Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)

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So... waiting for a flight and decided to check SS on my phone without logging in...

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So... waiting for a flight and decided to check SS on my phone without logging in...

All pics, thread text and forums are public
Yes, I checked that too. One more reason to be authentic here.
Or one more reason to be extra careful here.

Depends on your comfort level and your interest in this forum as a learning tool and sanity support system.
 

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All you guys talking about being buff BUT lately I notice a lot of husky and fat guys with hot women IF they have beards! A lot of overweight guys I notice are still getting decent women if they're growing a beard.

I don't mean morbidly obese but overweight and built like Kevin James for example. Clearly have a weight issue but if they have a beard they still get women. My meat manager at work is like that. Overweight like Kevin James and husky and has a beard and his girl is pretty cute. Has to due with that beard because he's pretty heavy.
 

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I don't mean morbidly obese but overweight and built like Kevin James for example. Clearly have a weight issue but if they have a beard they still get women.
The beard probably mitigates the weight issue somewhat because it obscures the jawline.

When I was a young skinny guy, I noticed a lot of husky guys with women, even if they were a little overweight. Girls like guys with some size on them I guess, maybe they feel safer around them.
 

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The beard probably mitigates the weight issue somewhat because it obscures the jawline.

When I was a young skinny guy, I noticed a lot of husky guys with women, even if they were a little overweight. Girls like guys with some size on them I guess, maybe they feel safer around them.
True, but then you come on sites like here and everyone says you must be buff and Chad but then contrary I see fat guys with chicks.

I have a married Chad in his mid 50s at work. Bone wise and height technically slightly shorter than a Chad, but he's a Chad basically. When he was a teen and early 20s he was skinnier than me he said. When he was in clubs or bars chicks would constantly reject him. They told him he was too thin and frail even after he bought fancy clothes. He started going to the gym and bulked up and many of the same women started paying attention to him. He still looks young for his age but is very built and has muscle. I mean face he's average guy but body overall and that is what turns on the women to him even now in their 40s they approach him at the grocery store trying to hit on him. HE also doesn't workout 7 days a week, but at the grocery store 5 days a week he's a workhorse doing lifting all day and stocking shelves so I guess that helps with the muscle too.

Even on OLD I've had HBs tell me I need to put meat on me including on the dates before. Well, last summer I was down to 117 lbs at one point when I was sweating a lot and not eating as much because when it's hot I don't like to eat. I was at 115lbs one time.
 

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All you guys talking about being buff BUT lately I notice a lot of husky and fat guys with hot women IF they have beards! A lot of overweight guys I notice are still getting decent women if they're growing a beard.

I don't mean morbidly obese but overweight and built like Kevin James for example. Clearly have a weight issue but if they have a beard they still get women. My meat manager at work is like that. Overweight like Kevin James and husky and has a beard and his girl is pretty cute. Has to due with that beard because he's pretty heavy.
Anecdotally, I've never known a fat dude that struggled with women. They either have a gf or have chicks coming onto them.
 

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All you guys talking about being buff BUT lately I notice a lot of husky and fat guys with hot women IF they have beards! A lot of overweight guys I notice are still getting decent women if they're growing a beard.

I don't mean morbidly obese but overweight and built like Kevin James for example. Clearly have a weight issue but if they have a beard they still get women. My meat manager at work is like that. Overweight like Kevin James and husky and has a beard and his girl is pretty cute. Has to due with that beard because he's pretty heavy.
fat > skinny .. yes a decent looking well groomed fat guy will get more girls than you with your bony frame, if that’s what you’re asking
 

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I disagree with this. I was 115 lbs in high school and Got 100x more girls than anyone who was overweight. In high school and college, it’s all about chiseled appearance with cheekbones and jawline that could cut glass. Because testosterone has that effect on young guys.

go for testosterone effects and you will never fail with women.

All that groooming stuff means nothing to pure hormones.

Now granted, I understand there might be skinny guys with low test.

But in my experience, my attraction is directly correlated to how chiseled I am.
So I’m going to explain this through a quote from a 6th grade girl in Baltimore when teasing a fat kid ..I remember this like yesterday.

“There’s two different types of fat there’s solid strong fat like my dad, then there is sloppy jiggly fat. You sir are sloppy fat. “

When I say fat I mean like Kevin James, or Chris Stapleton those are two handsome big guys.They are rare but they both carry their fat well.
 

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I disagree with this. I was 115 lbs in high school and Got 100x more girls than anyone who was overweight. In high school and college, it’s all about chiseled appearance with cheekbones and jawline that could cut glass. Because testosterone has that effect on young guys.

go for testosterone effects and you will never fail with women.

All that groooming stuff means nothing to pure hormones.

Now granted, I understand there might be skinny guys with low test.

