Poonstra
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So my high school girl friend reached back out to me. This happened about 14-15 months ago. She emailed an organization where I did some volunteering when I was younger, and they still had my contact information so they forwarded her email to me. We decided to meet up for a couple of beers, and talked about the old days. Surprise, surprise, she was going through a divorce. Anyhow, we ended up having sex a couple of times that same night, and the next morning. The following weeks she came over once or twice a week, at which time we initiated sex immediately, and only after did other stuff.
At that time I was also banging a Brazilian girl, about whom I also posted a thread. This relationship ended in a clusterf*ck, as described in said thread. Point being, at that time I told her we shouldn't have sex anymore cause I was really hitting it of with the Brazilian girl.
Now, we didn't stop seeing each other, we kept in touch and saw each other about once every two, three weeks, on a friendly basis. She found a guy she likes and they start dating. I didn't mind, a was seeing the other girl and I wanted her to be happy. My relationship with the Brazilian girl ended this summer and the high school girlfriend and I still see each other sometimes, again, on a friendly basis. I don't have a large social circle so having access to hers was kinda the reason I kept her around. At no point did I make any move.
Fast forward to 8 weeks ago. She invited herself over to my place at midnight on a Friday, I of course knows what she is coming over for and we bang the sh!t out of each other. She said she is in love with me, finds me extremely attractive.
She is a busy girl, has her own company, has three kids. We don't see each other often, about once every 8-9 days, but when we do there is always hot rough sex. She still dates the before mentioned guy.
About two weeks ago she has a change of heart, and thinks cheating with me is no basis for continuing her relation with other guy. I tell her ok bye bye, but seeing how I kinda got the feels, I send her a text the next day telling her how I feel and that I want us to continue, but only am willing to do so if she breaks of with him. She invites me over the same evening, tells me she didn't realize how I felt and is sorry. And again got some sweet loving.
This Tuesday I spend the night again, and the next morning the other guy rings. She actually looks at her telephone screen, says "it's ****, I don't want to take this now". I ask her about it and she didn't end it with him.
One more peace of information that makes this confusing, she does let me sleep over when the kids are in the house, although not often. So they are aware, at least on some level, what we are up to. The other guy never sleeps there when kids are with her, and they only see him very rarely. On the other hand, he goes to all the official family stuff, i.e. Christmas and such.
Needless to say, this has to come to a resolution. I'm not gonna stick around with him in the picture. I really like her and enjoy spending time with her and her kids. And I don't want to lose her, but I also need to protect myself from some serious heart ache. I rather end it now then in three months. How do I come out on top of this one? Or is it lost? Or should I dump her seeing how she cheated on both her then husband, and now boy friend (even tho it was me she cheated with)? I already gave her an ultimatum, do I repeat and enforce? Or say nothing and make myself scarce and create a distance. What do you guys advise?
At that time I was also banging a Brazilian girl, about whom I also posted a thread. This relationship ended in a clusterf*ck, as described in said thread. Point being, at that time I told her we shouldn't have sex anymore cause I was really hitting it of with the Brazilian girl.
Now, we didn't stop seeing each other, we kept in touch and saw each other about once every two, three weeks, on a friendly basis. She found a guy she likes and they start dating. I didn't mind, a was seeing the other girl and I wanted her to be happy. My relationship with the Brazilian girl ended this summer and the high school girlfriend and I still see each other sometimes, again, on a friendly basis. I don't have a large social circle so having access to hers was kinda the reason I kept her around. At no point did I make any move.
Fast forward to 8 weeks ago. She invited herself over to my place at midnight on a Friday, I of course knows what she is coming over for and we bang the sh!t out of each other. She said she is in love with me, finds me extremely attractive.
She is a busy girl, has her own company, has three kids. We don't see each other often, about once every 8-9 days, but when we do there is always hot rough sex. She still dates the before mentioned guy.
About two weeks ago she has a change of heart, and thinks cheating with me is no basis for continuing her relation with other guy. I tell her ok bye bye, but seeing how I kinda got the feels, I send her a text the next day telling her how I feel and that I want us to continue, but only am willing to do so if she breaks of with him. She invites me over the same evening, tells me she didn't realize how I felt and is sorry. And again got some sweet loving.
This Tuesday I spend the night again, and the next morning the other guy rings. She actually looks at her telephone screen, says "it's ****, I don't want to take this now". I ask her about it and she didn't end it with him.
One more peace of information that makes this confusing, she does let me sleep over when the kids are in the house, although not often. So they are aware, at least on some level, what we are up to. The other guy never sleeps there when kids are with her, and they only see him very rarely. On the other hand, he goes to all the official family stuff, i.e. Christmas and such.
Needless to say, this has to come to a resolution. I'm not gonna stick around with him in the picture. I really like her and enjoy spending time with her and her kids. And I don't want to lose her, but I also need to protect myself from some serious heart ache. I rather end it now then in three months. How do I come out on top of this one? Or is it lost? Or should I dump her seeing how she cheated on both her then husband, and now boy friend (even tho it was me she cheated with)? I already gave her an ultimatum, do I repeat and enforce? Or say nothing and make myself scarce and create a distance. What do you guys advise?