What happen?? **Update***

[Bamaboi]

What happen?

This chick i've been knowing since last year, Its always a pattern. For some reason when I go months or weeks without texting her she responds and when she does I'll always try and get her to link up and she'll flake or never responds. I'll just say to myself f*ck it and go about my business ...

www.sosuave.net

Ok tuesday for the ones that remember the post, I pulled up to her house ( she hasn't saw me since last march 2019, we've only hung about 4 times between Jan 2019 and March 2019, haven't saw each other since) and she was giving me a horrible look and negative vibes and was giving me vibes as if I'm a stranger ( for the ones who don't remember please click link and read it before giving your input)

Ok, After that day I didn't contact her for a couple of days. Thursday I think, she was going "Live" (Live braodcast). I decided to go in and say something and see what her reactions was going to be. She was talking about a party she was having..I told her I was coming and take All the chicks and she said " Boy you not - (then says) You can come"...I then say " You my ch**ck too" , she read the comment and she says "boy something ????" And went to blushing and smiling hard as **** as if she couldn't control it. She turned away toward her child as if she was embarrassed that she was blushing. Then her live ended it.

So Saturday I texted her and told her we were going out of town to Htown , told her I wanted to her to take her to this club and everything that were going to do , she texts back an hour later and says " Okay cool but I need a date because I work and I'm going to Htown Monday" ( she posted it on Facebook trying to find someone to go with her)....that through me off ...so I finally texted her back today and told her she needs to fall in line and come pick me up and we go and told her again what we're going to do.
I haven't got a response from her yet....but I see she has been on social media and I texted her from a couple fake numbers posing as people with the wrong number and she has been responding to those, smh.

I'm confused ...1) why did you blush in an uncontrollable way when I made the comment about you being my chick but days before you gave me negative vibes and looked at me as if I was a stranger and with slot of contempt. The vibes were REAL i could feel them because I was feeling unconfident when i left her house.

2) why are you being more specific now when I made a plan ?? I didn't even know she worked..now she brings this up..but before you didn't say any of this ( as if I'm a stranger wtf?? )

3) why did you make plans to go to htown without me but when I text you and tell you that's where we are going this week you agree to it ( to do the same thing she going to do Monday) ? And tell me to let her know a date because she works and that shes going to htown Monday ( again, to do the same thing I said we are doing this week)? Wtf???

What is up with her??

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

What happen?

This chick i've been knowing since last year, Its always a pattern. For some reason when I go months or weeks without texting her she responds and when she does I'll always try and get her to link up and she'll flake or never responds. I'll just say to myself f*ck it and go about my business ...

www.sosuave.net

Ok tuesday for the ones that remember the post, I pulled up to her house ( she hasn't saw me since last march 2019, we've only hung about 4 times between Jan 2019 and March 2019, haven't saw each other since) and she was giving me a horrible look and negative vibes and was giving me vibes as if I'm a stranger ( for the ones who don't remember please click link and read it before giving your input)

Ok, After that day I didn't contact her for a couple of days. Thursday I think, she was going "Live" (Live braodcast). I decided to go in and say something and see what her reactions was going to be. She was talking about a party she was having..I told her I was coming and take All the chicks and she said " Boy you not - (then says) You can come"...I then say " You my ch**ck too" , she read the comment and she says "boy something ????" And went to blushing and smiling hard as **** as if she couldn't control it. She turned away toward her child as if she was embarrassed that she was blushing. Then her live ended it.

So Saturday I texted her and told her we were going out of town to Htown , told her I wanted to her to take her to this club and everything that were going to do , she texts back an hour later and says " Okay cool but I need a date because I work and I'm going to Htown Monday" ( she posted it on Facebook trying to find someone to go with her)....that through me off ...so I finally texted her back today and told her she needs to fall in line and come pick me up and we go and told her again what we're going to do.
I haven't got a response from her yet....but I see she has been on social media and I texted her from a couple fake numbers posing as people with the wrong number and she has been responding to those, smh.

