It's fvcked up that you guys have to pay for the girls, even drinks and game tickets.
I'll take a guess and say I'm a bit older than you. I'm not trying to insult you, but I see women, dating, and relationships much differently than most men under the age of 35-40. I'm not saying my way is always 100% right, because it's all subjective.
If a man asks a woman out--he should pay for the date--period.
My mindset: I am the leader, the decision maker, I plan the date, I drive the date and conversation. I make sure things are flowing, lively, and she's having fun. I take care of the check too, because I can and want to. Any man in this day and age that asks a woman to split a bill—or expects it—
after asking her out is 100% of the feminine mindset. I don't need "help" with by bills and finances and don't expect it or want it. Once again,
I did the asking so I do the buying. This is Rule #1 in business and I carry it over to personal relationships too. Women today are DYING for a man who acts like a MAN. Just ask them. I lead in
all interactions. If the woman is insistent on paying or splitting a check at a bar, fine, I won't arm wrestle her. It's a nice gesture. Otherwise, I take care of it and really DGAF.
Men and women have just been way too brainwashed the past couple decades to see each other as 100% equals. In some respects they are and can be, but in other cases, wait for it...
there are differences between boys and girls. People need to get that through their head.
So, I DO NOT subscribe to the Millennial or Gen Z mindset of always being equal and/or expecting women to pay early on in a dating relationship. I've heard this before and think it's a stupid page out of some Alpha Male Want-To-Be Handbook. It would actually be emasculating for me to expect it.
Good luck to you.