the challenge then I'm all for it.

As far as porn...I dont think so, but I think worth giving it up. I probably have looked at porn and jerked off once every 2 weeks on average.

Just talking out loud. I had a long dry spell of no sex for 6 months following a divorce. Then, very recently I had sex with three different girls in a period of only four days..wondering if my body is just in a little shock?!

I'll send an update after I visit the doctor today. Hopefully helps some poor bastard like me down the road...

Yup you are in shape
Yes, give it a try. Do some yoga BEFORE your workout never , instead of. Im telling you I never really gave it a chance oh man .. does it help.. and oh Lord, there are some girls into it that will leave you speachless.
Now, haha you are going beast mode my man! 3 girls in four days, oh yeah, no wonder why you couldn't perform. I'll say it was a one time thing but my points are still valid to get better at the love making.
Good luck with the Dr. Keep us updated

 

[R.U.G.]

Yes, attracted to her. Last time jerked off was 11 days ago...but had sex 3 times in last ten days with 2 other women...

Are you using protection or raw dogging the bytch?

 

[Stoic]

Got back from the doctor.

Said I could cut zoloft tablets in half, or stop using entirely. Suspects zoloft is the issue.

Also gave me viagara prescription, haha, to be safe.

It sucks. More than likely this will have killed whatever I had going with the chick...

Oh well, those are the breaks...

 

[Stoic]

@R.U.G. using protection..

 

[R.U.G.]

@R.U.G. using protection..

Use a thinner condom. Okamoto 0.04 are really good. Add some lube inside the condom too.

 

[Kotaix]

I've had this problem before, usually it's because my mind isn't in the moment. There is something that is going thru my mind that is causing me to lose focus.

It could be the TV show we're watching where I'm actually paying attention to it.​

It could be me thinking about some pornographic thing I've watched and me lamenting I'm not doing that right now.​

It could be I don't feel like it right now and she's trying to force it.​

It could be anxiety​

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First off, stop beating yourself up over it. The more you focus on it, the worse you will feel. Find a way to occupy your mind on something else while you take action. Don't NOT think about it, but don't allow your mind to go into a downward spiral by obsessing over it.

Second, stop beating yourself off. Take this out of the equation and see what happens.

Third, when you're in the moment with the woman, don't think about anything. Just enjoy yourself and let yourself experience a good time with her. If you have expectations going into it, you're already shooting yourself in the foot.

 

[metalwater]

Hey brothers,

Embarrassing, distressing issue from last night.

1. Started taking very small dosage of Zoloft (treats premature ejaculation) ~April 2nd as I think I was cumming faster than I wanted.
2. Had sex with this one plate on 4/11. Started going a little soft midway through. ****!
3. Last night, a lot of oral sex, but could not get hard. And could not have sex because I was too soft.
4. Tried to play it cool, but was honestly feeling embarrassed and disappointed as hell.
5. Plan now is obviously to get off Zoloft as my guess is that this is the issue. I'm heading to the doctor today as well.
6. I guess where do I go from here? Do I tell her I'm going to the dr to figure it out? Not say anything about it? Honestly, it's causing me some distress now and I need to get it handled.
7. Anyone had this issue and overcome it?

I'm 37 years old and in good shape. Surprised to be running into this issue..

Thanks

common issues, not fun for us guys. if you can solve it with diet and excersics that is best.. there is stuff that goes on inside the body that doesn't seem to match with the outside. meaning, your in great shape but your inside functions are getting older. some of it is genetics and the guys that are blessed don't get it usually. anyway, short answer can be Tadalafil. It will help with a few things for guys, one of the things is ED, but also will help with premeture in many guys. If you can solve it a more natural way but if not this can be the quick fix and easy to try.

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[mrgoodstuff]

common issues, not fun for us guys. if you can solve it with diet and excersics that is best.. there is stuff that goes on inside the body that doesn't seem to match with the outside. meaning, your in great shape but your inside functions are getting older. some of it is genetics and the guys that are blessed don't get it usually. anyway, short answer can be Tadalafil. It will help with a few things for guys, one of the things is ED, but also will help with premeture in many guys. If you can solve it a more natural way but if not this can be the quick fix and easy to try.

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With the c0ck use it or lose it. Stress is very bad for it.

 

[metalwater]

With the c0ck use it or lose it. Stress is very bad for it.

Completely agree. It is difficult to get the stress out on demand, easy to take a pill. I don't recomend the pill if it is not really needed but if it is, much better than not having it. Early ejac can mess with a man almost as much as ed and the girls won't like it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Completely agree. It is difficult to get the stress out on demand, easy to take a pill. I don't recomend the pill if it is not really needed but if it is, much better than not having it. Early ejac can mess with a man almost as much as ed and the girls won't like it.

The pill should and can be used for short term and use minimum dose required. IMHO the best situation for a man is a man who has incredible social pull has many women who desire him that way, where he can easily keep his masculinity taken care of several days a week. Or a wife or live in gf who see's him in a good light who is very interested in sex with him, so not many days pass in a week where they aren't having sex. The erection issues are a sign of psychology issues or some physical issues. IMHO the psychology issues are underrated. Give most men a sexually exciting babe who can't get enough of him and most mens erection problems will go away.