But in my experience, my attraction is directly correlated to how chiseled I am.
I find this to be the case with me too. I didn’t have a good far back in high school bc of acne, but the top chicks always liked me even tho the ones below them didn’t. It’s like they understood that I just ‘get’ it. The other chicks were too insecure lol

But it really is about the masculine energy and strength/power, etc. As of today, I go out in sweats and a hoodie often just because I don’t care to put in effort every single day, and I still feel that I look better than most guys. Maybe it’s just my perception. But honestly I think all that work that I was putting in when I was younger is starting to pay off now...
For example, I used to give advice to women in a private dating forum. Guess who was the demographic of women that liked fat black guys?

Skinny Asian women. It’s the contrast that creates sexual tension. Other women were like “really, fat black guys?” To skinny Asian women it was their number 1 fantasy.
This is true only for Koreans, they’re the only demographic that will screw black guys. Other Asians are a lot more racist lol
 
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So I’m going to explain this through a quote from a 6th grade girl in Baltimore when teasing a fat kid ..I remember this like yesterday.

“There’s two different types of fat there’s solid strong fat like my dad, then there is sloppy jiggly fat. You sir are sloppy fat. “

When I say fat I mean like Kevin James, or Chris Stapleton those are two handsome big guys.They are rare but they both carry their fat well.
And to boot Kevin James is not a tall guy and has a baby face. I was pretty chubby too when I was around 13. Actually like Kevin James. Similar chubby face and stomach except I still had fairly skinny arms at least.
 

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Skinny women do like fat guys. It’s the contrast and the size that makes women feel feminine. Look no further than amateur porn of people uploading their sh1t to see hot women fvcking “big” guys.

I would say younger women are more brainwashed and go for the Justin Bieber cut jawline and braggadocious hair look, and older women are not as manipulated.

in my personal experience, any chick from 14-18 go for pretty boys first. Then after 18 they go for the “anomalies” you see In amateur porn.

For example, I used to give advice to women in a private dating forum. Guess who was the demographic of women that liked fat black guys?

Skinny Asian women. It’s the contrast that creates sexual tension. Other women were like “really, fat black guys?” To skinny Asian women it was their number 1 fantasy.
Being skinny, everyone on here tells me to put on weight. BUT why is it cougars take more interest in me? I get decent reply rates and dates from them and most of them are fairly hot looking too. Ages 38 to 50. Why would they take me over a fat older guy with a beard?

Should I maybe specialize in cougars? Like Mrwood goes for way young ones. Ages 38 to 49 target. I'm talking to another one right now on FB dating.
 

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No matter how much good advice people on this forum give him, Biggoal will continue to make excuses for himself to take the easy way out and do nothing to change his station in life. Look at how he rationalizes in the last few posts he made. This is someone with no drive and no ambition. I won't waste another moment on someone as lazy as him. Going to skip over any post that he makes. It's all about being lazy, complaining, and then talking nonstop about dating senior citizens.
 

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No matter how much good advice people on this forum give him, Biggoal will continue to make excuses for himself to take the easy way out and do nothing to change his station in life. Look at how he rationalizes in the last few posts he made. This is someone with no drive and no ambition. I won't waste another moment on someone as lazy as him. Going to skip over any post that he makes. It's all about being lazy, complaining, and then talking nonstop about dating senior citizens.
Are you gonna ignore him? Heck even I am giving him advice and I'm a noobie.
 

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Are you gonna ignore him? Heck even I am giving him advice and I'm a noobie.
Yep. Multiple members have given him detailed instructions on how to not suck at life. He should be grateful they aren't charging him. Yet every post he makes is to tell us that he basically will continue what he's been doing. The last few posts he made with the rationalizations of fat guys getting women are just ways in which he wants to stay exactly the same. Meanwhile, you look at most fat guys - they don't get anywhere near the quality of women guys in shape get. It's also a matter of health; if he thinks being fat and unhealthy and dying earlier gets him women, let him have at it. The truth is, he will never know what it's like to be in shape and merely have to show up at a venue and women automatically hit on you. He will literally never know what that's like because he doesn't have it in him to work hard to build that. It takes years. And guys like him are of the microwave mentality - they want everything right this second with minimal effort.
 

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Yep. Multiple members have given him detailed instructions on how to not suck at life. He should be grateful they aren't charging him. Yet every post he makes is to tell us that he basically will continue what he's been doing. The last few posts he made with the rationalizations of fat guys getting women are just ways in which he wants to stay exactly the same. Meanwhile, you look at most fat guys - they don't get anywhere near the quality of women guys in shape get. It's also a matter of health; if he thinks being fat and unhealthy and dying earlier gets him women, let him have at it. The truth is, he will never know what it's like to be in shape and merely have to show up at a venue and women automatically hit on you. He will literally never know what that's like because he doesn't have it in him to work hard to build that. It takes years. And guys like him are of the microwave mentality - they want everything right this second with minimal effort.
So true
 

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All you guys talking about being buff BUT lately I notice a lot of husky and fat guys with hot women IF they have beards! A lot of overweight guys I notice are still getting decent women if they're growing a beard.
What type of sample size are you talking about? One or two guys? 50? 100? 1,000? 10,000?
 
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