I wish you guys could see myself and my fiance together. I'm not bad looking, I suppose, maybe average to a bit above, but she is a stunner. Even you young guys would say my God, she looks like she's in her thirties. I'm not exaggerating when I say a "stunner". She lights up any room she walks into with an indescribable smile and just an aura that attracts people.
So why is she with me? I'm not a male version of a "stunner" by any means. I'm no buffed chad, although I'm in very good shape for my age.
It's because I'm acceptable looking and I make her FEEL excited and happy. I've taken care of the basics, and that has been enough to allow my personality to reel her in. We also share the same faith which is critically important for us.
It isn't my looks, guys. I pass the grade on that (in her eyes) because I present myself well. She actually believes I'm super-handsome, and on one hand I chuckle to myself about that, but on the other hand, "handsome" to a woman includes body language and facial expressions and again, how you make them feel in your presence.
I would absolutely love to show you guys a picture of us, but I can't for privacy reasons. You'll have to take my word for it. Forget about chasing some kind of super-perfected physical image of yourself. Just be in fairly good shape, wear neat clothing, and clean shoes, and you absolutely have the physical taken care of. The rest is about making her FEEL. When you bring fun, humor, and AUTHORITY to her, she will not be able to resist. Who is the "she" I refer to? A 5 or 6? No, a 9+.
One of the biggest misconceptions is that to find a decent women you need to be ripped and a perfect physical specimen. In actual fact, women will give most men a pass who follow what I said above regarding their appearance. By and large, women are FAR less concerned about looks than we are. Men simply refuse to believe this because they can't conceive that their perception about looks is different from ours.
Look as nice as you can. Bring your masculine energy to your interactions. Bring fun, lightness, and humor. Tease them. Be superior to them. Judge them for their behavior and words. They desperately want a man they can look up to, and very few women can look up to a man who is insecure about his build and appearance, because they can sniff out that insecurity a mile away.
Clean clothes with a slight sense of style? Reasonably in shape? Clean shoes? Unless you're the Phantom of the Opera in facial features, you have already checked off all her requirements and you're free to charm her with personality. Yes, the 9+ is whom I'm talking about.
Women are attracted to POWER. A powerful man pays some attention to his appearance (but not too much) and makes sure the direction of energy flow is from him to her. He is not reactive to her, but rather is a force whom she reacts to. She wants to be tested and challenged. She's DYING to be tested and challenged. But just about every guy she meets is awed by her looks and afraid of her rejection. Hence, "If only I can get a perfect physique, then they will want me."
In fact, most women are VERY forgiving of looks as long as the basics are met. Once you project yourself as a man who shows self-respect in the way he presents himself, you're free to project dominance and start to TEST her. Flip the script on her and she will fall madly in love. Never forget that women want a man whom they perceive to be higher than they, a man they can look up to and adore. That can't happen when you're slinking around wondering how you look.
This may be a bit of a rambling post; I'm too tired to proofread. But the tldr is: Just be reasonably fit and wear clean clothes and shoes. In so doing you will find that ultra-attractive women will see and perceive you as someone to seriously consider. The looks hurdle is behind you, and it's all about your personality at that point.
