@stormrider
My experiences are similar. A few months back I took a solo trip and posted on a forum asking for places to stop. A 19 yo girl messaged me out of the blue and wanted to come with on the trip as she was going to be in the same area at the same time(funny because it was a solo travel forum). She turned out to be a solid 9 yoga free spirit girl. I met her in person the same day I touched down and we were fvcking around within a couple hours of being in the car together. She actually busted out a bunch of condoms and said she sensed the BDE on me when we were video chatting when planning the logistics of meeting up. we had an amazing sex filled road trip. Friends of mine in the area reached out and we had a free place to stay every night. At one point I dropped acid with her(her first time) then drove through beautiful scenery as she blew me. It was as if the universe knew exactly what I needed to break old spells and limiting mindsets that had developed in a toxic relationship.
You're absolutely right that when a woman encounters a man that is on the IN there's a vibe that manifests effortlessly and she is suddenly down for anything, a fun deviant, because she also understands the uninhibited fearless form of universal love, and just how easy and fun it is. i know exactly the eye contact you're talking about. as if she knows that i don't play the game like every other guy, that i don't fear losing anything because i freely give, so she jumps straight to the fun stuff and being care free. I've had this time and time again in my life. We should make a thread where we share our stories to help inspire all men here.
I think in moments of weakness a man can fall for the Disney trap as I did, and it can be a very sticky trap to get out of. a place of fear and lack and paranoia that rationalizes all doubts as legitimate that fuel a nasty cycle. I appreciate you helping me remember the uninhibited mindset with your posts.
@BeExcellent
a willingness to trust oneself, very true. i think people are very fearful of their own potential, their own power, and understandably so, we are extremely powerful. they fear making mistakes, or that they won't be able to control themselves. but the alternative state of sedation, hesitation, and lack are terrible. the more time they hesitate or shelter themselves from their truth of complete self-ownership the more they forget that state of complete accountability/control and as a result bliss even exists. i think posters on this forum that come from a place of hate in this discussion(and others) are a testament to that confusion and ignorance.
And that is a wonderful quote, you are a gem and i'm grateful for your input.
@guru1000
i agree with you completely from my own personal experiences. that confident yet vulnerable giving state is what blasts through any woman's armor as if it's not there and polarizes them. it's as if looking into their soul and saying 'do you know this state too?'. some women are lost and fearful and will cower away, they have either never felt the state or have neglected it so long they've completely forgotten it(they cease to exist as you put it). others will have forgotten but you remind them and they burst into joy. yet others recognize it instantly and fly into your arms like a magnet, happy to indulge without hang ups of any kind, in full understanding that we're all here to love each other(on the same higher wavelength).
'power is silent as it requires no affirmation outside of itself.' this lines up with all that we've been talking about. i am making the italian kissy fingers gesture when i read some of your posts. the questions that i was going to ask you have been answered by your subsequent posts in this thread. your advice has also been invaluable as i've been on multiple dates in the last few days and am slowly rediscovering the joy i am capable of bringing to these women's lives, and everyone around me for that matter.
rather than seek personal relevance to seek to be of relevant use, beautifully said. if i understand correctly you mean to say rather than simply working for a paycheck to get by the person throws themselves into their work to benefit as many people at the company and as many clients as possible. the same with eating, rather than simply eat whatever this person throws themselves into achieving optimal nutrition and absorbing/exuding as much knowledge and inspiration around the topic as possible. the same with exercise, not only doing it when absolutely necessary but throwing themselves into achieving optimal performance or aesthetic to again grow, network, and inspire. this is a lovely philosophy. i've read some stoicism literature and this fits well with it. and this may sound strange but i've also had visions that allude to this being the meaning of life. to push ourselves in all our endeavors to 110%, as that's how we experience the richest layers of reality and ultimately grow the most. 'richest' is of course relative since there are an infinite number of layers to reality, but how pleasant to know that the only limit is ourselves, and not the environment.
@Spaz
imo you haven't provided any value in this thread and only make demands while belittling people. why do you fear giving us your genuine opinion on the topic at hand? guru has already given a definition for ego multiple times, what are you REALLY asking for?