Date next weekend 55 miles away. What to expect?

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If you aren’t getting flaked on, you aren’t approaching enough women.
I don't believe in a numbers game. and I think approaching blindly hundreds of girls is a waste of time.

I don't approach randomly ( romantically ) to any girl who is in my vicinity just for the sake of it.

I escalate romanticly only with women who I sense are transmitting on the same frequency as I , including on OLD. ( yea, I acted upon it bf Stormrider mention it in his posts, I just couldn't put my finger on it bf he explained it in words)

When you are both on the same frequency, ( interest, hobbies, common friends, and as such ) It's so much easier, so much smooth, the walls and the ice breaks in seconds, the attraction builds up without an effort,(if there was attraction to start with) and flakiness is almost non-exist.

Approaching an endless number of girls (Numbers game), in my opinion, is a PUA technique. A man who knows his worth won't spend his mosy expensive commodity: His time and attention, on an endless number of random girls. But each to his own.
 

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Well we met today. Overall a nice lady.

Problem is looks. She looked 7 to 7.5 on her profile pics and facebook pic, BUT in person she's a very low end HB6. Not ugly but not worth driving almost 60 miles though. Also a bit big bone frame and heavier as well compared to the pics.

Two of my last 3 OLD meetings the chick has not looked as good in person as their pics!

What is up with this? Is this common from OLD the women don't look as good as their Match or Tinder pics?

I'll admit that 49 year old teacher who's closer to me was a lot hotter and looked just like her pics. Really short though but overall very cute.

She was open to meeting again in the future, but almost a 60 mile drive is just too far for only very bottom HB6.

Oh, and she wanted to meet a bit later in the day because she was at dance class with her friends and out late last night and complained she was tired. Which she was because she looked tired and sounded it.

I stood my ground though and said I was already up there and wasn't going to wait a couple hours just walking around the fleamarket. She understood and still met me on time anyway.

She's European, nice personality, but looks wise doesn't cut it for driving 60 miles though.

On OLD when you see someone that looks like HB9 for example (very very rare in this region to ever see that though) Should you expect them to be more HB8 or 7.5 in person and heavier as well?
 

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Glad you met her OP. However, you have to know your own limits in dating. That means how far you’re willing to drive to date women. You basically wasted a lot of gas.

You have to think long term from the beginning. Do I want to drive 120 miles round trip once a week for 2 years to date this girl?
 

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Glad you met her OP. However, you have to know your own limits in dating. That means how far you’re willing to drive to date women. You basically wasted a lot of gas.

You have to think long term from the beginning. Do I want to drive 120 miles round trip once a week for 2 years to date this girl?
If she was at least an HB 8 in up possibly. I wanted to checkout the fleamarket too though.

But anyway, that is a long distance for low end HB6.

As I've stated, around here on the major OLD sites it's like a desert. Don't even see HB6s a lot on them, Even Match you can go days in my county with only seeing a landwhale or two. Not until you expand your distance to 50 miles you start seeing more, mainly to the north.

The drive back sucked too on I75 because old people driving like 60mph.

When I was on my date I did see an HB8.5 deputy picking up coffee at starbucks though. Almost distracting. Probably about 30 and HOT!
 

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Well we met today. Overall a nice lady.

Problem is looks. She looked 7 to 7.5 on her profile pics and facebook pic, BUT in person she's a very low end HB6. Not ugly but not worth driving almost 60 miles though. Also a bit big bone frame and heavier as well compared to the pics.

Two of my last 3 OLD meetings the chick has not looked as good in person as their pics!

What is up with this? Is this common from OLD the women don't look as good as their Match or Tinder pics?

I'll admit that 49 year old teacher who's closer to me was a lot hotter and looked just like her pics. Really short though but overall very cute.

She was open to meeting again in the future, but almost a 60 mile drive is just too far for only very bottom HB6.

Oh, and she wanted to meet a bit later in the day because she was at dance class with her friends and out late last night and complained she was tired. Which she was because she looked tired and sounded it.

I stood my ground though and said I was already up there and wasn't going to wait a couple hours just walking around the fleamarket. She understood and still met me on time anyway.

She's European, nice personality, but looks wise doesn't cut it for driving 60 miles though.

On OLD when you see someone that looks like HB9 for example (very very rare in this region to ever see that though) Should you expect them to be more HB8 or 7.5 in person and heavier as well?
You are way to picky and most likely playing out of your league. You need to accept that your SMV is lower then you think it is or you will never get any pVssy. Your probably a 5 thinking you deserve 9s and 10s. Find your league and play in it.

