At what age a guy is no longer youngish?

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Of course we agree that we all age differently, some have crappy hairlines by mid 20s while others keep it fine till their 60s yet just like the wall for women I believe there is a turning point or better et a phase at which someone is no longer youngish.

Looking at myself and those around me I would say there is no proper wall but a gradual switching phase from the late 20s to the early 30s.

Checking the pictures with my friends (same age) I would say that at the sage of 30, a good 50% didnt look fresh and young anymore.
I dont mean they got fat, ugly and bald but the fact that they wouldnt fit anymore in a club wearing sneakers with a youngish haircut.

Personally I felt it coming in my early 30s and by 35 the youngish aura was basically gone, while body was fine there was something that said "this is an adult man" no longer a young guy.

More like when you meet a girl when she is 25 and when you see her again few years later she no longer looks a young girl.

An other important factor is attitude, young guys are kinda dreamer and naive while adults are more pragmatic and take cold decisions.

Something I noticed is that I no longer feel jealousy or expect miracles, I know that good things required to be worked for and sometime even forced.
 

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This isn't what you're asking, I know. But I noticed a change about the time I turned 53. Younger girls will often find older men attractive, in an "older adult male" way. I thought that persisted up until, as I said, about age 53. At that point, I noticed I seemed to become invisible to a certain segment of younger women. Up until then, I was fine. Now, maybe this was all in my head, maybe it wasn't. And I'm sure it varies for different guys depending on genetics, how well you take care of yourself, etc.

You're asking at what point a guy starts to look out of place in a club. I don't really pretend to remember that far back, but as you said, I would imagine by they time you're 35, it's going to look a little odd.
 

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I think this is going to be fairly subjective and relative to individual men.

I turned 30 last month and I personally feel like I'm 25, most people guess I'm around 25-28. I've been active my entire adult life, ate very well, no smoking or drugs and very minimal alcohol consumption.

People like me are the exception and not the norm, and when I meet those that are my age I usually think they are quite a bit older than myself. Most guys around the time they hit 30 are generally out of shape and look aged due to years of partying, poor diet, etc. From my observations, I think that most can get away with this through college but once they start getting into their mid 20s you definitely start to notice it.
 
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Of course we agree that we all age differently, some have crappy hairlines by mid 20s while others keep it fine till their 60s yet just like the wall for women I believe there is a turning point or better et a phase at which someone is no longer youngish.

Looking at myself and those around me I would say there is no proper wall but a gradual switching phase from the late 20s to the early 30s.

Checking the pictures with my friends (same age) I would say that at the sage of 30, a good 50% didnt look fresh and young anymore.
I dont mean they got fat, ugly and bald but the fact that they wouldnt fit anymore in a club wearing sneakers with a youngish haircut.

Personally I felt it coming in my early 30s and by 35 the youngish aura was basically gone, while body was fine there was something that said "this is an adult man" no longer a young guy.

More like when you meet a girl when she is 25 and when you see her again few years later she no longer looks a young girl.

An other important factor is attitude, young guys are kinda dreamer and naive while adults are more pragmatic and take cold decisions.

Something I noticed is that I no longer feel jealousy or expect miracles, I know that good things required to be worked for and sometime even forced.

In a club, when I was in my mid twenties, I noticed most people were in their early to mid twenties. There was ONE couple that were maybe 35-45 years old. They really stood out.

One of my ex's from my twenties is 38 now and she is visibly older. Still a solid 9, but you can see the crows feet and sun aged skin. Still slim and the eyes and hair are the same, but the skin on her face.

As far as guys, well...I look at pics of me when I was 16 and I looked very clean cut, young skin, bright eyed and bushy tailed, then at 24 I looked noticeably younger than I do now in pictures, I didn't look like a kid anymore but I wasn't looking like a middle aged man. Oddly enough even when I was 18 people thought I was in my mid thirties, but I don't see it in pics. Fast forward to now, my skin is aged in my late thirties. My hair started thinning in my late twenties, but I shave my head anyways generally. My skin is noticeably more wrinkled on my forehead. I'm not as cut muscle wise as I used to be in some ways but am in other ways. I still have a fair six pack but it's not like when I was in my twenties. I still date women who are generally 10 years younger than me or my own age, pretty evenly split, with a few 19-21 year old women sprinkled in there, especially in the last year.

