How ladies make very unwise decisions when they are in the mid 30's

[RickTheToad]

A few years ago I met this lady that I will be honest, I was over the moon for. We didn't work out for one reason or another, she was 31 then. I ran into her father the other day. I said wait, you look familiar.. Aren't you, so and so's father? He said yes. Then he recognized me and was a bit ashamed (She introduced me on the second date, and I saw her mom and dad several times after that). He said sorry it didn't work out between your two. I said, it's cool, life happens. I said I hope she found what she was looking for. He said, not really. My daughter is now pregnant. I said, congrats. I am sure she and her hubby will be amazing parents. No he said.. They had an accident, my daughters BC failed because it interacted with another med she was on, he said it was antibiotics, but she was on a couple of anti-anxiety meds (I posted about her two years ago). Long story short, the dude bailed and she moved back into her parents home and they will be raising the child her. Just for sh its and giggles, I Googled her name and her expecting page popped up, it's next month. It said her name and her name are expecting (in other words, her name twice, no dude). Sad. The dude also said he felt a bit guilty in hearing that our relationship failed. He admitted, he and his wife didn't like me as much after she Google'd me and found out some sh it about me. Water under the bridge I said. Things happen for a reason. I wish all of you nothing but the best. He said, I'll mention I ran into you. I said, it's not necessary, thank you anyway though.

She had a lot going for her. teacher, teacher's pension, master's in mathematics. All down the drain. She was also I think a closet feminist and a liberal lady. Best of luck to her.. Shame.

 

[MatureDJ]

I think that it's just the sudden onset of The Wall. When you were with this gal, she hadn't quite hit the wall - but then once she hit it, she intentionally wanted to get knocked up (I think the "I was on antibiotics" excise is complete BS). In the midst of the oncoming Wall, her baby-daddy looked to be a decent genetic specimen, and that was all that mattered to her. (NOTE: I think you could have been that specimen were you to be with her at her later age.) As I am on the upper part of the century, sometimes I think I would be satisfied with knocking up some desperate but otherwise decent-genetics gal that is about to this the Wall. It would make things easier for me (NOTE: this is referring to knocking up a gal abroad, where the financial repercussions and cost of family isn't prohibitive.)

 

[MatureDJ]

She had a lot going for her. teacher, teacher's pension, master's in mathematics. All down the drain. She was also I think a closet feminist and a liberal lady. Best of luck to her.. Shame.

Are you sure it was a master's in mathematics, or a master's in education? BIG difference there!

 

[RickTheToad]

Are you sure it was a master's in mathematics, or a master's in education? BIG difference there!

Mathematics. Educationally, she was a smart chick.

I think that it's just the sudden onset of The Wall. When you were with this gal, she hadn't quite hit the wall - but then once she hit it, she intentionally wanted to get knocked up (I think the "I was on antibiotics" excise is complete BS). In the midst of the oncoming Wall, her baby-daddy looked to be a decent genetic specimen, and that was all that mattered to her. (NOTE: I think you could have been that specimen were you to be with her at her later age.) As I am on the upper part of the century, sometimes I thiI knonk I would be satisfied with knocking up some desperate but otherwise decent-genetics gal that is about to this the Wall. It would make things easier for me (NOTE: this is referring to knocking up a gal abroad, where the financial repercussions and cost of family isn't prohibitive.)

Not sure, she's only 34 now, and I doubt 3 years she fell in disrepair. Cute button face, abs like steel (marathon runner), huge natural t!ts, tight ass. Some antibiotics and anti-anxiety meds to in fact mess with BC effectiveness. It's just a weird feeling, that's all. She even has the city and State listed back where her parents live, not where she moved to after she moved out. This was the one who was still living with her parents, so we'd make out / fvck in the car in front of her house or my place. To become a single mother, voluntarily... Geez, I just do not know what to say. Now, when she gets back on to dating, she's just going to be used for pvssy and mouth practice. I guess karma is the ultimate b itch.

 

[bcude]

I'm with MatureDJ on that, that most probably wasn't an accident. It's really hard to get a kid even when you want it and there are many ways to abort mission if you f up.
Don't underestimate the power of the wall, it's very very frightening to women. I've seen it first hand and i couldn't believe how much anxiety it creates.
I mean it wouldn't be the first time i hear of someone wanting to be a parent at any cost, that drive can be much stronger than the fact of being a single parent later on. Especially in this world where single motherhood is glorified.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Really good chances it was no accident, at least a subconscious decision.

I also believe maturedj has a point, he qualified as decent genetic material and she accepted the deal after all thats what women do when looking to reproduce, they look for the best genes available wheter the guy is gonna stick around or not.

Its still a better option for them than reproducing with defective material and have the lesser stock dad to stick around, especially in welfare states where daddy is not necessary.

 

[Hal9000]

Sounds like she's doing pretty well for herself. Got her parents raising her kid, probably got the guy paying child support, she's still got her job and pension, and I'd bet just about anything she still goes out alley catting every weekend. The modem liberated female right there folks.

 

[Robert28]

Bet you her expectations are still sky high too. That is when it comes to Beta Bob, Chad doesn’t need to meet those expectations. I know many women in their mid 30’s that are still making stupid decisions as if they were still in their 20’s. One thing I’ve learned is that when the parents like you, the girl sees that as bad for whatever reason.