I'm confused ...1) why did you blush in an uncontrollable way when I made the comment about you being my chick but days before you gave me negative vibes and looked at me as if I was a stranger and with slot of contempt. The vibes were REAL i could feel them because I was feeling unconfident when i left her house.

2) why are you being more specific now when I made a plan ?? I didn't even know she worked..now she brings this up..but before you didn't say any of this ( as if I'm a stranger wtf?? )

3) why did you make plans to go to htown without me but when I text you and tell you that's where we are going this week you agree to it ( to do the same thing she going to do Monday) ? And tell me to let her know a date because she works and that shes going to htown Monday ( again, to do the same thing I said we are doing this week)? Wtf???

What is up with her??

Nothing, you’re just being a creepy stalker dude.

Expand your understanding by interacting with more women instead of investing so much in one.

 

[Bamaboi]

You still talking about the same situation? Lol

She doesnt like you for the same reason I dont, your a fvcking weirdo.

Why the **** is she entertaining me???? Why did she tell me to let her know a date because she works?? Why did she tell me she is going to htown if she knows I don't know it??? ( Which she doesn't know I do)...come on man....smh ....don't just point out the negatives man.....

 

[Bamaboi]

Your a Weirdo....

Nobody will ever like you because of your desperation, you still chasing after the same girl that you made a thread about months ago, lmaoooo

Look bro, I respect your honesty but THINK man...if I'm so desperate why did she blush??? Why is she still talking to me??? Why is she telling me she works and where she is going??? You have to THINK

 

[Black Widow Void]

For the 3rd time, Your a weirdo.
Nobody likes you

OP, look on the bright side. Your life could resemble that of "Prettyboy Dee". When guy's (not men) feel powerless in their real world, they claw and scratch (on the internet of all places) for feelings of empowerment; as demonstrated by his (or her) continual postings. That's true desperation and you can be thankful that you aren't in his (or her) shoes.

To answer your question, women will give off all sorts of mixed signals. A lot of members on this site consider this behavior as manipulative or using a person. In some cases, it's true. However, in just as many cases, their behavior isn't conscious or intentional. That's not to say that you should accept this. Actually, you shouldn't.

If there's not been a lot of depth (to 'cement' some foundation of interest) then they are more apt to act on a whim. In other words, one minute they may seem interested and the next minute the opposite.

We can't control women's behavior like the above, but we *can* control how much investment we give women of this behavior.

 

[Prettyboy Dee]

OP, look on the bright side. Your life could resemble that of "Prettyboy Dee". When guy's (not men) feel powerless in their real world, they claw and scratch (on the internet of all places) for feelings of empowerment; as demonstrated by his above and continue postings. That's true desperation and you can be thankful that you aren't in his shoes.

To answer your question, women will give off all sorts of mixed signals. A lot of members on this site consider this behavior as manipulative or using a person. In some cases, it's true. However, in just as many cases, their behavior isn't conscious or intentional. That's not to say that you should accept this. Actually, you shouldn't.

If there's not been a lot of depth (to 'cement' some foundation of interest) then they are more apt to act on a whim. In other words, one minute they may seem interested and the next minute the opposite.

We can't control women's behavior like the above, but we *can* control how much investment we give women of this behavior.

Stop d!ckriding, you think your some super hero coming to his rescue lol if you had any common sense you would know he is a troll who has made 17 other threads about this same girl, your just making yourself look foolish.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Stop d!ckriding, you think your some super hero coming to his rescue lol if you had any common sense you would know he is a troll who has made 17 other threads about this same girl, your just making yourself look foolish.

17 other threads?
To be so aware of the OP's posting behavior.... you must be quite invested in this dude.
... and here you are asserting that the OP is obsessive and a "weirdo."

Irony... at its best.

 

[Bamaboi]

OP, look on the bright side. Your life could resemble that of "Prettyboy Dee". When guy's (not men) feel powerless in their real world, they claw and scratch (on the internet of all places) for feelings of empowerment; as demonstrated by his (or her) continual postings. That's true desperation and you can be thankful that you aren't in his (or her) shoes.

