This is such a debatable topic, but the subject of orbiters comes up quite frequently. Orbiters will never going away as long as a woman has value. In the dating world, we will always have to deal with them either in vast quantities, or one at a time.
Male orbiters are a double-edged sword. It is against our nature to allow the woman to keep male orbiters. Men are naturally protective of their investments, and a woman certainly qualifies as one. A lot of guys will view male orbiters as a "threat" or as a woman's backburner prospects. We have two options when it comes to orbiters:
1) Make the girl get rid of the orbiter(s).
This immediately satisfies our need to protect our investment. There's three problems with this scenario. First, it's unacceptable socially. If she's forced to get rid of the orbiter, then it becomes an issue of "trust", "control" and "the sex of the friend should be irrelevant in the name of true equality!" She will get feeback like this from her friends and family.
The second problem with doing this is we appear insecure and less confident. Secure, confident men are attractive, and we can effectively give our power to the orbiter if he KNOWS he's pissing us off.
The third problem with eliminating the orbiter is his value will go up. In the sense of female attraction, male friends are low value and women will not fvck their friends. Once you eliminate the orbiter as a friend, he becomes a potential prospect. Women naturally want what they can't have. When she comes into contact with this male friend a year later, he is now a prospect. But he's not just any prospect, he's got value. Her emotions will quickly jump to the positive end of the scale when she quickly reconnects with him. Women react to and analyze their emotional transitions. Suddenly, she's thinking about him a lot. When a woman's constantly thinking about a man, she becomes attracted. He has now become higher value than YOU.
2) Befriend the orbiter(s)
There's two potential outcomes here. First, you can end up with a really good friend. There's no problem here because she's fvcking YOU and you have gained respect from this guy, both as a friend and as a couple.
The second outcome is the orbiter becomes jealous. He begins acting insecure and attempts to protect his investment in her, even though he's not fvcking her. Insecurity is unattractive and annoying to the woman, and this will cause her to eventually dismiss the orbiter as a friend. This in turn raises our value and assures her she's with the correct man. When she runs into him a year later, he will ask "So, are you still with HIM?" The jealousy never goes away, and she will be reminded of how insecure he was. His value will remain low and she will not wish to pursue him as a prospect.