 

[RickTheToad]

I'm with MatureDJ on that, that most probably wasn't an accident. It's really hard to get a kid even when you want it and there are many ways to abort mission if you f up.
Don't underestimate the power of the wall, it's very very frightening to women. I've seen it first hand and i couldn't believe how much anxiety it creates.
I mean it wouldn't be the first time i hear of someone wanting to be a parent at any cost, that drive can be much stronger than the fact of being a single parent later on. Especially in this world where single motherhood is glorified.

Really good chances it was no accident, at least a subconscious decision.

I also believe maturedj has a point, he qualified as decent genetic material and she accepted the deal after all thats what women do when looking to reproduce, they look for the best genes available wheter the guy is gonna stick around or not.

Its still a better option for them than reproducing with defective material and have the lesser stock dad to stick around, especially in welfare states where daddy is not necessary.

Not sure, but as the medical resident here @ SS, I can tell you the antibiotics, mostly the fluoroquinolones and higher newer antibotics, some anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds (https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-body/is-it-safe/antidepressants-and-birth-control-pills/) have the ability to interfere with hormone type of BC. I've discussed this with the OBGYN's here multiple times. It's one of the reasons why I always recommend dudes never climax inside a lady; regardless of BC or not. It's less than a 10% chance, but still possible.

 

[RickTheToad]

Sounds like she's doing pretty well for herself. Got her parents raising her kid, probably got the guy paying child support, she's still got her job and pension, and I'd bet just about anything she still goes out alley catting every weekend. The modem liberated female right there folks.

Not sure, but since she's going to pop in less than a month, it's doubtful. I think modern acceptance with single mom's is unreal and disgusting. Here's a fun fact, her younger sister, by 2 years, was married and prego by the time we were dating. I think she felt family stress too. She mentioned it to me a few times. I just thought it was odd to think or feel that way.

Bet you her expectations are still sky high too. That is when it comes to Beta Bob, Chad doesn’t need to meet those expectations. I know many women in their mid 30’s that are still making stupid decisions as if they were still in their 20’s. One thing I’ve learned is that when the parents like you, the girl sees that as bad for whatever reason.

Yea, I would tend to agree on that. I made the same as her, and at first it was fine, then I guess she changed her mind. Or, someone changed it for her. Nonetheless, I thought it was funny that after she did her little we're not on the same page and want different things, she reached out a few days ago to try and see "how I was doing". Silence from me. I wish her nothing but the best, but I think her life is going through a tailspin right now and for the forseeable future. Her parents are 75 (dad) and 78 (mom). They are not going to be able to do much.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'm with MatureDJ on that, that most probably wasn't an accident. It's really hard to get a kid even when you want it and there are many ways to abort mission if you f up.
Don't underestimate the power of the wall, it's very very frightening to women. I've seen it first hand and i couldn't believe how much anxiety it creates.
I mean it wouldn't be the first time i hear of someone wanting to be a parent at any cost, that drive can be much stronger than the fact of being a single parent later on. Especially in this world where single motherhood is glorified.

I remember this guy who had some fat chick that was a FWB. Well, one night she decided to keep him as a friend for the next 18-3/4 years, and what do you know - an "accident" happened . Even after one kid, he was still treating her as a FWB, so she gave him a booster shot , and now he's firmly a "family man". She had always had a nice rack, but her waist has long eclipsed her rack in her measurements.

 

[bcude]

Here's a fun fact, her younger sister, by 2 years, was married and prego by the time we were dating. I think she felt family stress too.

I think this played a huge role too, especially since she was the little sister. She saw the whole process from distance and her maternal instinct kicked in combined with the famous clock, which was there when you dated her but started to tick louder and louder with every year. To believe it didn't play a role would be very naive.
Like you said in another thread. Women CAN think logically but when it's time, maternal instinct and emotions override any kind of logical reasoning whatsoever. What amazes me are the guys though, i've seen too many guys make the same idiotic irrational decisions that have lifelong consequences, because of what? Desperation.

Anyway it's so sad because it's a straight line to single motherhood and then you've the next generation of damaged children, and the cycle continues.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I actually have some input here that y’all might find interesting.

I remember talking to my sister about this concept a little while ago, about how there are periods of time in a woman’s cycle where she is more or less likely to get pregnant and how for a little while after her period she’s not able to get prego.

Well when I told her that, she said to me “Don’t believe that.” I said “Why, what do you mean?” And she said to me “Whenever a woman says that it’s okay for you to *** inside her and that she won’t get pregnant, she’s lying. That means that she wants to get pregnant.” And she basically went on to say afterwards how women will do that when they want to get pregnant by a guy. I asked why a woman would ever want to get pregnant like that though and she said “Cuz women are crazy like that.”

I remember it exactly like that, she didn’t even say “because”, she said “cuz”. These bitches know themselves lmao

 

[RickTheToad]

I think this played a huge role too, especially since she was the little sister. She saw the whole process from distance and her maternal instinct kicked in combined with the famous clock, which was there when you dated her but started to tick louder and louder with every year. To believe it didn't play a role would be very naive.
Like you said in another thread. Women CAN think logically but when it's time, maternal instinct and emotions override any kind of logical reasoning whatsoever. What amazes me are the guys though, i've seen too many guys make the same idiotic irrational decisions that have lifelong consequences, because of what? Desperation.

Anyway it's so sad because it's a straight line to single motherhood and then you've the next generation of damaged children, and the cycle continues.

No doubt dude.