To answer your question, women will give off all sorts of mixed signals. A lot of members on this site consider this behavior as manipulative or using a person. In some cases, it's true. However, in just as many cases, their behavior isn't conscious or intentional. That's not to say that you should accept this. Actually, you shouldn't.

If there's not been a lot of depth (to 'cement' some foundation of interest) then they are more apt to act on a whim. In other words, one minute they may seem interested and the next minute the opposite.

We can't control women's behavior like the above, but we *can* control how much investment we give women of this behavior.

Yes I feel you...that's whats been confusing me...smh...sometimes my mind says " she wants you to try harder" just because of the little signs of interest...then my mind says " forget this b**tch and move on" ...why won't she just stop responding to me all together?? This chick has plenty of dudes she can attention from...she one of those type of chicks who gets 100+ likes on a photo on Facebook, she has options...but why she just won't stop responding to me?? Alot of people don't have her number either..so it's not too many people that texts her actual number...if she is not interested she needs to just stop responding all together. TRUST me..I have chicks numbers in my phone I know who are not interested at all and they never respond at all. Especially months down the line. I don't get it

 

[Bamaboi]

17 other threads?
To be so aware of his posting behavior.... you must be quite invested in this dude.
... and here you are asserting that the OP is obsessive and a "weirdo."

Irony... at its best.

Thanks man!! I'm not a weirdo or a troll !! Just confused man..

 

[Black Widow Void]

I think that men and women are both self-consumed. I could be bias, but I think women are far worse offenders.

Think of it like.. someone at a casino. They are around bells and whistles and they are enjoying the "high." Social media "dings" and "thumbs up" comments etc.. are the same kind of high for a lot of women. Their behavior is not only regulated to the internet, but also they seek this "high" in real life as well.

When they are at the 'junkie' stage (never satisfied with the "high" of one man) we become their 'enabler.' If we willingly settle for 'crumbs' of their encouragement, then we are encouraging their behavior and actually, we are not much better off than them.
I'm not speaking like a know-it-all. I'm speaking from someone that has settled for those 'crumbs'. More people have done this than will openly admit on this forum.

This isn't the advice you'll want to hear, but it's better to eject.

 

[Bamaboi]

I think that men and women are both self-consumed. I could be bias, but I think women are far worse offenders.

Think of it like.. someone at a casino. They are around bells and whistles and they are enjoying the "high." Social media "dings" and "thumbs up" comments etc.. are the same kind of high for a lot of women. Their behavior is not only regulated to the internet, but also they seek this "high" in real life as well.

When they are at the 'junkie' stage (never satisfied with the "high" of one man) we become their 'enabler.' If we willingly settle for 'crumbs' of their encouragement, then we are encouraging their behavior and actually, we are not much better off than them.
I'm not speaking like a know-it-all. I'm speaking from someone that has settled for those 'crumbs'. More people have done this than will openly admit on this forum.

This isn't the advice you'll want to hear, but it's better to eject.

Damn that's deep and I fully understand what your saying. So what do you think I should do from here? What would you do as far as concerning this chick and her behavior?

 

[Black Widow Void]

Damn that's deep and I fully understand what your saying. So what do you think I should do from here? What would you do as far as concerning this chick and her behavior?

Eject.
Don't call her out on this ... because she's probably not (no offense) deep or introspective enough to even realize her behavior.
And... even if she is, her 'dependency' on this attention will override any logical explanation on your end.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are a desperate loser and she is playing with you because it is fun.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

I haven't got a response from her yet....but I see she has been on social media and I texted her from a couple fake numbers posing as people with the wrong number and she has been responding to those, smh.

This killed me. Just go pursue other things man, if she wanted you she wouldn't do all these things. You're being ultra needy.

 

[Bamaboi]

This killed me. Just go pursue other things man, if she wanted you she wouldn't do all these things. You're being ultra needy.

I feel you..I think that's why she always go cold on me