Most women tend to like older guys but not TOO old, and although men get better in age in wealth and experience, the point does come IMO where your looks have faded enough that it becomes creepy for women 20+ years younger than you to date you in MOST cases. I am curious to see what dating is like for my in my mid to late 40's and 50's. By my 60's I have no high hopes....and I'm not really the marrying type, to top that off I believe relationships are temporary, so I don't really believe that you can find someone and "not die alone" like some people believe they can when they get old.

Like you said I think it depends on how you age and how you take care of yourself. But in general I'd say for most guys after 35 you start looking noticeably older.

For most men, I believe the dating prime is 30-40 ish, despite aging physically. You have gained experience and confidence from that experience. Your career has grown and so have your assets. You also have a better idea of what you want and don't want so you are more selective.

Unlike women who lose value after 30 due to declining looks, I think overall men's value goes up.
 

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You'll get a lot of BS answers because guys will find it to be a blow to their ego and a whole lot of answers saying "don't worry bruh girls like older men". If you want the real answer OP, it is also at some point in their mid 20s at latest for men. You would have to look at male models and when they peak in their careers or even start their careers, it is usually in their teens.

For most men, I think 25 is typically the peak for youthful looks.
 

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On OLD my main pic is from last August. I've got 31, 35, 36, etc across different platform. Especially, since this Corona virus I'm getting interest, even from 18 yr olds. Whether those accounts are fake, who knows? I've aged a ton this past year though in my opinion. I feel fine if not great, but I know I look older now in person sorta.
 

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Im 25 but I've always been told I look younger. I've got a full head of hair so that helps a lot. I also make sure I stay lean.

Some of the guys I grew up with have aged terribly. Balding, gained weight, wrinkles etc. But a lot of that is genetic unfortunately.

I definitely look better overall right now compared to when I was 18. Putting on more muscle, developing my confidence, and finding my style has worked wonders. I'd say I haven't even reached my peak in looks if I'm honest.

Whether you are too old to go to a club depends largely on what type of club it is. If it is a college/university club night then you will look old being there at 23. But if it is a normal club night 30 is generally when people start to see you as too old. If its a club night in Ibiza then the limit is even higher.
 

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Of course we agree that we all age differently, some have crappy hairlines by mid 20s while others keep it fine till their 60s yet just like the wall for women I believe there is a turning point or better et a phase at which someone is no longer youngish.

Looking at myself and those around me I would say there is no proper wall but a gradual switching phase from the late 20s to the early 30s.

Checking the pictures with my friends (same age) I would say that at the sage of 30, a good 50% didnt look fresh and young anymore.
I dont mean they got fat, ugly and bald but the fact that they wouldnt fit anymore in a club wearing sneakers with a youngish haircut.

Personally I felt it coming in my early 30s and by 35 the youngish aura was basically gone, while body was fine there was something that said "this is an adult man" no longer a young guy.

More like when you meet a girl when she is 25 and when you see her again few years later she no longer looks a young girl.

An other important factor is attitude, young guys are kinda dreamer and naive while adults are more pragmatic and take cold decisions.

Something I noticed is that I no longer feel jealousy or expect miracles, I know that good things required to be worked for and sometime even forced.
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17-22 peak age for men
Male skeletons don't stop growing until 30, however.
23 and on, no longer youngish.
 

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How will it be possible for non-apex men, who have spent their teens and 20s in consistent dry spells - especially compared to women - to settle in relationships with women who are used to constant male attention and have fvcked multiple dozens of men continuously as they please since they were 14? When those women feel like settling down and there aren't enough of Chad to do it with, how will the man and woman be able to relate to the other even if they wanted to, when their experience of life is completely different?
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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How will it be possible for non-apex men, who have spent their teens and 20s in consistent dry spells - especially compared to women - to settle in relationships with women who are used to constant male attention and have fvcked multiple dozens of men continuously as they please since they were 14? When those women feel like settling down and there aren't enough of Chad to do it with, how will the man and woman be able to relate to the other even if they wanted to, when their experience of life is completely different?
I dont believe such things are possible for many reasons.

The most common outcome when attempted is a p1ssed off woman making her husbands life a sexless living hell right before a divorce.

As i suggested guys here many time, the only possible way to have a decent chance is to settle while young with a young girl and bond through shared experiences in the counting years.

When women fvck around and men take them old and damaged, its virtually impossible to bond even if such man is a former chad, let alone an everyday normal guy.

Settle in your late 20s with a girl in her early to mid 20s or try your luck playing the russian roulette with an semiauto pistol.
 
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