Some women use older pictures on OLD. So, when you meet them of course they don't look like there pictures. I've had that happen to me plenty of times. But, I've also had it where they show up looking better then there pictures.
 

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You are way to picky and most likely playing out of your league. You need to accept that your SMV is lower then you think it is or you will never get any pVssy. Your probably a 5 thinking you deserve 9s and 10s. Find your league and play in it.

Some women use older pictures on OLD. So, when you meet them of course they don't look like there pictures. I've had that happen to me plenty of times. But, I've also had it where they show up looking better then there pictures.
Pics might been older because she looked thinner in them, like she did cardio and such. She put on about 20lbs and had a mole on her face that is a little bigger than in the pics.

I had a couple old dates that looked better than their pics. More the weight thing and how she was noticeably more heavier in person by at least 20lbs.
 

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In southeastern countries everyone wants you to marry their daughters. Every day someone is trying to pair you up with someone who can cook, clean, and even bath you. Meanwhile in bumble fvck Florida biggoal has to travel 55 miles for a 50 year old woman.

Women are like water. And water is abundant. But if you are in a desert, you can post about water all day but it’s not going to manifest itself.


Just remember that when you are thirsty, somewhere in this world m, there are people drinking plenty of water that it becomes an afterthought.

The more you think of women as water, the more everything makes sense.

They are abundant and they are everywhere and plenty of people are drinking it. You just need to find it and get rid of your loser mentality that water is scarce.

And sitting in a desert complaining about lack of water is actually insane.
This lady was born in Hungry and lived a lot of her time in California. I will say European women seem a lot less snobby, more polite and less stuck up than North American women. Just the attitudes and such.
 

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Did I dress okay? I wore simple Calvin Klein Jean's and a Tommy Hilfiger polo shirt that says yacht club on it and Hilfiger 86 on the other side. Not big logo stuff like the Ralph Lauren shirts in the past. I still looked like a college student though the way I was dressed. Anything wrong with that for being 36?
 

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If I'm driving 60 miles to meet a woman,they better be driving 60 miles too to meet halfway. Bollocks to that. I'd rather save the fuel and have a wank.
So you had 120 mile round journey and got catfished. God love ya Biggoal ;)
 

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If I'm driving 60 miles to meet a woman,they better be driving 60 miles too to meet halfway. Bollocks to that. I'd rather save the fuel and have a wank.
So you had 120 mile round journey and got catfished. God love ya Biggoal ;)
Wasnt a catfish because it was her in the pics. She just used pics like 4 years old. Some of the pics she had was when she played volleyball when she lived in California and looked in a lot better shape.

I just had an hb7 asian like me back who's about 60 miles away. I'll message her later. She's only 40.
 

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lets see the text, or how did it go?

btw: asking women out for the "weekend?"(Saturday)... on a Tuesday is a good way to get those flakes.

good luck
I meant to ask you a bit more about this point.

So I've heard that when you ask a woman out, you want to ask her out within 1-2 days of when you contact her, preferably 1. Because women have such short attention spans these days, it'll help reduce flakes.

But how do you make this work with her schedule, especially when you're dealing with those busy women? Do you ask "When are you free?" But then she could hit you with a far out day and you end up getting flaked on. Or do you suggest two days yourself, and take a stab in the dark at her schedule?

I've also heard that you should try to hash out her schedule a bit during the approach itself.

But yeah, I'd like to hear your strategy on this. I feel like it's help bring my flake rate way down.
 

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I meant to ask you a bit more about this point.

So I've heard that when you ask a woman out, you want to ask her out within 1-2 days of when you contact her, preferably 1. Because women have such short attention spans these days, it'll help reduce flakes.

But how do you make this work with her schedule, especially when you're dealing with those busy women? Do you ask "When are you free?" But then she could hit you with a far out day and you end up getting flaked on. Or do you suggest two days yourself, and take a stab in the dark at her schedule?

I've also heard that you should try to hash out her schedule a bit during the approach itself.

But yeah, I'd like to hear your strategy on this. I feel like it's help bring my flake rate way down.
True. Especially with OLD it's hard because many of them have a busy work schedule hence they resort to OLD. Like that girl 60 miles away. She works 40 miles from her house and the traffic is intense for her commute and well so weekdays are basically no go for her.
 

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so.. meet woman on Instagram, we talk, we chat... abit. She is coming in 2 weeks to stay the weekend for our first date.
She is 40, i think... HB7+/HB8- blonde and a sexy body. @biggoal is always asking how old guy with floppy arm gets chix..

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real women really dont care what you look like... they care about how you make them feel.
 
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